He went soft during sex?

I slept with my boyfriend for the first time the other day but he went soft half way through. We tried again later but the same thing happened, he said its never happened before. Do you know why this happened, and if I can prevent it from happening next time?
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  • He was nervous or stressed. There's nothing you can really do except to NOT put any pressure on him and NOT be bothered by it if it happens again, at least, not to his face.

    This is a fairly common problem some guys have with a new partner that they aren't yet comfortable with. They get anxious, and then they have trouble concentrating and enjoying what's going on.

    The good thing is that it generally goes away on its own, as the guy gets more comfortable with the girl, so do what you can to make him comfortable, and not anxious or self-conscious around you, and the rest is up to him.

  • very common for a guy when he's with someone new. first of all, it's not at all a reflection of how turned on he is or how into you he is. it's just performance anxiety. so just don't make a big deal out of it and have fun, do other things for a while, and soon it was all "work".

    • I started having trouble getting and maintaining an election so asked my friend about the problem. He adviced V*agra. He said just search in Google for this keyword: * VCLGET4ED * 👍 to get it quick and a way cheaper w/out rx. So it works great 😀. One hour after taking 50mg I get a beautiful erection, sensitivity is good, climax is wonderful. My girlfriend loves it and climaxes every time, sometimes twice.

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  • happens all the time. Sometimes it's an actual medical problem, but more often it's just anxiety, fatigue, or getting too hot

  • he was probably just nervous. Don't give him a hard time about it, he's probably embarrassed and wondering himself. Just give it time, he might be going through some emotional stuff. The best way to overcome that is to be supportive, next time make sure he's really really turned on before you have sex.

  • if he is like 80 years old tell him to try viagra

  • Some busy emotional state. But if you didn't use foreplay to get him hard, he may not have had enough arousal to stay hard and maybe got self conscious when he was losing it and knew he wasn't going to come.

    You may need to retrain him. One thing is a therapeutic BJ where he does nothing except receive pleasure and ejaculate. Probably will work. Next time, blow him to 90% and then mount up for an aggressive fvck to make him come in you. This won't give you much pleasure but will get him believing he will always come one way or the other with you. As his confidence builds, you can expect a normal fvck where you come as well. If you cant, then you get the therapeutic lick from him.