Sex is absolutely disgusting and horrible! I can't believe I even did it.

[Anonymous]

Ok, well I am a 21 year old woman and I did the most stupid thing. I had sex with my boyfriend. I feel so disgusting and ashamed. I have always hated sex, and this has just made my hate even stronger! It's awful! Worse then I expected. Yuck! How can girls let that happen to their bodies? :S I want to wash myself all over in bleach because I feel so dirty! And I'm so embarrassed that I even had sex and let someone see me naked like that! What was I thinking? It didn't even feel good, it was awful! painful, embarrassing, awkward and disgusting.

[LaLa19Inu7]

Okay..so you were pressured into sex?.let me repeat this: YOU WERE PRESSURED INTO SEX. I don't think most people would enjoy something they are pressured into. And why would you do something you feel gross about? If you find cockroaches gross would you pick one up and stroke it even if someone told you too? Probably not..right? So why did you have sex if you not only were grossed out by it but were not ready for it?

Next time you get in a relationship: TALK TO YOUR DAMN PARTNER ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT SEX DAMMIT! And don't you dare have sex again if you are not ready. I MEAN IT! >.<

And don't let this one experience stop you from falling madly in love with someone else and having wonderful sex one day. Good God you are only 21...geez...it is not the end of it all..you have your whole life ahead of you! And if you didn't even know that sex was going to be painful...you had no business doing it!

If you let this one experience stop you from ever doing it again that is like never leaving your house again just because you had one accident outside.

And another thing: having sex because YOU WANT TO is very different from having sex when YOU DON'T WANT TO. Be smart next time. ciao girl.

Did you talk to this boyfriend after you guys had sex? And also if he pressured you...then he's an ass...I'm just saying...he must not care about how you feel.

Wow...I'm so happy I am not having sex any time soon (I'm 19). This is ridiculous. No wonder you feel awful...why do people let peer pressure get to them? You should do what YOU WANT. It is your life isn't it? DON'T YOU EVER DO THIS AGAIN IF YOU AREN'T READY! psh...ridiculous.

Before you even deal with your "sex" issues...you need to have some "me" time. Like: why did you give in to peer pressure? -_-

[Osman712]

Wrong, you dumbshit. She wasn't pressured into sex. So no need to write a fucking essay on the concept or communication in a relationship. This is just a girl on one of the dumbest websites ever conceived who has issues. Christ, a girl feels icky and we're talking about borderline rape. How incredibly stupid.

[JustSayinn]

If that was your first time then it probably wasn't that pleasureable. I know for me it took a few times before it really felt comfortable, also I PERSONALLY feel its disgusting if you don't love that person, I know its probably just me out of the billions of people on this earth haha, but I just don't like it unless I truly care, trust and love the guy, I just don't it doesn't work out for me and it just grosses me out too. So maybe you got caught up in the moment? I don't know, but I don't think you should hate sex, because its a natural thing that can be very good, but maybe wait until you are with someone that you truly love and see if its any different.

[Asker]

well it is disgusting because I wasn't in love. I never have been and don't believe in it. It's never going to happen again.

[JustSayinn]

Well, then if I were you I would just wait it out then. Just enjoy your life and if you find someone you really love, someone you can have fun with and be happy together without sex at first (for awhile), and then you could experience how different and amazing it could be, then you might like it.

[Sara-D]

Honey if you feel this strongly about it you probably weren't really ready to have sex. Yes it is awkward and embarrasing, but it is also amazing and feels wonderful (though as a woman it will hurt quite a bit at first.) No matter how you feel about your man, you all on your taking everything out of th equation but you need to be ready. I am sorry you did not enjoy yourself. Next time make sure that you are really ready. Maybe you should slowly work your way up too that. Take all the time you need. Its your body!

[Asker]

there won't be a next time. I don't think it's amazing at all...

[Sara-D]

If that's how you feel that's how you feel. Don't let any of the jerks on here make you feel weird for not wanting it. You are you own it

[windowlight]

This kind of reaction is so well covered in the literature that I am appalled that the "regulars" here simply dismiss you as a Troll.

