I envy busty girls so much!

[Anonymous]

The other night I went clubbing with my sister and our friend. I have small breasts. However, I have a nice small waist and wide hips, round butt, etc. So I put on a tight top, and tight pants. I applied a bit of mascara, and some red lipstick. I thought I looked hot, so I felt confident in going there. I seldom go clubbing anyway. I was having fun and all, but I noticed guys passed me by, even the "ugly loser" types. I know I'm not stunning, but I'm definitely not ugly! And they just weren't interested. My friend looks like a model, so guys look at her and everything... my sister is overweight, but she has a pretty face and big boobs, so guys asked her to dance... and there I was. There was a really busty woman there... and all guys drooled over her, bought her drinks, asked her to dance and of course she was enjoying the attention. I just felt so damn ugly after that. I deserve attention too, I thought I looked good that day, but I guess I didn't. Just because I'm not top heavy? Ugh... it makes you feel worthless even in the most shallow level. I felt like a gross failure for not being able to get any guy to ask me to dance... just based on how I look. I really felt like less of a woman. I know shallow attention isn't everything, but it feels so unfair that some women's egos get overfed and mine starves... only based on stupid physical qualities which we aren't able to choose! I guess I will always have to wait for a guy to "see past my imperfections and shortcomings so that he falls in love with me and wants to have sex because he's in love with the inside and doesn't care about the outside". I will never be able to just pull a guy, to just have something physical and ignite a guy's interest in the most shallow level. Am I that hideous because of my lack of breasts? It's unfair... I really felt worthless after that. It's as if breasts trump everything else. I mean that busty woman at the club had no butt or curvy hips. She wasn't stunning face-wise. Neither am I, but I guess I just don't think she was obviously hotter than me just because she has big breasts. I simply don't get it. I don't think I have less of a right to have fun or to fool around with guys only because I have small breasts. I hate it. I also don't want to fake it with push ups or padding because that's false advertising. I don't know what to do. Guys... are small breasted girls really that gross on a shallow level?

[heatherlu]

Looking sexy or hot has nothing to do with any of your features. I mean, women with better features probably have and easier time of making themselves look that way - but it takes work from everyone.

Looking sexy, and approachable in a club isn't generally about what you wear, or how big your breasts are. Trust me. I can wear the same outfit to a club two weeks in a row, first week attract lots of attention, and then the next week, none. It's how you present yourself.

If you're dancing with your friends, just expecting guys to come up to you - then you're probably a whole let likely to get hit on unless you're Cheryl Cole or some equally desired girl. You need to have that - I'm interested air about you. Eye contact. Into spending time with your friends - but willing to be brought a drink at the same time. Not desperate. But not completely uninterested.

If you were spending the entire night thinking about how guys passed you by, you aren't going to give of the best, most approachable image. You're going to look insecure, and unhappy, no matter what front you put on, or how big your breasts are. And no guys going to want to deal with that.

Plenty of flat chested women look sexy and pull guys on a night out - it's about working with what you've got, and not worrying about what you haven't got. You can't work with what isn't there. Breasts aren't everything. I know a ton of guys who'd much rather have a hot flat chested girl, than an overweight one with big boobs.

I mean, you said you seldom go clubbing - so maybe you're just out of practice with pulling guys, or didn't look too comfortable in that environment. I know when I go out with friends who hardly ever go out - they aren't at their most relaxed until well, well, into the evening. Don't blame it all on your small breasts, blame it on something you can actually do something about - and fix it.

[peace-love-couture]

This pity party has gotten really old. This is the equivalent to guys with their small penis.

There are plenty of guys who prefer small breasts, but bigger breasts are obvious so they will notice them.

Maybe she looked easy? Maybe she initiated conversations and didn't just stand there and expect guys to come to her.

PLENTY OF GUYS LIKE AND PREFER SMALL BREASTS. My goodness

What do you want us to say? Big breasts are gross, big breasts will sag, big breasts only mean a girl is easy.

I know I'll get thumbed down and attacked, but it's time girls on here get a clue and quit blaming their failures with dudes on their small breasts, just like the dudes on here need to get a clue and quit blaming their failures with chicks on their height or small penis.

[Asker]

I don't expect people to put down big breasts, because that would be wrong. But big breasts doesn't mean a girl is hotter than someone with small breasts. I have a curvy nice backside. I was dancing, not just standing there. I wasn't frowning, I was smiling. I was wearing tight clothes and red lipstick, so I probably looked just as easy as the other chick did. I just don't get why guys see me as less hot if I don't think I looked bad, only different thing is that my breasts are small.

