How hard to suck when giving a blow job and?

[Anonymous]

I given a few now to my boyfriend and think I'm doing a good job, but just want some clarification on a few things and also suggestions on how to make it even better. you don't have to answer every single question first, how hard do you want us to suck? I feel like I shouldn't suck too hard or it might hurt him. Also, are there any moves I can do to sort of slow down the pace to help him last a little longer? he's usually done in like 5ish min because I go at it hard/fast, but if I were a little gentler at first would it still feel good without pushing you to the edge too quickly? What on earth do you want me to do with your balls? What position is the most satisfying to receive oral in? do you like when a girl talks dirty to you while sucking you off or would you rather her mouth be preoccupied with your d*** the whole time? Also I've heard its a turn on for a girl to look up and make eye contat with the guy... why is that such a turn on? do you ever want to come anywhere other than her mouth? how long after you start cumming should we keep stroking and sucking you before it doesn't feel good anymore. would you be comfortable with kissing her after or would that gross you out?

[ManFromHat]

Don't suck too hard.

Most of you girls out there have absolutely no idea why it's important to give your man great oral sex, as often as possible. The reason is simple - your man will love you, adore you, and be a billion times more cooperative with you with everything. With the children, with helping out in the house - he'll be calm as a baby, relaxed, satisfied - he won't have the need to look at other women, run around - he'll be happy and satisfied. In love with you, turned on by you - wanting YOU, since he'll know that you're one of the few women that knows how to give perfect oral. Most women don't know how to do it properly - so all you really need is to be above average. Which isn't that hard once you think about it.

What is average? And who the hell am I to determine what "average" is. I'm Jack. The guy that received head from more women that I can remember. The "average" is taken from those experiences. But enough about me, back to "averageness".

Women with average oral sex skills:

• have a strange look on their face while giving head, as if they are confused, deep down in their head they are thinking, and thinking and thinking... "am I doing it right?", "does he like it?", "do I look stupid from up there?", "why didn't he come yet?", "oh, what if I scratch him", "I tastes strange". And all that sort of crap. If you're thinking more than you're "feeling" while giving head - you're probably average. Or worse. A lot of you are below average actually. So the average in general is low. Most of you are miserable. So instead of tackling the problem and trying to solve it - by getting equipped with the right information and practicing - you just EVADE doing it at all. Which is even worse.

• you don't have a "feeling" or love for what you are doing. You're just doing it ‘cause you think "I should be doing it I guess", or because it's a god damn "anniversary" - if that's the reason you're giving him oral, then you are most likely crap at it.

• you view the whole thing as WORK, as a "job", instead of something pleasureable for both of you. you put it as if he was owning you something, or you're acting like a feminist

• you don't let him come in your mouth, let alone swallow

• you have absolutely no idea when to stroke faster, harder, how to stroke, how to suck, where to lick, why to lick it there, what to say, how to say it, how to turn him on, you are just "sucking away" and hoping he'll come so your neck stops hurting. you're making this face as if someone was forcing you to do it, torturing you, chocking you to death basically

That's basically how average women give oral, or they don't give it at all. If you want to learn how to give amazing blow job, read Jack's Blowjob Lessons, the best bj guide ever!

[Quadrophonic84]

It's not about sucking too much, maybe just on the tip. What I enjoy is the up/down sensation of my c*ck in her mouth, it feels like sex with with a different body part than a vagina. Sometimes I enjoy it more than vaginal sex too. As far hard/fast, lots of guys like that but honestly I like a steady gentle pace. It gets me super turned on to see her and feel her taking her time. Each stroke brings me just a bit closer to the edge. It's very erotic. Balls are for cupping, playing with, gently fondling, and kissing/sucking/licking if you're into that. Whatever you do, do it gently. I have two favorite positions for oral. One is sitting on a couch with her next to me, head in my lap with my hand on her butt (similar to the position for road head) and the other is sitting in any chair and having her get on her knees. It's very erotic, like she's serving me. It makes me feel like the luckiest guy in the world when a woman sits me down and kneels in front me like that. Also, laying on my back in bed and having her work on me that way is great too. Dirty talk is great during sex but you're right, the mouth has better things to do during a blow job. Yes, I love eye contact, and when she makes happy expressions (you can smile with your eyes). Let ms know she likes what she's doing and is happy to see me happy. I love coming in her mouth most of the time but it's really hot when a woman stops and tells me "I want you to come on my face" or takes her shirt and bra off so she can get my come all over her t*ts. As for how long to keep stroking, you'll notice he gets all tense when he comes. The intensity of the orgasm is over before he starts relaxing from that. Once he's finished ejaculating you can just start slowing down gradually and then stop. Just make sure he's not too sensitive. I've been with girls who would overstimulate me a bit. Just be gentle once the orgasm has subsided. Of course I'll kiss a girl after she blows me. She just blew me.

[Anonymous]

How hard do they want us to suck?

-Not too hard, but enough that they feel it at a steady pace.

What will make him last longer?

-Don't start out fast. Take your time as if you are teasing him. Some guys find it attractive if you use your tongue to lick up and down the sides of their penis. Start out slow and by barely sucking the head of it, and then slowly take more and more into your mouth. Whatever you do, never use your teeth--no matter how hard he says he wants it. LOL.

[Longshot]

Don't suck hard. Don't use teeth. Keep it sensual.

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[Bricealan]

Try this. A blind date did this for me. She put her lips just over the "rim" of the head, and then began to suck, just the 'head" and it was GREAT. She didn't use her hand and did not go up and down with her lips. She just put a lot of suction on the head.

[Anonymous]

1. Suck gently at first, only suck hard when he's close to orgasm. Also, alternate sucking and licking his d***.

2. You can ignore my balls. I don't want anything done to them.

3. Pretty much any position is good so long as I'm comfortable. No contortionism please!**

4. Dirty talk can be nice if she's good at it. If she's not good at it, it's pointless.

5. Yes, it is a huge turn on. Don't know why, it just is.

6. Me, personally, no. Some guys might like to go for a facial or something, but I prefer stimulation all the way.

6. No more than 10 seconds afterwards.

7. Not too comfortable with kissing her right after unless she rinses her mouth out.

8. This has been said before - NO TEETH. Teeth are painful.

**There is one caveat to this. This is strictly personal, I suppose, but if the girl has a nice ass, I like to have it done sitting down with her on her knees and a mirror opposite me. Seeing her ass bob up and down while she's blowing me is a huge turn on for me.