My boyfriend is constantly trying to undress me and it makes me feel uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

I could see if he was doing it at home, which he does. But he also does it when we are outside. He keeps sliding his hand under my skirt or pulls me close and slides my jacket of my shoulders. Of course I like being close to him but when he's doing it in public it makes me feel uncomfortable and kinda cheap. Also we are only dating 3 months and I'm still a virgin so we are not at a point were sex or being naked with each other had become normal. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want him to feel I wouldn't want to be close to him. How do I approach this topic?

[Anonymous]

This is the type of situation where you have to be upfront with him to get your point across. You have to tell him to stop undressing you in public. And warn him that if he does try to undress you ever again without your permission, you'll dump him and never come in contact with him.

But honestly, I think that if he did not have the decency to ask you first about how you felt when he did those things, he may be in the relationship for mostly the physical contact.

You are the person that decides what level of intimacy you want with a guy. Don't ever think that you have to do something for him, because you are in a relationship or because he might really want to.

And you could be close with him or any guy without getting too physical, by doing an activity that both of you enjoy.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him in a nice way that it makes you uncomfortable. If he doesn't understand and doesn't appreciate your honesty, but instead gets offended or mad, then remind yourself that your boundaries are important and to respected at all times. He'll either understand or he's not worth your time and effort:-)

[jade_butterfly]

tell him to quit doing that simply because its disrespectful toward you if he's doesn't get the idea then you really should reconsider

[Slayde]

Just be upfront with him and tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. However, if he's spending more time focused on getting your clothes off and less time focused on you, that's definitely a warning flag.

[Anonymous]

You could also try getting him off more in private so he'll be less horny when you're in public. Just a thought.

[Voltaire]

Just be honest. Guys appreciate a bit of candor.

[Asker]

I know I just don't want him to get it wrong, you know as if I wanted him to stay away. I don't want that I just want him to be less 'agressive' when it comes to this

[Voltaire]

If you say that exact sentence to him, that'd probably clear it up, huh?

[Asker]

idk, I hope so

[Slayde]

Yep! If you don't leave room for misunderstanding, then there won't be any.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry...but that got me hot..just reading that...