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When a guy pushes down your head during a blow job, how do you feel about this?

When you're giving a guy a blow job and he grabs your head and pushes it down/into him more... has this ever happened to you? what was your view of this? guys, what are you thinking when you do this? i have heard guys do this, but none of the guys I had ever given a blow job to have done this before, and I thought it would be extremely degrading, but surprisingly I didn't mind it. I kind of thought of it as..he's enjoying it and wants more and is just taking more control..a dominance thing maybe? (I suppose you could say he wanted more deep throat too!) so I guess I'm just curious as to what you all think.
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forgot to include that this happened the first time last week
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Most Helpful Girls

  • it's taken me a while to warm up to this move, because a few years ago I was raped/forced to give oral and he pushed down so hard I threw up. not okay. I was really nervous about giving my current boyfriend head for that reason, so the first time he put his hand on my head I freaked out. now I actually enjoy it, I like it when he plays with my hair or tucks it out of the way so we can make eye contact, and it lets me know that I'm doing a good job and he's enjoying it and wants more, which is definitely sexy. he pushes really gentle now, just enough so I get the message but nothing forceful because I feel more comfortable having some control of the situation. I still usually keep a hand on his shaft so that my mouth literally can't go down farther than I want it to because my hand is in the way, so even if he did push harder it wouldn't really matter much

  • men do that, its not their fault either. Men have testostorone, so they are natural dominant, they never notice though...

    My boyfriend has done this to me, at first I was like "WTF?!?!" but then I got used to it, yeah its uncomfortable and no one likes a **** shoved down their throat, but I do the same thing to him when he gives me oral, without noticing of course.

    But unlike a quick 10 minute bj for him, I take 30-45 minutes to orgasm, so he goes down on me a LONG time, and I know his tounge hurts afterward. The least I can do for him is let him have his enjoyment during oral.

    At least your not getting a "face f***" or when a guy pretends your mouth is a p**** and humps and screws it like he would during sex, now THATS degrading and uncomfortable.

  • For the most part, I enjoy it because it means he's really getting into it. I have to be in the right state of mind, though :P If I'm not prepared to deep throat and he just pushes my head down, I get claustrophobic for some reason. Luckily, my boyfriend "warns" me by pressing lightly on my head before he does it. It gives me time to fully relax my throat. So yeah, I prefer to initiate deep throating myself, but if he wants it before I do it myself, I have no problem with some not-rough head pushing.

    • how does getting a weenee shoved down your windpipe make you feel like the walls are closing in?

    • It makes me NEED air. It's like an urge to get away so I can breathe. But that's only if I'm not expecting it.

  • I don't like it, in fact I hate it when my boyfriend does it. If it were comfortable to go deeper then I would. Don't get me wrong, I love giving bj's but I have a small mouth and sensitive gag reflex so forcing it doesn't work for me.

    • definitely understandable

Most Helpful Guys

  • It is because we are very close to orgasm and we don't want you to stop or slow what you are doing. If you do, we experience a sort of "misfire" where we may get only a couple of weak contractions that leave us unfilled. We do not intend to degrade you. If we could just say: "Go go go go go go go go" and then: "OK!" and you could follow the cue, there would be no need for that.

    I give my lover heavy duty oral sex. When she rolls into orgasm, she does not hesitate to grab the back of my head for the same reason. Where she is very (very) wet, sometimes I have to be really creative to breathe and not, uhhhh, drown! Its all good, though.

  • Yea deep throating feels the best so when we do that its trying to get you to do it. Most girls get pissed though so good for you..

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  • Yeah, I don't really need her to deep throat, but I like to be a little more dominant if she's comfortable with it.

  • Personally... I fucking love it and I like giving head I like him to be pleased and if he wants more then all he gotta do is push however I will need air lol

  • Women need to realize that men love deepthroat. It's one of the most pleasurable sexual experiences for men. To some (probably many) it's preferable to the sensation of vaginal or anal sex. A blowjob is good and all, but if a man can receive deepthroat, he'll be in heaven. It's basically the G-Spot, but for men. Why do you think there was a famous porno movie named after the sexual act back in the 70s?

    One women respondant says she has a small mouth and a "sensitive gag reflex". The small mouth excuse has been used by many and everyone has a sensitive gag reflex, not just you. That's why it's the gag reflex. The windpipes naturally have a kneejerk reaction to any foreign invader blocking the pathway. As for the size of your mouth, I would imagine most women's mouths are "small" and aren't naturally designed to take an erect, rock hard and in some cases very huge penis, length and girth wise. Women can use the standard excuses if they want, but just know you are losing major points in how sexually satisfying of a partner you are to your man.

    One's comfort level with going deeper can simply be adjusted by training deepthroat skills progressively over time. Now the issue is who's going to initiate this training? Are women? Most likely not, because there is a natural aversion to things going in to the throat, like I said. I also know this because in most of my experiences in receiving oral sex during my younger years, I simply let the woman do the job while I watched. And it left me sexually unsatisfied. But hey, at least I was the "nice guy" who treated her like a lady and I didn't resort to being one of those aggressive brutish types that do whatever they want to women without considering her feelings. Right?

    Well, now that I'm an older guy who's been around the block? Well, with my last girlfriend, I finally took matters into my own hands. Literally. I finally gripped the back of her head with my hands and just took full control of the situation... And it ended up turning her on. She'd ask for it during the sexual encounters in which I wasn't doing it. Based on a couple other female responses hear it seems like it's something that's at times forgivable because "men will be men" and also something women end up finding exciting and erotic because of the dominant aspect of it. It's a fine line to walk though, because you never know when a woman will be turned on by such aggressive actions or if they will feel uncomfortable or even violated.

  • I take it ( but I'm a submissive)

  • honestly, i kind of like when they do that - helps me focus more on the other stuff.

  • the guy just sorta gets off on regaining control. I mean, you have the most control since his d*** is in YOUR mouth,

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