First time giving a bj, what do I do?

I'm going to give my guy a bj and It's my first one. When I gave a hand job it took around 15 minutes for him to finish and that was the second time. He didn't finish the first time. To make it more interesting for me, I bought chocolate body paint so I was going to use that!

1. What techniques should I use?

2. Will it take longer then a hand job?


Most Helpful Girl

  • How long is takes completely depends on the guy and the giver, but I personally like it to last a while, because I really take my time in the beginning, enjoying it and getting him riled up.

    This is what I do (this might get graphic):

    Start with a slow handjob (kind of teasing him, getting him ready), then kiss his belly and hips, then his penis. Kiss and lick it for a while, just getting acquainted with it. I like to swirl my tongue around the tip, lick him from base to tip, and tongue his frenulum (the spot on the underside of the head of his penis). Take the tip/head into your mouth, then move your mouth up and down, gradually taking more of his penis into your mouth each time you move down, and gaining speed. Hold the base steady with your hand (or a couple of fingers) this whole time, or else it's going to be hard to keep it still, haha. If you can't take much of his penis into your mouth, use your hand to stroke the rest of the shaft in rhythm with your mouth. Eye contact also adds a big visual turn-on for most guys.

    Those are the basics... Oh, ask him to tell you when he's close to orgasm, so you can really focus on keeping a good rhythm. If he's about to orgasm and you pause, it won't happen :P You should keep up a solid pace (like a handjob) once you reach the "home stretch," or the blowjob is going to take longer than necessary.

    And be careful about your teeth!

    • How long *it* takes

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    • That totally depends on the guy. You might want to ask him, "Is that good? Faster or slower?" during it just so you get to know what he likes. I had my boyfriend show me the pace he uses when he masturbates so I could mimic it when I give him handjobs/blowjobs, haha, because that's probably the ideal pace for a guy. It also really helps to just use your hand and give your mouth a break when you're going fast. I hope that makes sense :P Thanks for BA :)

    • Great tips!

      If you need more tips, you should read Jack's Blowjob Lessons, the best bj guide ever!

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What Guys Said 3

  • If you've never given oral before, it might seem a bit intimidating. What's it going to be like? Will I choke and die? How will it smell? Should I swallow? What if I suck at it? Should I try or not at all? What if I scratch him, or I told him I'm "experienced" but what if he finds out that I'm clueless - and other questions a like.

    I know a lot of you are searching for a quick fix - you want the first time you give head to be PERFECT. Let me tell you right now that it wont. It may be okay, but it won't be perfect. Giving perfect head to a guy takes some practice, experience and of course - the right knowledge. As long as you are willing to put in some time and effort - you can be "perfect" but not every single time. So don't expect him to orgasm every time, 'cause he won't. And that's normal and okay, so don't worry about it. Now let me give you a simple "survival guide" for the first time you give oral.

    1 - Stop worrying. It's not the end of the world. Just calm the f3%k down. It's cool. You'll try, it's not gonna be that bad, you'll see how the whole thing seems, and maybe you even end up liking it - or not. But in case you don't - start loving it. The sooner you start enjoying giving head, the sooner you'll get a lot better at it.

    2 - Be honest. Tell him it's your first time, so what? You'll learn fast. You'll look for feedback, you'll practice. Every guy will appreciate that, as long as you're trying, no one will have anything against that.

    3 - Everyone out there will tell you stuff like "NO teeth". I say "yes" teeth. But that doesn't mean you should scratch him and destroy him - it just means that sometimes in certain positions and moments it's GOOD to use your teeth, if you know how, when, why and to what extent to use them. What I'm saying no to is - Do not use your teeth, until you get more experience.

    4 - Use your hands. Remember, you're not only giving him oral with your mouth. You have hands, a voice (for talking dirty), moaning, stroking, licking, tickling. A combination of all those things is what creates a good blow job.

    5 - Maintain eye contact from time to time and don't be afraid to ASK for feedback. Communication is key. Once again, relax, it's not the end of the world even if it's not perfect, so don't expect it to be. As long as you gave your best - it's cool. For more tips check out Jack's Blowjob Lessons

  • Think of a blowjob like a handjob where you use your mouth. A lot of girls think they should only be using their mouth and tongue, and it requires p*rnstar-level endurance, muscle control, and skill to actually get most guys off that way.

    Use two fingers at the base of his penis and give him a handjob, and then use your mouth and tongue on the head (though pay attention to his sensitivity... guys like me can't take a bunch of tongue or pressure on the top of my head). Have him shower right before so you can suck on his balls too without being grossed out.

    Just remember blowjob = handjob + mouth.

  • Paint the chocolate onto his penis in the form of a smiley face or a rude word, Then lick it all off, Then take all of his penis in your mouth and suck it like a lollipop. If he wants let him hold your head so it goes deeper, He should release his seed faster than a handjob. :)


What Girls Said 1

  • If you can't take his whole penis in your mouth use your hand. Stick as much in your mouth as possible and use your hand for the rest of his penis. Good tip take your lips and put them around your teeth, try and cover your teeth up so they don't hurt him.

    One thing my guy also likes is if I suck on his balls. Guys do like eye contact but that's not something big to worry about, it's not all that important.

    I can only take my guys whole penis in sometimes other times I gag. If he holds your head and you start gagging tell him to stop because it might make you puke...I've done this...thats not so hot. Like I actually puked on him...yeah.

    Generally they do not take as long as a hand job.

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