[peace-love-couture]

Um, plenty of girls with big asses can tell you that they receive attention for having a nice ass. I'm not one of those chicks, I happen to have big breasts, but my friend has a big butt and trust, she receives plenty of unwanted attention. Big breasts are more obvious. Trust, if you walked around without a shirt, guys would pay attention and notice

[Ildskf]

I get how you feel... I am an A-cup... but also have pretty nice hips and butt... so I usually flaunt what little I have... and work out a lot to make my body look nicer.. I've never been to a club or bar but out and about I pretty much never get approached... so I'm guessing I'd also get overlooked at a club... sometimes I wish I had bigger breasts & to know what it feela like to have them... but at least ours won't
sag... plus there are a lot of men that do like small boobs... my BF has never had a problem or at least he says he loves them... but I keep in mond he was my first BF...& I was 28 when we first started going out

[Piluex]

I don't want to make you feel bad but... the whole "small breasts don't sag"is a myth, all breast sag sooner or later.

[Ildskf]

@Piluex luckily my mom doesn't have that issue. I take better care of myself than her so I'm not worried.

[Piluex]

Oh, well then, hopefully her genes may help you with that.

[Ildskf]

@Piluex yeah fingers crossed.

[vptwarrior]

use your ass, it will help, also if your cute use that as well, you have to overuse your appeal without being slutty. But I agree with...f***ing anon people, the guy with club story, girls t*ts are like guy's muscles, they are shown off to attract only, unless you have some other feature you won't get a lot of attention, most guy's who see girls with huge titties just want to f*** and play with them, its how it works, small t*ts, gonna get less sexual thoughts seeing them which is a lot better for the girl if they are trying to get into a relationship. For me, if you are cute enough I will probibly try to get in a different position so I could try to ignore a giant pair of t*ts, but that in itself is hard unless the girl I am talking to really catches my attention. I like small t*ts, I have a limit on how small I like them but I still like them, it also really depends on the body type as well, that is also a huge factor, I will not go after a fat girl with big titties, I will say that, why? not into girls that weigh more than I do, cruel thing to say but its very true. Also one more question, could I see an actual picture of you, not a sexy picture, just a normal full body shot, always helps to add more input if I know what the person looks like also if you are telling the truth about your ass.

[ncsquirll99]

i know exactly how you feel even though I am a guy. I can most any girl any normal guy could want BUT I always have to try for it and go out of my way. Sure it means a lot more than the shallow attraction and such but I just sometimes want attention without having to plan, woo, and work. But this isn't about me ---

for you I have to start off by saying small boobs are so much better to me but larger boobs catch the attention especially in a club setting where men go primal. But FYI pushups and such are not cheating at all. (although stuffing or adding "extra" padding is a bit misleading -- boobs are boobs.)

Small breasted girls are so sexy. some aren't into them but they are not gross. what size are you talking? I have been with A-C and I love them all.

[olive92]

I don't have huge breasts, but I never run out of guys to dance with. Maybe you should talk to guys, confidence is the key. If you are comfortable in your body and you feel hot, then talk to the guys you want to dance with. Make a joke or something and ask him to dance. Don't just stand in the corner and expect too much. Just get out there! Good luck!

[Asker]

I was dancing with my sister and friend in a group. They constantly had guys hitting on them. I wasn't just sitting in a corner frowning, I was dancing, smiling, etc.

[olive92]

hmm did you talk to the guys?

[Asker]

No, but neither did my friends and they got attention.

[woohoo_friday]

Well, coming from a fairly busty girl, maybe you need to get out of the clubs and stuff, where guys only approach girls if they have big boobs, and go somewhere where the guys are more focused on the rest of your beautiful self. Do you really want to be with a guy who's only interested in you because of your boobs? Being busty is not that great. It's really difficult to buy clothes, and you tend to get attention from a lot of creeps. Love and appreciate what you've got, and know that for everything that you dislike about yourself, there are a hundred women out there that envy you for those very things!

[LadySilvr]

Listen, breasts aren't everything. I have A cup breasts and my boyfriend still finds me sexy and attractive. Sure I moan and groan every know and then about how I wish I had bigger breasts or if I should get implants, but it's not really worth it. Your breasts are just a feature. I'm sure there are lots of guys out there who will more than enjoy the rest of your body. Try not to compare yourself to other women, it's not worth it. You're unique and there are guys out there who find you hot!

