Condom broke...what to do now??

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I were having sex and the condom broke just before I came and neither of us realized it. She is at her most fertile point of the month too. But she doesn't want to take the morning after pill because she has already taken it a few times before and she thinks that taking it too many times will ruin her chances to get pregnant in the future. So what should we do? She doesn't seem to be as worried about it as I am. She says "lets just wait and see what happens"... but then that leaves two options abortion or kid, right? Any advice would be much appreciated.

[heatherlu]

She should do less thinking and more trying to find out the facts.

If I was you, I'd be worried about how unconcerned she seems about the entire thing. I'm not an expert but I've never heard anything in terms of proof, or evidence, that taking the morning after pill will cause infertility.

And I'm guessing it will only become a problem (if it even exists as a problem) when there's excessive use, not just a couple of times previously.

Consult a doctor and ask what they think is the best step to take - I'm pretty sure they'll suggest a morning after pill unless now of course it is too late.

But you can't force her to do anything. If it's too late for action now, I guess you have to sit tight until she can do a pregnancy test. As it stands there are still three possibilities. Abortion. Kid. Or not pregnant.

There's no point worrying too much until you no for certain you have to.

[Asker]

We would still have time to take it, I'm not going to force her to anything and she made it clear she was not going to take the morning after pill. I guess she has taken the pill 2 times before I guess years ago so I'm sure she will be fine but its her body so I can't do anything.

[Travesty]

It's her body, but it's both of your lives. Having a baby changes your life completely. Leaving the decion of whether that will happen or not up to chance because she's making a decision that is not based AT ALL in reality is incredibly dumb. A baby is something you should have a well-laid plan for. You owe it to the child to have that. With the technology and medical advancements we have, there should be no unwanted children. About the only reason for them is irresponsibility and stupidity.

[heatherlu]

Yeah - I'd suggest asking her to go see the doctor - and maybe see what they would suggest for you two. And maybe she'd be inclined to listen to the advice of a professional.

[Aries11w]

2 things worry me about this 1) The fact that she's not concerned whether she gets pregnant or not 2) how many morning pills has she taken?! If it's a regular occurance then she needs to go on some other type of contraception, morning afet pill shouldn't be used as regular contraception.

Talk to her, tell her you are not ready to take the chance that she is pregnant (because it effects you too) and talk about other forms of contraception for future.

[genevieve]

with abortions the risk of not being able to get pregnant in the future is higher than with the moring after pill, so unless she doesn't want a kid, it'd be better to take it. It is medication of course and comes as almost every pill, with a huge list of possible side effects.

Did you use any other kind of birth control? it seems weird to me that she's not concerned about wether she's pregnant or not.

[Asker]

No other forms< condoms have always worked great never had a problem with them in the past...Yea she did seem a little worried but kinda was like "oh well I guess we will just have to wait and see" I don't think there is any convincing her to take "plan b" she seemed pretty sure that was not going to happen.

[xXx_SeCrEt_LOL_xXx]

It seems like she is in denial and doesn't want to face the facts.

[jacquesvol]

The morning after pill will still probably be the best solution, if her obgyn is OK with it. (since she is repeating it, this time she should ask his advice: he will know best)

OK, another MAP may have side effects but a baby will have MANY more, an abortion too. Better to be feeling bad by the MAP during a short time than teen mother.

If she's too late for Plan B, then there's Ulipristal acetate : it can be used with success up to 5 days later: link I think it's a prescription drug branded 'ELLA' (in Europe it's sold under the brand name 'EllaOne' )

link

Read Wikipedia: link

Success.

[Travesty]

She's an idiot. The morning after pill is less dangerous than regular birth control. It's been in use for over 30 years in one form or another. Have you EVER heard of any lawsuit or long term effect from it? No.

There is literally 0 risk of it affecting her ability to get pregnant in the future.

And yeah, not taking it and her ending up pregnant leaves abortion or a kid as the only options. Get her to take it, period.

[saphirasilverwings]

I think it is probably safe for her to take the morning after pill again as long as it has been a decent amount of time since she took it the last time. It would be good to ask a doctor about that. But the bottom line is that you have to choose whether to risk being pregnant now, or risk not being pregnant in the future. Personally I think that an unplanned pregnancy would be much more stressful and upsetting.

[saphirasilverwings]

Also, I'm sure this mishap has already made you aware, but you should be more careful in the future by using multiple kinds of birth control.

[amanda32]

Oh man...

That sucks but don't let her take the Plan B

It increases cancer risks and all kinds of things. Not good for you!

Let's just say you f***ed up dude...

best of luck though

[Travesty]

It increases cancer risks according to who? Any proof or data you have of that?

[amanda32]

ya google it

[Travesty]

I have, and I did. The only people I see making those claims are conservative or religious groups.

[jacquesvol]

Igoogled:

Is Plan B 'Unsafe'?

Current Research Does Not Support Fears Of Day-After Pill Dangers: link

The rest is forum chit chat and a blog, B.S. thus.

[amanda32]

It increases risks of breast cancer...

link

[Travesty]

That is an insanely bias group. That was one of the first links I found and there is zero legitimate proof on that site to support their claims.

[amanda32]

okay and your point is? Does it not say that it was clinically proven? What are you trying to get at... if you don't like my answer I don't really care

[Travesty]

It can say it's clinically proven all it wants. That doesn't make it true. I can say cheetos cure cancer. That's an anti-abortion group. They don't present any facts. The reason I'm getting on your answer is because I'm aware that there's not actually any data to back up your claim, which makes your answer bullsh*t and uninformed, which I don't like.

[amanda32]

I'm not here to please you. So therefore I don't give a f*** if you like my answer or not. The Plan B pill is not good for you. Nuff said

[Travesty]

I'm not looking to be pleased by you lol. I'm looking to correct your information so other people reading it don't listen to BS.

[Corset]

Yea I'm not completely sure about the side effects of Plan B/ the morning after pill, I would think that too though. If your both unsure, go to the health clinic together and find out your options. She's right to stay clam as so should you, you don't even know if she's pregnant yet.

[elizabeth24]

take a pregnancy test later. she should of been using more protection then just a condom. So you have to wait to figure out what is happen next

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

the plan b is cheper than an abortion or just google herbs that lead to a natural miscariage

[jacquesvol]

"herbs that lead to a natural miscariage" That's irresponsible! I STRONGLY advise AGAINST that kind of backdoor abortions. The risk of poisoning herself is way bigger than taking the MAP once more!

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Ive done it and I'm still alive

[billme1070]

Duct tape it.