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Why won't my boyfriend ever eat me out?

To start out, I'd like to make some notes: -I am submissive in bed, and I'm more of a giver than a receiver -He is my first and only, so I'm clean inside and out -He's got nine years of sexual experience over me -I will not EVER ask strait up for it...Too shy. I've only been eaten out once, and that was during a 69, so I was a bit distracted... I give him blow jobs once or twice every time I see him, because, well, I enjoy it and I know he does too. I don't mind that he hasn't done it more than that one time, but I am curious... He says I'm selfish in bed because I'm horrible at riding, but that's about it. For the most part, I do whatever he says in bed. I'm wondering: 1) Your theories on why he would possibly not do it? 2) If there's any thing I may do to get him to do it? Even just once? 3) How to ride? (the question still stands haha) I will go anon. if I get too embarrassed most likely...
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  • first off, don't be embarrassed. this is a website for these kinds of questions and I'm sure people have asked super crazy ones compared to this.

    moving on, he might not want to do it because he's either selfish himself or he doesn't like to do it. how long have you two been together? how long have you been having sex? is it known that you are submmissive in bed? regardless, you should talk to him about what you want in bed. its the only way guys know anything about things when it comes to this. how does he help you reach an orgasm if he doesn't know what turns you on?

    what you could do to get him to go down on you is simply ask. if he doesn't then its something wrong with him not you and you need to talk to find out why he doesn't like to or want to do it. you could also play simon says. its a fun cute way to go back and forth on things and it gets the job done.

    how to ride is something I have a problem with myself. it's hard to get in the rythm of things but I know it takes leg work. the best way I've gone around this problem is work out those legs to make them stronger. or you could alway practice with him every time you have sex. the easiest way to ride that I started with was getting into doggie and you thrusting while he just stands there. it's a nice start to things and every girl is capable of it. another way to ride is have him sit at the edge of the bed and sit on him facing the same way and have one leg on the bed if you can. this helps level you to manuver yourself up and down on his shaft. hope this all helps and good luck!

  • 1. Honestly, he sort of sounds a bit selfish. Though he claims you are the selfish one, it sounds more like he is. Although I'm not getting the full story, my best bet would to be discuss this with him. Yes you said you would never straight up ask for oral, but this is an entirely different story. Ask him why he thinks you are being selfish, ask him ways he can improve, and while he is telling you that stuff casually slip in things you'd like or problems you have.

    2. Besides that casual conversation I was discussing, there are a couple other ways. When he is doing something like kissing you, try quietly whispering "Lower... lower..." Until you get him where you want to. Hmmm other ideas... I will let you know later when I come up with more. :P

    3. I felt another article would better explain this one: link And hey, if you can't seem to get it right just ask him, "I'd love to get this right so I can please you. Do you mind if we just spend a night of me trying to figure it out?" If he says no well... he is probably not worth your body or time anyway. :P

    I hoped that help some. :D

  • 1) he won't do it I don't think you're selfish he is just trying to use a guilt factor on you.

    2) You could do it nicely or meanly

    a) Nicely: Make him dinner

    b) Meanly: threaten to break up or bite him next blow job

    3) to ride get him to put his arms up and use them for suport and use your thighs to move up and down or just do a rocking motion. If you need help with a visual I would suggest watching a p*rn.

    My advice to you might be painful but get a new boyfriend. I've been in your situation before where a guy would not eat me out aside from everything I did. Those guys were really selfish too. The sad thing is I can tell you're a nice sweet girl and you deserve better, even if you get better at riding it he still won't do it.

    • Exactly. Thanks for your opinion. Best of luck!

Most Helpful Guys

  • He's probably just not that into it. When he does it, it's for your benefit, not because he loves it himself. So you not asking.. .means you don't want it to him. You're not missing it as far as he's concerned so everything is fine.

    You should just ask him to lick your pussy. Mix it with some other act. Like right after you give him head. He'd have to be pretty selfish to say no. Then it's in his head that this is something you like. You may not have to ask next time. Or tell him you want to be teased... maybe he'll do oral.

    How to ride... selfishly. Just get on top, and treat him like an object. Please yourself. Put his hands on you. You can close your eyes, play with your t*ts. Just be selfish. You're in control so the penetration should be done to your liking. If he comes... so be it. He'll like seeing you enjoy yourself. Seeing you in control and aroused, pleasure on your face. It'll get him off, don't you worry.

  • I don't see how he can call you selfish when you go down on him so often and he never returns the favor. As far as reasons why, he may not have a lot of experience doing it and thinks it will smell and taste bad. That's not something I agree with at all and I love going down on girls.

    The only thing I can think of that may get him to do it is asking him directly and maybe withholding blow jobs from him. But a guy who's as interested in your pleasure as his own should do it without you needing to ask.

    To ride, basically just straddle him and use either an up and down or grinding motion, whichever feels best for you. Getting into a rhythm matters more than the specific motion. I think that's something that gets easier with experience. This part may be just deflection on his part... accusing you of being selfish to keep you from bringing up his selfishness about eating you out.

