Why doesn't sex feel pleasurable for me? Need advice!

[Anonymous]

This is the second time I've had sex with my boyfriend. When we first had sex I was on top because he really likes that. The thing is, he is too big and could only go in me so far because it really hurt. I think it may have been the way I was positioned because I had to switch to the bottom and even though it hurt, he still fit. Basically I feel bad because he was asking me if it felt good and at some points it did like when he was going in and out slow but I think it was more pleasurable for him! I also never thought I would be one of these women but I faked an orgasm! I feel so bad and I don't know how to tell him or if I should but he asked me the first time we had sex if I orgasmed and I said yes, but I didn't. He's new to this and I don't blame him but he didn't touch me in the right spots. I know how to better since I masturbate. My questions are: 1. Why doesn't sex feel pleasurable for me? It feels more like a job then pleasure. 2. How can I make it more pleasurable? 3. Should/how do I tell him I faked an orgasm? PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE!

[Anonymous]

okay here is some advice. Start with showing your boyfriend what you like, placing his hands on areas you want him to touch. Tell him what you like. Sex is so much better when you can communicate with the person. It is hard for girl to have orgasm's without having their clit's in contact so try different positions that will rub that area. Also make sure you have a lot of foreplay before you have sex, it will make you a lot more horny and it brings more excitement. Make sure that when you are having sex, you aren't thinking about when your next doctors appointment is... it isn't important in that moment. Think of the moment and things that turn you on. Another way of making things better in bed, I if you masturbate in front of him, he will be able to see what you like and it will also turn him on ! I hope this helps. Don't feel alone I was in the same boat as you were, and truly practice and patience is key !

[Anonymous]

It just takes a few more times because your vag is super tight right now. Trust me it will get better after a few more times! The same thing happened to me too, it hurt really bad the first couple times but it is much better now. Also, use lots of lube!

[sexhelp101]

1. Your pucci is just tight. That's a good thing for him because it feels good. However, you need to tell him "your **** is huge and it hurts...go slow and not too deep" - This will actually make him feel good about himself, it's not a bad thing.

2. Have him eat your pucci first. Just tell him how you feel because I think most people like getting oral, right? This will get you all wet and allow the skin down there to be more elastic. Thus, you will be able to take his **** easier. Also, you'll be more aroused and no so scared to take it.

3. NEVER tell a man you faked an orgasm unless you know he's smart enough to understand women. I know my wife has faked before, and it doesn't bother me because I know she had already had an orgasm before that, so she was just trying to finish me off. But if you didn't orgasm at all, he's going to think there's a real problem.

[Anonymous]

A lot of women have trouble having an orgasm with a man's penis alone. A penis isn't as nimble as a finger after all. Have him try oral, lots of women claim to be able to orgasm from that. Also you can try new positions. You are bound to like some better than others. I have heard doggy style is a position women seem to like. Of course I am not a woman, so this is only what I have heard.

[MajinTalon]

I'm guessing you're a small woman?
My lady was extremely petite and her pussy was very shallow when it came to direct entry because of the size of my penis.
So we woud have sex at angle from the side. It eould allow me full penetration and motion which made it pleasurable for the both of us.
Experiment and be honest.
find a point of entry that works for you.
Vanilla sex won't work for everyone.