[xzinax2]

''just based on how I look.'' well what did you expect? its a club,he's not going to ask you about your feelings you know! people go there to get laid,not to start relationships. so yeah,you have a bit of a disadvantage when it comes to that,if there's a bustier woman there,he's gonna go for her cause he's not there to choose based on personality. I think that you should get guys somewhere else,plenty of men prefer smaller breasts(they don't sag) and most guys who like bigger ones get over it when they get to know you, but when it comes to THAT type of place-most men like big boobs.

[Asker]

But not necessarily. If the woman has only big breasts then why should she have an advantage? I may not have big breasts, but I have a nice face, small waist, wide curvy hips, round butt, and I'm thin, I'm not fat and even my overweight sister gets more attention. Point is, I may not be busty, but that doesn't mean I'm not hot.

[xzinax2]

i didn't say you're not hot,it's just that big boobs are better for drunken nights you don't remember. it's not a bad thing you have small breasts,they won't sag,you won't get stretch marks on them,people pay attention to you in the right way (girls with big boobs tend to be seen as sluts even when they're not) and since you have a nice body-i don't see your problem,just cause club rats don't pay attention to you doesn't mean you're not attractive

[Butterfly_kisses09]

I have small boobs too and it's really not a big deal. But would you really want a guy who only wants you for your boobs? There are plenty of guys who like and even prefer small boobs. Don't worry about it, I don't know about you, but I would much rather have sex with a guy who was in love with me on the inside than a guy who only wants sex with me because of my outside appearance.

[Asker]

I'm coming out of a dreadful relationship. The last thing I want right now is love. I don't want a boyfriend in a long time, doesn't mean I want to be celibate.

[peace-love-couture]

Oooh, you're looking for nooky. Big breasts in a club tends to send the message: easy, horny and dtf

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Well then stop expecting guys to go to you, and go to them. Big boobs arn't better, they're just more noticeable. Nothing you can really do about that. Except stop complaining about it and do something about it. You can't magically make your boobs bigger or theirs smaller, just don't worry about it so much.

[Asker]

But why do I have to make more of an effort than them? See, that's what makes me feel uglier, because they don't need to make an effort to have guys fawning over them, but I do = ugly chick :/

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Well what do you want us to say? You can't change that, it's just how it is. It doesn't mean you're uglier. You're boobs just arn't out there in their faces. Maybe just be more open and friendly or something. But you can't change it so might as well accept it.

[peace-love-couture]

Maybe she just wants to rant and doesn't want to hear anything in particular

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Yeah, maybe

[Travesty]

I couldn't care less about boob size lol. It's almost the last thing that figures into whether I think a girl is hot or not. A girl with a pretty face and small boobs is far, FAR higher on my scale than an uglier girl with big boobs.

Don't worry about it so much. Be thankful for the assets you do have, which sound like many. A lot of people are far worse-off than you, I'm sure.

[Beautybynature]

Padding/push up bras are not false advertisement you idiot! you need a large bust to pull any of that off! push up means.. PUSH UP WHAT YOU NATURALLY HAVE! mosquito bite sized breasts won't push up to create cleavage

[RedThread78]

I've been attracted to girls with smaller breasts. You said you have other excellent features and I'm sure there are men who value that as well.

[sceneofthecrime]

where are guys like you hiding?

[beerY33]

what she said ^

[RedThread78]

Out in the open in plain sight. ;)

[sceneofthecrime]

u need t-shirts so we'll be able to tell :P

[7gnat]

just got my t-shirt(love all titties!)

[IncubusFan]

perkiness matters babes

[taster]

My own preference is small breasts..guess my opinion doesn't count...

[Piluex]

Maybe clubs aren't the best place to search for atention, I personally hate them.

[7gnat]

don't get angry please. attitude is most of your sexiness. this is a quote from you-"but I noticed guys passed me by, even the "ugly loser" types" can you explain what ugly loser types are, and also I think that's is an amazing quality that you have knowing someone is a loser by just looking at them

[Asker]

You know, those guys who think they're the sh*t and who aren't even subtle with their intentions. The ones who grab girls' parts unexpectedly, who try to kiss women at first approach or who generally make women feel uncomfortable, etc.

[7gnat]

concieted guys are the ugly loser types? not sure I get that connection but ok.

[Galaxie500]

lol small breasts are fine.

Don't beat yourself up because of guys

[Asker]

It's hard not to when you're a het girl and even ugly guys obviously ignore you.

