I wanna try anal tonight, any tips on reducing the pain?

[Anonymous]

I tried it once before and it hurt so bad, can I make it so it isn't like that again...? I know to use lots and lots of lube...what else?

[heatherlu]

Relax.

Lots of foreplay - you know, open yourself up before hand, have him do it too; make sure you're relaxed and as open as possible. Fingering is important.

Go slow; don't try and take it all at once, guide him, tell him if it hurts or if it's too much. Let him stretch you out slowly not in one go. You know, go in an inch, pull back out, in a little further, until you relax into it.

Think about position. I mean, doggy-style might be the most commonly thought of for anal; but it isn't the most comfortable for the first time. Missionary allows your anus to be much more relaxed and if it's a problem for the two of you, you can always put some pillows under your pelvis. Or a spooning position, again you're very easily relaxed and it's really easy access.

[Cosmogirl22]

So true. When you think of Anal, most people think Doggy Style. Do it Missionary. You'll be most relaxed. Inch by inch.

[Anonymous]

1. Use lube.

2. Have him start with one finger to help you relax, then move on to two, etc.

3. Have him go slowly, especially to start.

4. Position plays a big role in my opinion. I find that doggiestyle makes my anus tighter and makes it harder to relax. Some people have suggested missionary, which might be more comfortable. Personally, I find it most comfortable to lay flat on my stomach with him on top, from behind. It's a better angle for me and I'm able to relax more.

5. Take some deep breaths and focus on relaxing your sphincter.

[Anonymous]

A lot of lube! My first time we took it slOw and we did it Missionary.

[MOSTINTENSEPLEASURE]

For future anal sex you could train your self to get used to anal sex by doing anal masturbation and learning this way how to consciously relax that area. One easy way to do it is to use various cucumber sizes, choose the size you like then put it inside a condom, put lube on the condom and then insert it inside your anus, slowly, let your anus get used to the stretching and then insert it some more, then you can put a bigger cucumber etc. Its a good way to get used to bigger things and cucumbers can be bought in any grocery store and nobody will know that you will use them for anal masturbation.

[themastaplan]

lube and slow penetration...start with a little bit in, liek 1/4 of the tip, then slowly go from there...then they head will get in and eventually it'll all jsut go in...make sure he's slow with it, you don't want to just shoved in a matter of seconds...

also, take some shots or get some drinks to feel a little tipsy...it won't only make your expierence feel better, you'll probably like it better...in my exierence I've found that more girls like it when they are drunk...there are some that want it when they are sober, but ask for it more when they take some drinks

[Quadrophonic84]

Yeah he should finger your anus a lot so that he can get three fingers in and move them around without too much discomfort on your part.

[Enickols12]

From what I understand:

1. Stay Relaxed

2. Start with fingers to loosen up (Make sure that nails are clipped and filed)

3. Push back like you are constipated and need to go (it sounds gross, but from what I understand it should help a lot)

4. Have an enema or 2 first

(You want to be clean)

5. Go slow (you don't want to tear anything)

I hope I was able to help.

[JackieTreehorn]

LOTS OF LUBE. Use anal beads first before anything, to open it up alittle bit. Then, once it starts, take it SLOW, snail's pace, and you'll be fine.

[sigsauer45]

LOTS AND LOTS LUBE and use a toy first

use a finger and go real slow

relaxed and open it up some tell him if he hurting you and go in real slow and an inch at a time

make him use a condom the first time

doggy is the most commonly but you can try it missionary but I would use you on top that way you can control how deep it gos in and go slow so that he dose tear you open and use lot of condoms because you can get sick from this good luck

[sikoo31]

go slow, use lube!

[amrdia]

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also relax like nothin is in there

setting on it makes it slide better than doggy

getting it in and out at first makes it slide in with no resistance but if he tries to push it will hurt

[Anonymous]

lots of lube and if he uses a finger instead of a toy, don't be scared by the intensity of getting fingered. an actual penis isn't painful