There are several possibilities, only one of them leading to fulfilling heterosexual relations. (1) You could be orientated towards your own sex, but with a cultural background that makes your exploration of ALL forms of sexuality, let alone gay sex, fraught and taboo. (2) You might be asexual, or a with very low sex drive. This alone would not explain the revulsion factor, but it would facilitate it were it prompted, again, by cultural norms (parents, church, etc). (3) You might be a normal heterosexual woman who is going through a difficult phase.

In a way, (3) is the most challenging and problematic, as a good outcome will take patience and an EXTREMELY kind, sensitive partner. There are known and quite common physical problem, often with emotional links or triggers, that make intravaginal intercourse painful for a woman. This forum is not the place to go into these in great detail: it is a highly technical, medical area. If you think (3) applies, the first step is to GO TO A SYMPATHETIC FEMALE M.D. (I would recommend this step RATHER than an immediate trip to a sexual counselor.) She will be able to eliminate various problems and highlight --even cure--others.

Finally: a little more compassion, Girls Ask Guys guys, and a little more erudition wouldn't go astray either. Troll? No, Anonymous User, you are NOT... but there are troll-like characteristics in some of the answers you have received. Those responsible should consider themselves told off.

[Belgie]

Gimme a break. Did you ever see the Maryland Cruise question? On the surface, seemed like a perfectly normal question. Except the person KEPT ASKING IT. Every few weeks, bang, there it would be again. Thus, troll, even if the question seems reasonable. This question here today? Do you have ANY idea how rare such a woman would be? What would be the odds that TWO of them would come here and post about their trouble on consecutive days? Zero. This is the same kid from yesterday.

[Minxxe]

what are you talking about? she didn't ask a question she simply claimed to be a woman who is disgusted with herself. what more attention can she want other than bad atttention. a real person in a real dillemma would give a bit of background info & a coherent account of what it is she doesn't like other than "Yuck! How can girls let that happen to their bodies" - no mention what her boyfriend thinks etc. she's a troll or a virgin who wants others to agree with her.

[Belgie]

And if you think that man-hating sex-hating kid from yesterday, had actual sex with her boyfriend last night just so she could rant about it today? You're mad.

[Asker]

I have no idea what your talking about with the marland cruise. I'm not trolling.

[Asker]

what info do you want then minxxe? I agree that I wasn't really asking a question. I'm just so upset I had to express myself somewhere.

[Asker]

and the sex wasn't last night. It was a few weeks ago but I can't forgive myself or forget it I feel disgusting.

[Asker]

and thanks windowlight for taking me seriously, I think I might be asexual. I'm defientley not a lesbian.

[Minxxe]

agreeing with Belgie on most of this. QA, being as ask I bet your bf's confidence is sky-high following his performance - presumably you've told him how much he & his "ugly body-parts" disgust you...way to go making him feel like sh*t..that's why this isn't true because if you had a man you cared about you'd consider his feelings and try to work through it with him. you cannot fool a real woman who knows silly little girls ;0)

[Asker]

He was my boyfriend a few weeks ago. Not anymore. I only had a boyfriend to feel normal and I was pressured into sex, I went along with it because everyone thought I was weird for being a virgin. I wish I didn't do it though. I didn't tell him that I hated it, I'm not that mean. and I hate my own genitals more then his.

[Minxxe]

"I have always hated sex" - apologies, you're boring me now I hope you get some therapy for your whining attention seeking soon. if this is true then I am Mother F***ing Theresa (god rest her soul), if you know what I mean xx

[Asker]

I have always hated sex. I got grossed out by even talking about it, and I would get upset if my friends brought it up in conversation. It's totally embarrassing. I don't know why people are in such disbelief that a girl doesn't like sex. Surely it's not that uncommon.

[Del1201]

@Belgie lol I an asexual girl and I feel exactly the same, if not more repulsed.

[SkinnyBuddha74]

IF this is a real post (and I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here)... you most certainly had sex with the wrong person. You should have waited until you found someone who would treat you with respect, and knowing your views on sex to begin with (which I'm assuming he did, if he was your boyfriend) then he should have taken extra care to be gentle and loving with you, so that you could fully appreciate the intimacy of the experience.

I do not doubt there are people who think of sex as you do. I also do not doubt there are people who react to there first time as you have. But guys, it is our God-given responsibility to make sure every woman on Earth enjoys their first time, to ensure that they keep coming back for more! If not with us, then at least with someone else.

