I really miss him and want to talk to him:(

[sweetyXOXOXOXOX]

Okay so I dated this guy for a month.. everything was fine, we were going to have sex but I said no last minute because I didn't know if I wanted to really lose my virginity so fast. But he fingered me and I bled a lot.. like a lot. We didn't notice I bled until the end. His bed sheets were covered and we both washed them. I felt like we were married.. And the bed sheets were stained, kind of gross but no one ever uses that bed so those sheets will probably never be washed because his mom doesn't know I was at his house. Doesn't this mean anything to a guy? Like won't he think of me every time he goes into that room?.. He was okay with the fact that I said no to sex, but it felt as if he got a little mad.. but I don't blame him, that's a tease. After that, he dropped me off to the bus stop and waited for me to get on the bus. I really like him.. we were going to the movies later that night, but something came up so he couldn't go. He didn't text me that night or the next day, so I decided to see if he had been on Facebook at all that day.. he was on Facebook. I commented on a picture of us kissing and 5 minutes later he deleted that picture. I got mad and called him. He said that we were flexing, and he doesn't think it will go any further.. but I understood that because he is a rapper and thinks a lot about his career.. As I brought up the sex part, he said if we had sex he would have thought of me differently.. we got off the phone and I was really mad. We didn't talk for a week, and I missed him so much so I texted him. He said he wasn't the right guy for me, and had moved on to "another girl" which I know is not true..he said he thought I was done with him because I didn't text him at all that week. But the truth is, he blocked me on MSN the night I called him AND he told one of his friends he was done with me even before I called him. I really truly miss him and so I texted him after a month, on Canada day. I said hey, and he never replied...I really miss him and want to talk to him:(

[Aries11w]

I'm so sorry your hurting and he has treated you like this, but thank god youdidnt have sex with him! I think your instinct was correct, you obviously felt things weren't 100% right if you weren't ready to lose your virginity to him.

Believe me, if you had have had sex with him this story wouldn't have ended any differently. He sounds like a player and an immature one at that.

you've tried to make peace and he's not interested. I fear all he wanted from you was the sex and when he realized it wasn't on the cards he's moved on to someone else. It's nothing you've done, if a guy genuinely likes you he wouldn't let you go.

All I can say is cut him out of your life. Your hurt won't stop if you keep trying to contact him or leave communication open (such as Facebook). Delete him as a friend, delete him from your phone, grieve and move on. I promise it'll get easier, but only if you truly cut communication and can't see what he's doing on Facebook/msn/etc.

[pandasgirl91]

Girl I am so glad you didn't give in, cause believe me even though he says it would have been different if ya'll had sex, it wouldn't have. I don't know him but he sounds like a real jerk and you deserve someone who will wait until your 100% ready to go all the way. You're strong enough to hold back and wait, and beautiful enough to do better! Don't let any guy tell you otherwise cause guys like him, are not worth your time :) He sounds like a playa out for one thing and you deserve better, find you a real man baby girl!

[mikeb79]

I see how one might think there is still some uncertainty as to whether you two might hook up. My sense? It's over. Totally, completely, and utterly. There is nothing you can do that will ever change him on this. The obstacle is insurmountable.

I'm not saying this to be mean; I'm hoping I can help you get over him and move on.

[sweetyXOXOXOXOX]

Really?.. I feel like he could have been with me but he chose not to because of his "rapping" career. I really do miss him, and this is super hard

[mikeb79]

I think so, yes. When a guy really wants you, other committments won't really stop him. He'll suggest an alternate time to meet. Also, he won't tell you that he's not the guy for you. I think the ladies posting here are correct: he was interested more in sex and not so interested in you. Knowing this doesn't make it less hard. But it does help you start to get through it. When you start getting though, it, you'll maybe start to meet other guys, guys who are better for you! :)