[Galaxie500]

a het girl?

[peace-love-couture]

I think she meant hot

[Asker]

Heterosexual, yes. Of course I care about guys and what they think of me. If I was a lesbian, or bi, it wouldn't be as important, but I'm 100% straight (sadly).

[CT_CD]

Sorry op. You're just not well endowed

[Anonymous]

I know how this goes. I was at a club last weekend and I was chatting with this girl for maybe 10 minutes or so. Then I saw this girl with THE most amazing breasts you've ever seen behind her. I actually started getting hard just looking at them and couldn't process anything the other girl was saying. I managed to get away by saying I was going to the bathroom and then ended up talking to the other girl and even got her onto the dancefloor. You should have SEEN those things move and bounce! HEAVEN! I managed to get her number and will be going out with her tomorrow!

[Asker]

Good for you. But what's the need to put small breasts down? Ugh. Guess I'll just never satisfy a guy.

[Opinion Owner]

I wasn't putting small breasts down. I was just saying that I know how in a club a nice pair can get a girl a lot of attention. In truth, it's only useful for the first minute or so. If the girl has nothing else going for her it won't help her too much. And if the small breasted girl is fun she'll be fine. In this case the girl with the perfect breasts was overall pretty amazing. Our date last night was incredible. Her breasts are just a bonus that happens to get me hard quickly.

[Asker]

But that's th thing, you indirectly put small breasts down implying that they'r enot awesome and stuff. Whatever. Good for you.

[Asker]

Like, "nice breasts" to you equal "big breasts". Why can't small breasts be nice? And what if the other girl has a huge rack but nothing else? Like an ugly face or any other unattractive thing, and the small breasted girl has a nice face, nice butt and legs, small waist?

[Opinion Owner]

No, small can be nice too. And all the other stuff matters too for sure. If a girl just has a huge rack and nothing else then obviously that's not great. A girl with a smal set who's thin and has a nice butt and legs will do very well too. In this case, the girl with the incredible (and huge) boobs happened to have a lot of those other things going for her too. And she seems (so far) to have a nice personality and is super sexy. So it's not all about her t*ts.

[Anonymous]

Nothing catches the eye quite like a thing girl with big t!ts. Especially if she's showing some skin. Don't let it get you down. They aren't everywhere.

[Asker]

Pfft. But that means I'll always be second or third best. Ugh.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah! There are so few girls like this that's like worrying about models and actresses. They just aren't real competition for you in the real world.

[Asker]

Then you must live in Flatland or something. I've seen plenty around here. Sure they're not supermodel or actress material, but they ARE thin and busty. But anyway guys will still only settle for me because if they could have a thin and busty girl I bet they would. Even though I'm thin and have an ass I guess it's not good enough.

[Opinion Owner]

Where do you live? I've got to move there! Seriously though, some guys are way more about the ass than the boobs, so don't worry about it. Yeah, a boob guy would be settling, but there are plenty of ass men out there too who wouldn't. And let me know where I should start looking to get a new place. . .

[Asker]

Ugh. Typical.

[Opinion Owner]

Which part? Me being a boob guy or pointing out that there are ass guys? Because if there weren't why would they even bother calling us boob guys? We'd just be called "guys."

[Asker]

You might be a boob guy and whateverm but I don't want to hear how f***ing great big boobs are because I have enough with the media and all the other boob guys around. That's all.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay--they're not THAT great. I'm sure you're fine. Thin with a nice ass get's a LOT of attention.

[Anonymous]

serves you right for going to a club..

[Anonymous]

Small breasts are for marriage and relationships, big breasts are for one night stands and hookups. small breasts mean a girl is marriage material but big breasts mean a girl is just f*** material. that's how it is:)

[peace-love-couture]

I'm pretty sure big breasts doesn't disqualify someone as marriage material

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Lol WTF, this makes no sense (-1). The size of a girls boobs don't qualify her as marriage or one night stand material. You're a moron. Haha

[RedThread78]

yeah this is completely illogical...

[RedThread78]

although pretty funny.

[knowmeyourself]

So, busty girls aren't marriage material? damn! lol

[heatherlu]

Damn, I'll never get married.

[-StillWater-]

Hahahaha This is the stupidest thing I've read in a long time!

[Asker]

Hm. Troll. Well according to your logic, I must be good for nothing, because the LAST thing I want to do right now is to get married. Quit trolling and get a life, would you? Breast size has nothing to do with being a good wife or anything.