Do you think that most societies believe that a woman's sexual needs are not as important as man's?

[Anonymous]

Do you think it's true that in most societies a woman's sexual needs are not seen as important as a man's sexual needs? And also because a lot of the times a woman wants sex to be more emotional than men or as in after sex they feel more connected. Obviously for men it doesn't matter so don't you think it goes to men's advantage most of the time rather than a woman's? i mean really we need it just as much as men we get lonely too but we always have to think more of how the man will treat us later and then sometimes it feels like there;s no point of having a man in the equation whereas for men its OK for a woman to come and go. Where does that leave me/us women then? Am I just going to be left at the shelf to just masturbate or do I deserve a man who cares too? Maybe that;s a fairytale and myth too?

[kheserthorpe]

"In most societies' is a complicated statement.

I felt that I grew up in a time when there was a huge emphasis placed on female sexual enjoyment, on men being responsible for a woman's orgasm, etc. I tried really hard when I was younger to be a 'good' lover, to an extent that actually pressured my partner to perform. She enjoys sex a lot more when I worry a little less about her and a little more about just screwing.

People need to own their own sexual needs, tell their partner what they want, and attack each other with raw passion and hunger.

Things are different for men and women. I'd say that there is more variance in male experience - some guys can walk around, bedding masses of different women, guilt free. At the other end though, there are a lot of guys who are desperate and cannot get laid. I think women tend to be more 'in the middle' in their experience. If it seems to you that guys have it made, realize that's because you are mainly interacting with the confident, successful guys.

[ThoroughFred]

I don't believe it's human nature for guys to "not care" but I do believe MOST societies enfore that concept.

I also know just as many girls that could give a sh*t less about a guy having an awesome experience having sex with them as guys who could give a sh*t less about the girl.

It's really about personality and whether you care about who you are having sex with, or just want to have sex for the sake. Granted men/women use each other for different reasons, but the action is the same - meaningless sex.

I have to admit it sounds like you are just complaining because you are having a hard time finding a guy. If so, you are probably pushing them away. All guys focus on all day long is how to get sex with a cute/hot/fun/sexy girl. It's pretty hard not to get laid if you are looking for it. If you don't meet any of those criteria, you might want to make a change.

[Asker]

No. This is not just about getting laid. That was my point in my question. For men its OK to get just laid and that's it. But for women even when you need/want sex you don't just want to get laid and that's it. You want him to care too.

[ThoroughFred]

Guys want girls to care, we just know it's easier to get one without the other. Girls are so defensive and judgmental it's actually easier just to get in and out without the drama. With guys all around willing to give it up, all a girl needs to do is approach it with some standards and some rules. They can play the game to and many do.

[Anonymous]

f*** society's standards and go for what YOU want. at the end of the day society isn't gonna care if you catch a nut or not but you will. its a man's world so most societies cater to the desires of men and expect women to just put up with whatever as long as the man benefits the most.

i live my life based on what is best FOR ME

[Anonymous]

It's not that women's sexual needs don't matter ... it's that men's relationship needs are much lower than female's outside of the sexual concept. Therefore, women can't fulfill their sexual desires and relationship desires at the same time. Whoever cares less has the power, thus men have the power to control emotional outcomes.

[moaterboat]

"Obviously for men it doesn't matter"

Woah Woah WOAH!

I don't know where you got the idea that an emotional connection doesn't matter at all to men. Granted we don't NEED it to get off, but make no mistake, I'm pretty sure almost every guy would rather have passionate, emotion driven sex once a month with someone they love and cherish than a casual, lust-driven, hookup with a stranger 3 times a week.

[TheWhiteFreshPrince]

I think in society, Woman's sexual needs are more important than a Man's...

and this question could easily be the other way around...

[Anonymous]

Yes, because sex is not as important to women as to men.

[Asker]

It is.

[Asker]

it is just as important for women. Why else would there be the need for mastrbation for women too otherwise?

[Anonymous]

I don't think it has as much to do with society as it does with the individual. For example, when I'm having sex with a girl, society isn't getting me off. She is. If you haven't found a guy who satisfies your sexual needs, either work on it with him or find another guy.