It's a shame, the position you're in. I only hope you give another guy a chance somewhere down the line to show you what the first guy obviously couldn't.

[Asker]

Im not going to do it again. I don't want to put myself through that awful time again. I think I must be asexual or have a phobia.

[Minxxe]

surely you jest.

[Jesterface195]

;D

[LaLa19Inu7]

Well first questions: Were you ready for sex? Were you 100% sure that you wanted to do it? Did you talk to your boyfriend about how you felt about sex? If not...then that's your first problem.

[Sue09]

Wow, there are a lot of really rude and small minded people here. It's a pity because I thought this seemed like a great idea for a website. Boys are not coming off too good... time to move on I think.

[dave216]

Sounds like you did not masturbate enough as you were growing up, or more likely you a troll. Grow up please or at least keep your ignorance to yourself.

[Asker]

masturbating is filthy and wrong

[bonfireheart]

This is the first time I've read something like this...#unbelievable

[ky_monsterr]

Sex is natural, and when performed with the right person; it's beautiful.

My boyfriend and I make love to each other and every time, I almost cry. When you experience sex that has so much heart and meaning, it shakes you up.

I'm sad that you don't see it that way. Maybe you will though. In time.

Ky

[Asker]

that actually made me feel sick. Your 19 and you think you make love lol. Sex isn't beautiful.

[ky_monsterr]

Don't judge me Ms. You don't know me at all. You're 21 and you're flipping out over sex. Something that has been around since the beginning of Earth practically.

[gothvampie]

DID YOU KNOW THAT MEN DON'T FEEL AS EMOTIONAL ABOUT SEX AS WE DO? BY THE WAY YOU LOOK 12 IN THAT PICTURE...

[ky_monsterr]

Did you know that I was just trying to help? Did you know that I make my own money, pay my own sh*t, and live thousands of miles away from my entire family at 19? 12? haha, f*** it.

[xzinax2]

trollin',trollin' on the river

[Asker]

why doesn't anyone belive me? surely I'm not the only one who thinks of sex like this.

[Belgie]

They don't believe you because you ARE the only one. D'uh!

[Asker]

Im not the only one. Google it.

[Belgie]

Please. I can find things on google like a dog f***ing a cat. That doesn't mean it's normal or representative of dogs and cats. Why not look around you, at this site, for example, and see that you ARE the only one?

[Minxxe]

QA there seems not be anyone else agreeing with you (though that's not the point), you say google it, but sweetie if this post is true (I believe not as a 21 year old would have the sense to at least exaggerate, make up some detail) grow-up and see that life isn't lived through google or the internet alone - get off your pc, go outside & meet some real people to talk to.

[Asker]

IM NOT THE ONLY ONE! haven't you heard of asexual and people with sexual phobia's? I've been researching and I think I have something like that. I'm being serious.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

I LOVE sex with my boyfriend. But a girls first time is almost always painful and awkward but trust me it gets better, much better. Maybe you just did it with the wrong person. Sex isn't disgusting at all, it's a natural thing.

[Asker]

it is disgusting. How can it not be? people rubbing ugly body parts together, sharing gross bodily fluids and acting like compleate animals.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Lol humans ARE animals. It's not ugly body parts, I love the look of a penis and I think you are being WAY overly dramatic about this. Chill out, humans were made for sex and for reproduction. You just seem psycho...

[Asker]

Humans are a lot more civalized then all other animals. I'm not going to degrade myself again like that. Genitals are not pretty, they are the ugliest body part. That's why they are "private" and people hide them with clothes.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Having sex isn't degrading. And yes mine is "private" from everyone except my boyfriend. You're just a prude, Take the advice of Carping and go hide under a rock somewhere. Your rant is annoying.

[Asker]

a prude is better then being a slut. If I'm annoying don't read it.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Lmao having sex with my boyfriend who I've been with for 2 years doesn't make me a slut sweetie. Not everyone who has sex is a slut so f*** off.

