A private striptease - your reaction?

[Anonymous]

I guess this question could be for men or women, doesn't really matter! I have been known to sometimes.. do a little show to keep things spicy. My partner normally can read the signs of when I'm going to, but he also reacts this way if I'm undressing. He will stop whatever he is doing, lie back and settle down on the bed and watch me intently. Doesn't matter if the TV is on or not, eyes are on me and when I leap onto his lap he'll happily give me a cuddle and a kiss. If I'm doing it on purpose and dragging it out he will examine my body a little more closely - tilting his head this way and that and perhaps make a few happy noises. He never does anything pervy like start touching himself. How do you react if you're getting a little show? I think his reaction is a positive thing but more and more the television are portraying men as pigs with how they react; as if the woman is only for their amusement and once it's done there's no more use for them. I like to think that there are at least a handful of men who care a little more about the woman doing it!

[Anonymous]

You are kidding right. Men don't even need the stripper to have a face as long as she has a hole and will take plastic or cash, he's happy. What else is there to care about? If you're dancing or stripping for your husband or boyfriend then yeah I hope he cares a little about you but as for whores doing it for money, they have no other use except to be used in the way you said.

"He never does anything pervy like start touching himself" - isn't what you're doing a lot worse seeing as you're urging him to do something sexual. You're a little messed-up girl, men are pigs because we allow them to treat us this way and girls like you only reinforce that we're not worth anything more.

[Belgie]

Man hating lesbian alert?

[Opinion Owner]

Honey, I used to be a stripper I know what I'm talking about. OK I've been known to f*** women for money too but that does not make me lesbian, at least that's what my husband says. Because I agree that I didn't need a face (or a brain) means I hate men? I think you're maybe confusing me with someone else

[MrOracle]

Don't mind the haters. This is your BF, not some random dude. It's not only fine, it's NICE.

As a man, I LOVE to look at my GF's body, and I enjoy it far more when she enjoys me looking.

Some folks are a little too uptight, having incorrectly been brought up to believe that all sexuality (possibly except for the purpose of making children) is bad. The US in particular is overly puritan and prudish in that respect.

On behalf of your (hopefully happy and satisfied) man, thank you.

[Asker]

I am slightly surprised at the responses from the girls - I'm not sure they're reading the word PRIVATE! I'm insecure about my body, and he loves me for being brave and showing him my stretch marks, etc, and he loves the fact he's the only one who sees. Oh he is haha. Very much so. The question I was asking was more is his reaction of smiling and watching a good, positive, RESPECTFUL reaction; not he's looking at a pretty girl he must be sex mad...

[kayne32]

Just because some of these women have had negative experiences with men they stereotype all men... I think the fact that you are trying to keep your sex life exciting is a good thing

[Asker]

I didn't realize this question would be met with such strong negativity. Apparently the world now thinks I'm a hooker. Oh well, least I'm pretty! :D

[Asker]

Btw, no I'm not vain, so don't comment with "omg, you well love yourself" Get over it.

[Asker]

(Last comment wasn't aimed at you, I think it's nice that you don't see me as a complete slut like some do :) As I said in the update, I don't get a pole out or anything, it's a private thing and intended for enjoyment not degradment.

[kayne32]

my point exactly

[Asker]

we think alike. I like you. :)

[kayne32]

I think some of the girls on here are pathetic... Glad you liked my last answer and good luck to you the world needs more women who are not so up there own arse to realize that both people in a relationship can put something into it

on a side note I like the way some-one marked my answer down, oh I'm sorry was I telling a truth that doesn't exist in your closed mind

[Asker]

Ha... I appreciate that strippers for instance have a more... personal view, that's fine. But just because I keep my boyfriend happy and he appreciates my body, I don't see how that makes me a slut? It's not like I'm stripping in front of thousands... And besides, these women must get naked, or do they have sex in straightjackets and get changed under blankets and closed doors?! :S

[JennieF]

Done it plenty. I enjoy it. So does he.

[Anonymous]

No, as far as I know men like to degrade women for amusement only, or they like to watch them being degraded because they are pigs. The only thing that matters to them is that there's a chain of supply of stupid teen sluts to keep them amused and to keep it visually fresh for them.

[Belgie]

Wow! Hate guys a lot, do you?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I hate sluts mostly.

[Asker]

Quite like the fact this question is "what is your reaction" and your answer is "no".

[Opinion Owner]

Hey nobody called you a slut, I answered Belgie who claims I hate guys. The point I make is that guys like sleaze and sluts, that's what we play to when we dance or strip for them. Yeah I think it's degrading that I have to present my body and move in that way to please him when all I want to do is cover myself up and hide from that side of his sexual appetite. But if I did that, he'd leave right? Nowhere in my answer did I say YOU were a slut so stop hating on me, read it properly

[Asker]

I never said that you were wrong, you're entitled to your opinion. But I'm trying to make the point that not all men are horrible bastards. My boyfriend does not like bleach blond, huge boobs, etc etc. I'm just curious if you are viewing this as because it's a striptease, it must be an awful thing to do to satisfy the man. Maybe I get pleasure from it too? Maybe the fact I'm insecure about my body I have someone love me for the things I hate is a turn on to me?

[Opinion Owner]

I completely understand the insecurity about your body, I have that too and the more he encourages me the more I hate it. I don't believe I can look good doing this (great if you do, all power to you) but I can't comprehend that it looks good on me is what I mean. I guess what did not come across in my answer is that *anyone doing a strip will do, as long as the "slutiness" is there, men are happy. I know too many pigs to change my opinion and they don't understand it doesn't come naturally to me

[Asker]

Some of it is that I am the only girl in my family - 4 older brothers and no mum but a dad. I have more confidence in men than you do. It's differcult, but he does respect me and when I show him, he will hug and kiss me. He doesn't ask me to do it, we only got to this point by gentle guiding and doing steps towards it. I understand where you're coming from, if you've only had bad experiences with men you will expect bad reactions.. maybe I'm wrong? Sorry if I offended

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not offended by you hon, at least you have the capacity to empathise unlike guys who just jump on the bandwagon. I'd like to see them wear a frilly thong and gyrate their bodies in a sexual way without looking too stupid for words. Well, whatever, good for you sounds like your men were good to you, mine were let's just say a little incestuous and that's what sickens me that they'll look at any girl that way and think it's her job to please them and that it's natural for us. Good luck 2 you ;)

[Asker]

Aww well thanks :) I hope things get better for you really. I won't tell you to try anything, cause there's no point going out of your comfort zone, but it's horrible that you feel the way you do :\ I must say I was quite surprised at the female responses and midly pleased at the mens (that they weren't living up to the females view of "pigs") All the best to you, and thanks for sharing your view even if others' don't share it :)