Is it weird that I'm always more horny than my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Let me start by explaining that my boyfriend has low testosterone, but he doesn't take testosterone replacement because he doesn't like how it makes him feel. I'm also glad he's not taking it because when he did for awhile he acted like such a jerk I couldn't take it much longer. That being said, I can understand why he might have a decreased sex drive, but then again maybe it's just me asking too much? He's always been a sweet guy who is respectful of my boundaries, which I love, but when we first started dating he was all over me. He would get turned on fairly easily and get really excited if I was wearing something revealing, etc. And he wasn't taking any testosterone back then either. Then one day he just said he wanted a relationship where we didn't fool around so much and could just spend time together. (which, its not like all we ever did was fool around anyway. If I was oer at his house all night we'd probably mess around some for part of the night, but we did a lot of other stuff too.) Anyway, well I thought I'm lucky to have a nice guy that wants an actual relationship, but since then, we almost never do anything. He told me he's just at that comfy stage in the relationship, but we've only been dating 6 months and I don't see why comfy means never wanting to fool around with me. We occasionally do something if I initiate it, but he never initiates it anymore, and he never gets turned on by anything I do anymore. For awhile he stopped even acting like my boyfriend. I thought about it and thought, omg, if we were friends, this is exactly what we'd be doing. he didn't try to hold my hand, didn't hug me, and only kissed me if I kissed him. Granted, I think he was having a bad week and this only lasted a week, because I said something about it and he's been much better since. I know he still loves me and he's often tired from work, etc., but sometimes I feel like a skank or something because I'm horny a lot and he never is. And when I've brought it up to him he says he's sorry he doesn't get an erection ever 5 minutes anymore cause he's not 20 years old anymore. (hes only 26 now though, btw). and I understand you don't get as excited as much when you've been dating for awhile, but this just seems a bit much. But I also don't know if I'm just expecting more than I should be. I like to just sit with a guy too sometimes without him trying to get in my pants, but I also get horny sometimes and it sucks when we go a couple weeks where all we do is cuddle and kiss (not make out, just short kisses).

[Mojo1987]

I am in the EXACT same position as you but it's only been 2 months! Same age too. Things moved very fast with us though and he was basically staying over every other night after 2ish weeks. Does your guy play a sport by any chance? I'm beginning to wonder if the combination of low testosterone with releasing the endorphins while playing a sport is the reason for the lack of friskiness. I've never had a guy be like this before but all the guys I've dated have been douche bags so it really makes ya wonder if you should be picking your battles and let this go, or if you have a legitimate concern. I think about the future and how most long term couples don't have tonssss of sex (generally speaking) and just reason that we're just there faster cuz we're so close, but that only helps until I'm frustrated as he's asleep spooning me and I'm ready to go. Wish I could give more advice but it's nice to know that I'm not alone, hope that'll help you too!

[madiocre]

They say that after around 6months the love buzz chemical stops working. That could be what's happened? I think a lot of girls have high sex drives I certainly have a higher one then my boyfriend. Perhaps just let him know but be carefull about bringing it up. Guys tend to get very defensive about their sex drives because its seen as being linked to their masculinity. Perhapssstart by talking about what he likes about cuddling..etc then move the conversation into why you like sex. He seemms like a soft emotional type so mayne try let him see the emo side of sex.

[DebiPie]

This is not normal for a 26 year old male. He needs to see a therapist & a doctor. Maybe the testosterone isn't the only answer. It could be more. You should have to feel this way & resentment will build up & eventually you two will split up.

You don't want to start feeling like roommates or buddies either.

You both will never have the same sex drive, but this is totally off the mark. You are both too young to settle for this.

[indoboy]

it's not weird. I had a female friend who was always hornier than I was. and then, there were times I was horny and she wasn't. at least you're honest. :)

[Shaun]

Women are hornier than men, in general.