[Asker]

I never said you were. I just said a prude is better then a slut and I'm not insulted by you calling me that I'm proud of it.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Okay I wasn't trying to insult you, I just said you were one. Be proud if you want, everyone is different, I just hope you can actually find a guy who is willing to be in a relationship without sex. Which I doubt you will because every guy wants sex but still, goodluck with that...

[tearsofblood91]

I'm astounded by human ignorance. People! Read a goddamned Encyclopedia, a dictionary, something to make you smarter and more understanding to another persons plight! I hate pears! Does that make me a f***ing troll? If I say I'm a girl and I have a psychological fear that I cannot control how does that deserve anyones hateful comments?

[tearsofblood91]

Wooooooooah Nelly. Maybe your Sexually traumatized? Or have you ever considered that you could be asexual? Painful implies you weren't stimulated beforehand and that means you weren't wet. Also you said sex was something you've always hated. Maybe seeing a therapist could help. It doesn't mean your crazy or anything, don't take it the wrong way.

[l-hedoniste]

Don't have sex--problem solved.

[Asker]

I wont

[9R1NC3S5]

hahahahahahhahahaha agreed!

[Carping]

Yeah, you should crawl in under a rock and stay there. You should be stopped, and prevented from breeding

[Asker]

Why should I crawl under a rock and stay there? I'm not the only one who thinks sex is disgusting you know. Doesn't make me an alien or something lol.

[mehnuheasyyanuh]

read almost all the comments and

OK CLEARLY THIS GIRL IS STUBBORN, DONT BELIEVE IN LOVE, HAD ONE BAD EXPERIENCES SO SHE WANTS TO BE A NUN, THOUGHT SEX IS DISGUSTING ANYWAY, DONT CARE IF SHE LIVES SINGLE FOREVER so ummmm

yeah just let her become a nun and live on with our lives :)

[Belgie]

We can recognise a troll when we see one.

Go find another bridge.

[Asker]

im telling the truth

[Belgie]

"Call the WAAAAHMBULANCE. Because someone doesn't believe my internet bullsh*t."

[Asker]

it's not bullsh*t. why do you think everyone in the world has to like sex, and if they don't it's bullsh*t?

[Belgie]

Here's a hint, for the next time you go trolling. You might want to change your story, or try NOT trolling the same board with the same line of bullcrap one day after another. Leave some time between your trollish posts.

[Asker]

Im not trolling. Why are you in such disbelief that someone dosn't like sex?

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

it means your boyfriend sucks in bed... no that might not be it... did you have a very religious upbringing? I'm sorry if it makes you feel better my first time sucked too but it usually gets a lot better when you find some one that's good at it.

[Asker]

No I'm not religious. I've been reading and I think I have a sexual phobia or I'm asexual.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

that might be it. is it just sex or do you think the penis is ugly or is it like fear of being naked?

[Lupianwolf]

He was your boyfriend why do you feel so disgusted and ashamed?

[Belgie]

Come on... there was no boyfriend. This is just a trollish rant.

[Asker]

because it's disgusting and I can't belive I let him use my body for that.

[taster]

wtf? This has got to be a troll..nobody could really think that bleach was preferable to sex..

[Asker]

I didn't say bleach is preferable. I said I feel so dirty and disgusting that I want to clean myself with bleach to get rid of this feeling. I'm not that stupid though.

[Jesterface195]

You're dumb, everybody loves sex.

[Asker]

clearly not everybody.

[larry69]

Can't even be a nun now...a nun never gets none

[Asker]

well a nun is lucky.

[Galaxie500]

just stop doing it, it's simple.

[Asker]

I will for sure.

[Anonymous]

I lost my virginity late, at the same age as you because I'd been waiting for someone I loved. Well, I did love him... but it was bloody awful! It hurt, I bled, he was not exactly romantic and he didn't 'do it' for me enough to make me 'ready' so I was barely able to accommodate him! I now know that was HIS fault, not mine. It put me off sex for two years, til I met someone who DID do all the right things and I realized how bloody amazing sex is! I've now gone a long time without and boy do I miss it.

What I'm saying is, everyone's first time (I'm guessing it was your first time) is different, and often it's terrible! It won't be forever.

The other possibility is perhaps you're into women. If it was really that awful and actually 'disgusting' to you, maybe it's not men you're attracted to in that way. Just a thought.