ARABS! I'm a black girl who is really interested in Arab guys, but I've been told not to pursue them...

[Anonymous]

Ever since I dated this Kuwaiti guy, and he was so attractive and respectful yet macho but not too macho like "Me Tarzan, you Jane!" kinda macho...but very manly and in control yet so sweet and loving and attentive! I think it was an overall cultural difference! I know assholes come in every ethnicity, just saying...and omg ever since I was exposed to all of his hot Arabic friends! Lawwd! Panties.off lol Jk jk! It was more acceptable for the Kuwaiti guy I dated to date me because his mother is African ,Canadian, and Hispanic and his father is half Hispanic and half Kuwaiti. I was thinking it may have been less acceptable if he was full Kuwaiti. I have a black friend who dated a Persian guy and she claimed he wouldn't take her seriously because she was black. No offense, but I think it was more because she presented herself as a whore, or maybe I'm just in denial lol Arabic guys are hot damn it! They look good okay! Well…like 98% of them. Plus I’ve noticed the guys are usually so respectful and I’m very intrigued by the culture. I’ve been told by an Arabic female friend of mine to stay away from Arab guys. She says not to trust them because she’s heard of them coming to America, just using American girls for sex, then marrying a Muslim virgin :/ (way to burst my bubble lol). I’ve heard of that before though. Idk…it’s pretty discouraging! Have you seen or do you know of any Arab male/Black female couples? Would they be interested in us for more than sex? I’m a virgin by the way, I’ve only been kissed by a guy and made out. That’s it. Please share any other helpful info! I’d really appreciate it! Thanks in advance! :D

[l-hedoniste]

Traditionally, Arab men and women don't socialize together. In fact, it's a bad idea for an Arab women to be seen unaccompanied with a male who isn't family. So there's no way for an Arab man to socialize with you in a way that's acceptable to his peers.

If you find a broad-minded, nontraditional guy, you'd have a shot. (Most of my dealings with Muslim women have begun in classrooms.) You could also look for guys from less severe Muslim countries such as the UAE or Jordan; they may not have the same regard for the gender code as, say, a Saudi or a Yemeni.

Observant Muslims don't drink, so they're not in bars and clubs, but I don't see you being welcome in a men's tearoom, either--Arab public spaces tend to be sex-segregated.

If the Arabs are non-Muslim, you're home free; Lebanon, Jordan, Palestine and Egypt have substantial Christian populations. (Ever thought about joining the Coptic Orthodox Church? Founded in the fifth century, it's the largest Christian denomination in Egypt.) If they have socialist leanings they're more likely to be atheist. They're also, however, likely to be socialists, so you'll have to decide whether that's your cup of tea.

Keep us posted on how it works. I'd be curious.

[Asker]

Hmmm that's interesting. Well the Kuwaiti guy I dated and his friends sure did contradict that post! lol I think the very strict, self limiting culture made them more prone to do some of those things. Like the guy I dated told me about how he used to drink at college parties, but he doesn't anymore and he hates it because he says it's nasty and he doesn't like not being able to remember things. I'm prety sure he only did it because it's been like forbidden fruit for him. He and his friends...

[Asker]

were always in the club! They learned how to break dance when they first came here! :D As a smart way to break cultural boundaries in a way. There have been so many times when I went to the club and there was a group of Arab guys break dancing! I know he had a girlfriend back in Kuwait that was secret because guys and girls aren't supposed to socialize. So maybe you're referring to the way Arab men behave in the Middle East?

[l-hedoniste]

"So maybe you're referring to the way Arab men behave in the Middle East?" That's exactly what I'm referring to, also Arab neighborhoods here. If they decide to fall into our melting pot, all bets are off and nothing I said applies. To be honest, it's why they're here; you might be the last black woman they meet in their lives, so show them a time, okay?

[G_GTom]

If you're interested in them, move there and enjoy all their culture has to offer.

[Asker]

...lets not get crazy here. lol umm...yeah...no. I mean maybe...possibly...if I fall madly in love with one, marry him, and have his kids, we'll visit. But the culture is way too strict there. I'm way too much of a free spirit!

[Asker]

I don't know how life in the middle east would be for a black woman especially when it comes to jobs. Plus no offense...but I'm not about to end up like Sally Field in 'Not Without my Daughter!"

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[Camillastill94]

Arab muslim men will mess around with American and non muslim girls but when it time for their parents to tell them to get married they will go for the muslim virgin. Trust me I am muslim and have 7 brothers and they are all like that. It's also just religion it's not haram
(Can not do) to marry a non muslim girl but it's looked down upon and shamed by the family, it will give the family a bad name. In the end it goes down to what the family says and they will always say the muslim girl

[Anonymous]

Hmm, I've rarely seen any black girl arab guy couples; They keep strictly to themselves unless they are really Americanized - even then it's rare. But I'm sure there are several Arab men out there who would happily date a black women. You just have to find them lol

Every guy is different; some Arab men may just want sex, some may want a relationship - just depends on him.

But you sound like a great girl, so you'll bump into your Arabic romeo soon enough ;)

[Asker]

I hope so! lol he needs to hurry up and get here! :D

[Opinion Owner]

Lol he's probably on his now XD

[Asker]

Woo hoo! <3