She won't let me go down on her?

[Anonymous]

Feel a little put out about this to be honest. Every other girl (don't wish to blow my own trumpet here) said it was great but she won't even let me. Trust me, if she doesn't like it I won't do it anymore but how can she decide she doesn't like it without even letting me try? I'm only trying to pleasure her, and, let's be truthful, me too - I love doing it, but that's not really my point. What to do to convince a girl that it's okay to do this?

[frikkin_frakkin]

Some girls have the tendency to kinda embarrassed about their vagine. She might be self-conscious about the smell, look, taste etc. She may also have something (a disease) and doesn't want you to catch it. The most I can tell you to do is either: A) respect that she's not into that stuff and find some other way to pleasure her or B) sneak it in when yall are having foreplay or sex. These two suggestions should be based on how well you know your partner and how long hall have been together. And if she ever lets you go down on her, vocalize how beautiful she is and how much you love her body. There's a good chance that that she is really self conscious about her vagine; so, let her know how much pleasure you would get from giving her pleasure and give her compliments.

[Amiler1214]

She's probably just uncomfortable with how she looks smells or tastes. You can't really hide anything when a guys face is burried in your p**** lol. It makes me uncomfortable too, to be in such a vulnerable position, that itsometimes even interferes with how much pleasure I get out of it. A lot of guys don't like doing it, maybe she's been with one of those guys before? The only ideas I have are to talk about it with her and build her trust. Also, the next time you finger her, you could lick/suck your fingers after and make it clear to her how much you enjoy the taste. You could also shower together and then try going down on her either in the shower or right after it so she feels more clean. Hope this helps!

[taster]

I will attempt to build on my friend's answer...1) you need to let her know how much you love her AND how important going down on her is... 2) You also need to assess her ability to adjust 3) Along with that comes ."what if she really doesn't like it or refuses to even try" Only you can determine that...while I don't care for bjs..the female that lies next to me is going to like receiving oral...if that makes me an a$$hole...then call me any name in the book that you wish..

[Anonymous]

I am the same way as the girl you are describing. I am self-conscious about my lady parts. I feel like they are gross and I don't want anyone to be down there. I let my ex try for a little while but I just couldn't relax enough to enjoy it.

Have you explained to her that you enjoy doing it? That could help.

[TheAnswerer]

Self-consciousness?

Uiuiuiuiui might be right: She might be thinking that she doesn't smell / taste good, or she's just embarassed about you being so close to her vagina and seeing it clearly

[springdragonfly]

only one guy has really done this to me. some others have tried, but seriously, I am so sensitive and I really, really, really squirm. a lot. he seriously had to force my legs and hold me down. it was amazing. really amazing. but it is super intense. I can't handle it. I always try to escape, lol.