How to give a good handjob. Better than the first time?

[Girl15]

OK so three days ago I gave my boyfriend a handjob. And it was my first time and he's to from a girl sense we are both virgins. So it makes me feel more comfortable. And he said I was good. But next time when I do it to him I want it to be amazing. Because I told him I felt like I was bad and he said no you weren't. So I want to do it again he wants me to do it again too. But I'm not going to give him a bj because I told him I wasn't comfortable with that. by the way he also said he can wait for months if I don't want to do it because he loves me. and I love him. :) we have been together for 6 months. And this is our first time doing something like that we mainly just kissed for those 5 months.

[cindys]

Handjobs are just lame, better do something like this: First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.

It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.

Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.

Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.

A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.

When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.

Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.

Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.

Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually

[bigboi38]

WOW that was hot LOL. Totally got turned on to this answer

[usagichan]

Basics in Handjobs 101:

1) Moisture. If possible, keep your hand as wet as possible. I won't suggest water... saliva or lube is best. Licking your fingers is also a great visual for him to enjoy.

2) Vary your pressure. Light and soft, hard and grippy... You'll want to keep the sensations interesting and varied, until I'd estimate about a minute or two before he finishes. Then keep a medium-grip and go to town.

2a) This goes along with pressure. Several kinds of grips. A) The Death Grip. We're talking clamping down on it like you're swinging at a baseball. Not recommended: use sparingly. B) The Handlebar Grip. Think of when you're riding your bike casually down the street. Are you squeezing hard on your handlebars? No, you're touching with some pressure but not holding on for dear life. A good middle range grip. C) The Feather Touch. Self-explinatory.

3) Speed. Fast, slow, fast slow. Variation is the spice of life.

4) Enjoyment. (Hopefully) it's important to him that you enjoy the experience. So... enjoy yourself. If you lean towards dirty talk, do that. If not, moan when the mood moves you, shoot him flirty smiles you get the idea.

[Just2DangNice]

stick mostly to a medium grip. and 3^^ is right. mix it up

[Anonymous]

Hand job...just grip it hard, firm, up and down. In fast motion but remember you have to put more pressure on it like he is in the girl vagina.

[ncsquirll99]

coming from a guy that knows... trust me.. There are SOoooo many things you can to to make it amazing even without going into BJ territory. There is no list but a few things to keep in mind that many are leaving out.

1. make it last a while. The longer the build up the greater climax he will have. Don't start with the end in mind, think about the journey.. so how do you do that? read on...

2. The penis is the best part but do not just focus on that. a guys sack can be wayy more sensitive. Be sure to occassionally move away from just stroking the shaft to giving attention to the balls, also paying attention to the back side of the and the sides of the thighs around. use really light touches and be carefully not to appply to much pressure if you're playing with his sack.

3. Use a light grip and slow pressure at first and don't ignore kissing him and his chest/ other regions he likes. Only when you think he is built up and ready, and youve made him wait do you want to start increasing the grip (not hard) and the speed (make sure not to chaffe.. infact you may ever consider spitting or using a lube to help.)

4. And finally keep going throughout climax but with less pressure and speed. "milk" it out to make sure he completely finishes but during ejaculation it can get sure sensitive so make sure he enjoys it.

you can be amazing in bed just with your hands and a bit of know how. lemme know how this works for you and if you need any other tips.

[Just2DangNice]

to get the most pleasure to him. firmly grasp the base and work it from there. depending on how fast you want him to cum, just either go slow or fast. but never too slow, or you won't be doing anything really. try to keep the motions in straight lines. "dont bend". if you can and want to use two hands, spit on the head so as not to chafe it with your hand. Hope that helps. its what I told my girl when she asked me how she could do things better.

oh, and if you still feel like your not doing a good enough job, just ask him (after your second time in the matter)

[nothingtosee]

Oh I love that question. There are several suggestions.

1. Ask him to show you so you can practice on him. The idea of you asking to teach him makes for a very hot scenario.

2. Me, I love handjobs, especially if she decided to be dominate when she does it. For example, I once had a girlfriend who (when she decided she wanted to be dominate, that night) would order me to lay down, on my back, legs spread wide while she gave me a handjob, but there were rules I had to follow. 1. I was not allowed to move or make a sound until I began squirting cum. If I broke ANY of those two rules I would receive a punishment. The punishment would be one of two things. 1. I had to spend the next three nights performing oral sex on her as many times as she wanted and I wasn't allowed to have an orgasm, or 2: I had to eat my cum.

She would then proceed by running her fingertips (with a very light touch) all over and around my balls. As she did that, she would then run one of her fingertips slowly up my shaft, going very slow, with a very light touch. Once she reached the head, she would spend some time very lightly running her fingertip all over and around the tip. Then, she would stroke my cock with a very light touch, stroking me slowly. Sometimes stroking my entire shaft, sometimes just the tip.

All this would just drive me crazy! I wanted to tell her to stroke me harder and faster, but I knew what would happen if I said a word or moved an inch. I had to just lie there and take her torture. What made it worse was when I was about to cum. As my cock would begin to pulsate and throb, she would often times stop for a few seconds and then continue, sometimes she would continue to stroke me with that light touch knowing I was about to cum. The whole time I kept thinking to myself, "Well, performing oral sex on her for three nights in a row, any time she wanted, as often as she wanted wouldn't be so bad! But, then again, it means I wouldn't be allowed to have an orgasm on those nights." If (before starting to give me a handjob) she insisted that if I broke any of those two rules, I would be punished by having to eat my cum, then I would find myself thinking, "Fuck! I don't want to eat my cum! I'm not sure if I can keep still. Fuck!!!". What made that option even naughtier is, as I neared my orgasm, she would make comments like, "Mmmmm you're thinking about it, aren't ya? You're thinking about how hot it's going to be to eat your cum, aren't ya? I know, I can tell. You're cock is rock hard, and you're about to cum. Why else would you cock be rock hard and ready to cum if you weren't thinking about how hot it's going to be to eat your cum, while I watch!!!"

When I finally came, it was always SO intense!!! Lying still, not making a sound as she slowly brought me over the edge always made my orgasm so intense! Sometimes I couldn't keep still. I would then either spend the next three nights performing oral sex on her anytime she wanted, as often as she wanted, and I wasn't allowed to fuck her or have an orgasm, or I had to eat my cum, ALL of it.

I must admit, having to perform oral sex on her for three nights in a row was really hot! It meant the sex was all about her, and I could tell she REALLY enjoyed it. I can't begin to tell you how many times I almost had an orgasm while licking her as she was experiencing an orgasm. I loved how she would suddenly and unexpectedly tell me to stop what I was doing and lick her, right now!

Anyway, I hope my suggestions help. I would love to hear what you do now. If you're interested in telling me, or asking me any questions, feel free to write me at nothingtosee@yahoo. com

[phenixblack]

lol your not going to be a pro by the second hand job just do what you won't and don't be pressured to much

[MarinaS]

Handjobs are great if you wanna please your guy quickly. I have given quite a lot of them lol and believe me you can't be bad at it, guys like of girls to paly with their members. Just remember one thing, when he's about to cum, don't stop :)

[rotinaj10]

That's a common mistake girls make, stopping too soon. Good advice. :)

[Anonymous]

Interesting that you said you wanted to give him a handjob again, then that you weren't ready to give him a blow job, then that your choice for best answer is all about giving a blow job, then that you come back with a question a month later saying that not only have you not given him another hand job, but you didn't know why he wanted one.

So what's your story?