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  • 1)Men love it when women are straightforward with their desires, so you need to bring it up and tell him you would like to receive more

    2)Ask. Keep clean and trimmed

    3)Figure out what feels best for you, grinding or going up and down and what angle(leaning over or sitting up or leaning back) feels best for you and him of course and just have fun. I mean, I guess if he's tell you you're selfish he isn't up for helping you, but if he is, then ask

  • 1) my boyfriend doesn't really eat me out either

    2) But when I really want him to eat me out, I tell him how sweet I taste (gotta be truthful), and that he should taste me. and he does, but mostly licks my clit, still feels amazing though :3

    also, make sure you're shaved, no one likes hair in their mouth when they're eating p****, believe me I know xD

    3) and a tip on riding, instead of bouncing up and down, rock back and forth, starting at a slow pace then go faster (lean back to get an even better feeling). it feels so much better for the both of you. it is the best feeling in the world when you reach an orgasm, cause when you rock, you're putting friction on orgasm spots deep in your vagina that cannot be triggered by just going in and out.

    sometimes I get tired from rocking, so I lean back, to position his penis to my g-spot, and bounce.

    Hope this helps :) best of luck

  • I was about to answer about restaurants, I misread the question, LOL

    Anyway, its because of this;

    'I will not EVER ask for strait up for it...Too shy'

    =] If he doesn't know you want it its not gonna happen.

  • You really should just man up and ask him. I went down on the girl I'm w/now (im her first) and she didn't like it because it made her feel "wierd." So I didn't for a while. Then like a year later she asked me. It was actually kind of a turn on, I didn't mind at all that she had to ask me for it, I just had assumed she didn't like it so I wouldnt.

    Even if you hint to him and see if that works. Just try to get your message across. Or suggest a 69. maybe try pushing his head down. playfully begging cud work too.

    riding-hop up and down like a bunny, you can move side to side too, or lean into him and use your hips.

  • Well...Him not wanting to go down on you doesn't seem like anything you've done wrong. As long as you're clean, "down there... shower..." it shouldn't be a problem. He might not be one of those guys that are into going down on girls, just like that are some girls that aren't into going down on guys. Confront him about it and see what comes up. (pun intended) If he doesn't give you a reason to fulfill YOUR needs... Think twice about him.

  • 1) he's gay

    2) if a girl tells a guy that she wants oral, he is at least gonna try

    3) its easy! just hop on and work your hips!

    i am honestly surprised on why he is making it so difficult. really I am. how could any guy make that a problem?

  • 1) Theories

    A - you have an unpleasant odor down there which I'm sure isn't the case.. I've only ever been with 1 girl whose odor turned me off so much I couldn't eat her out and she left everything pretty much natural downstairs

    B - HE is being selfish.. if you suck him that much and he's not eating you out also, he's being a totally selfish lover.

    C - Maybe he really just doesn't enjoy eating pussy, but I love pleasing women, and any guy who loves to please will eat the pink taco any time

    2) tell him he's not getting blow jobs again until he eats you out. That should snap him back and change his behavior

    3), just get on top, slide yourself down on him, and work your hips, and it doesn't hurt to raise yourself up with your knees and just slam back down on his thighs

  • Grrrr.I am prejudiced...because you are a FAVE of mine...so I am going to bite my tongue...almost in half...dripping blood right now...

    1) in my experience...males that don't go down think that it is gross...this is an alien thought in my disturbed mind...because I view female organs as something akin to Paradise on Earth. Well, the only other possibility is that he is selfish...

    2) Other females have asked about getting a male to do that...but, in my view, the ones that want to don't have to be asked...u would be hard pressed to stop me for instance...

    3) I cannot answer this question...maybe get some females to assist u...BUT dammit...everyone has to learn sometime...

    PS..yeah.. I know I said I was going to bite my tongue (and I have!) but...if can't show you some patience while you are learning to be on top...how does that make you SELFISH...

    Ur Guardian Angel's not happy...

  • Some guys just don't like it. Much in the same way that some girls don't like giving blowjobs for some wacky reason.

    If he doesn't mind doing it, then he might just not have done it because you haven't gave him the right signals. Some guys consider it a chore, so they don't mind doing it at all, but they won't think much about doing it unless they're asked.

    Try and casually bring it up in conversation and see what he says. Even if you ask him what he thinks about doing it. Alternatively, you could just ram your p**** in his face, but that's a confidence thing.

  • Next time make him a vag sundae. Whipped cream and strawberries for example. Say "Honey, I made you a Sundae!"

    • "Dessert" ----by Lolli...=D

  • i personally love eating girls out. LOVE IT. but some men think that it will smell or it's too complicated to do it right so they won't even try.

    I think you should make out with him with him on top, get him really aroused, spread your knees out, and push/guide his head down.

    if he doesn't get it then there's more problems.

    And don't ride him till he goes down on you! he needs to work for it

  • i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and no matter how much i beg him he just won't do it he says that it breaks out his face from sweet and all that im 160 5 7 shower daily shave every three days and im always clean i used to go down on him all the time intill i relized he just would never return the favor
    weve talked about the we fight about it it been almost 2 years since I've asked him i want the connection what do i do

    • Pathetic. Screw him. NEVER suck him off. This is just rude.

  • do a 69 again

  • 1) he may believe eating you out would be a sign of submission to you. He could also just be acting selfishly

    2)Ask him tell him everything in a relationship is 2-way, stop submitting constantly to him like that your reinforcing his behavior and telling him your needs are less than his

    3) It's all a matter of experience. and also everyone has their own opinions. Changing it up by moving clockwise counter-clockwise a little bit of upper body movement to give an exotic feel.

    It bothers me he would bluntly tell you that you suck at riding him and at the same time refuse to reciprocate what you do for him

    Finally, Hi I'm that quite nerd that sits at a table alone and periodically makes short eye contact with you before looking away and watching you and mean while is wondering what the hell women think when they decide to date some1

  • time to invest in a dog and a jar of peanut butter!

    • I just shuttered at the thought...EWWWWWWW lol Why did you have to get that picture in my headddd!

    • don't knock it til you try it :P

    • Ya a freak.

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