Girlfriend compares my penis size to her ex?

Is my girlfriend right for doing this? every time I get into a fight with her she always bring up how my penis size is average and her ex was twice my size and made her feel so much better :( it really kills my confidence and I really don't even have much of a sex drive anymore
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this happened 2 weeks ago and I cannot get hard ever since
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  • This is a control issue.

    Staying in a relationship with a person who says things that put you down will eventually wear you out and hurt your self-esteem. It has already started to affect you. Do not stay with her.

    Whatever the issue is, it has nothing to do with your penis size and ability to please her. So what she is doing is using a "low blow" to weaken you by saying things that will hurt you and get the upper hand in the argument. The actual issue is never addressed when venom is thrown out like this. Also, she is picturing other guys as being able to please her more. So whatever it is you're arguing about- she seems to have the idea that the relationship is based on you pleasing her and doing what she wants, and what it doesn't happen that way (argument) she puts you down.

    People who do this hurt their partners and it takes a long time for them to stop this kind of attack..IF they do at all. Arguing is normal, but shooting down your partner's worth/integrity isn't.

    So don't stay in this.

    By the way- the men who know how to please women understand how women are and listen to them and their bodies...it's not all about penis size. so don't listen to that.

  • She is not a good woman. Do you really want someone like this raising your children? People who want to hurt and belittle for emotional leverage will likely repeat that sort of nasty behavior with their other 'loved ones'. Its not a healthy relationship.

  • No, she's not right at all. That's a poor way to solve a problem, and it says a lot about her character that she's willing to use under-handed comments like that to win. I wouldn't put up with it.

Most Helpful Guys

  • "I don't know a girl alive who would use that in an argument with her boyfriend. If it actually mattered to her enough to bring up against you, she would've left you for a bigger d*** by now."

    Funny. I've had a woman do exactly the same thing to me a few times. I'm only 6" with a 6" girth and when we'd fight she'd say I have a little d***. Once she said that, I never was the same with her. I wasn't interested in having sex with her for years after until we finally split up.

    So frankly, you haven't the first f***ing clue what you're talking about.

    • By the way, she would beg for affection, sex... my **** plenty after that. Too late, she got it when I was horny and that's it.

  • A guy is BUILT on his ego.

    If she breaks through his ego, she breaks through him.

    Unless your penis is smaller than your finger, it's almost impossible for her ex to have had twice your size (it would be a monstrous size, extremely rare).

    Anyways, back to the topic, she is hammering your ego, in hopes that it will trigger a "retreat" in you so that you keep your ego intact.

    She is trying to control you. To manipulate you, by using your ego. Don't let her.

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  • average is ~6 inches and the longest measured is 11 inches so that don't match up. If she is using that in a fight she is just grasping for a way to hurt you. bring up that if she lover her ex's penis so much why has she not crawled back to him.

    • The average is officially now lowered to 5''. & the biggest is 13''.

    • really? O.o Well it does not matter she should not do that. If you knew someone without an eye you would not use that in an argument.

  • Absolutely not. It's most likely an unrelated topic to what you're arguing about, and she's just looking to take a personal shot in order to "win" the argument. It's completely low of her to say and she's only sabotaging her own relationship.

  • she must be a bitch, that's a very rude thing to say. also, I don't think having that big penis is such a great thing. like I'm told to be pretty tight, and if someone is bigger than average it can be painful in the beginning.

    • so you prefer average?

    • i do. too big can hurt, believe me. i don't think you should get back at her by saying she's too wide or something, though. you should just tell her that it huts you when she says things like that, and that's not what a supportive girlfriend should do.

    • she dumped me today :(

  • Real women are smart...she obviously is not a real woman..otherwise she would be able to use her brains..not her emotion to win a fight

  • I agree with everyone else. There's no way you should be spending time with her in the long time. She's just going to drain you. Find someone else

  • That's a shitty move on her part. She keeps doing it because she knows it bugs you. So the next time she tries to do it, don't get mad. Just calmly say, "Clearly you're in no state to have a civilized conversation, so when you're calmed down, you let me know." Then walk away. Or simply break up with her for that crap.

  • dump her. nobody should have to put up with that.

  • Why be with someone who doesn't think you're sexy just the way you are? Either dump her now, or start looking for her replacement and dump her then.

    Either way, begin the process of moving on emotionally right now. It's over.

  • and is she ever says that again, just tell her she has average sized boobs

  • ew what a bitch. tell she should go f*** her ex then. you don't need a girl like that.

  • Dump her right away.

    • Then go and try to woo Sally...she's the kind of girl you want to be with :)

    • haha =)

  • This is such bullsh*t. I call troll.

    • no I am serious

    • I don't know a girl alive who would use that in an argument with her boyfriend. If it actually mattered to her enough to bring up against you, she would've left you for a bigger d*** by now.