WTF just happened - total nice shy guy turned into horny raging beast in seconds!

[Anonymous]

Prologue: Recently single and friends warned me who to avoid (the womanizer) and who was nicest and would be the least likely to try something (the guy in question - "don"). I went out with friends and met a medium-sized group of guys my roommate's boyfriend works with. I might have been considered promiscuous in an Amish community as I was wearing capris and a nice t-shirt... not even trying really. I just drove 5 hours and probably looked like crap to be honest, but I digress. I treated each one the same and did not show preference and only began talking to "don" because he sat down next to me. I continued to obliviously patter on about random crap and then walked home with "don" and my friend and her boyfriend. There were very long silences even on the way home between "don" and I so much so that I figured he was just being nice and walking with me so that roomie/bf could get privacy. Once back to the apartment and roomie/bf had gone to his room I asked "don" if I could borrow a book because I needed to unwind from the long drive. While looking at the books I paid absolutely no attention to him and when I stood up he grabbed my hips, pulled me towards him, and began passionately kissing me. Now I am no male expert, but I have had my fair share of flirtatious moments, etc. and I was COMPLETELY THROWN OFF GUARD! So much so that I pushed him off because I was like wtf just happened?! To make matters worse he had a raging boner (sorry tmi). He then continued to pursue me for the next hour although I continued to give him the "I'm not that kind of girl" spiel. He was very nice throughout the experience minus the extreme forward nature of his approach. At one point we even talked some more about random stuff for a while. Then it was back to let's freaking make out NOW! time. The next day I told the story to my roomie and her boyfriend - both of whom sat there with their jaws dropped open for a few seconds. Apparently "don" has not even hit on or displayed interest in a single girl since the boyfriend has known him. Which made me wonder if he was just wasted but apparently only had a beer or two before heading home. I am completely at a loss for an explanation. It was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde! Any ideas?

[ReallyReal]

Sounds pretty normal to me based on that situation. (Someone was a bit clueless :P)

It's just plain old fashioned male hornyness; a raw emotion that rages like wildfire once sparked.

Being shy and quiet suggested that a lot of stuff was going on in his head (probably fantasizing/planning about the next hopeful steps) thereby fueling his libido and got him into overdrive until he couldn't hold it in any longer when he finally got the chance to be alone with you (as fantasized/planned).

I realise you had low expectations because it was a first encounter with a "shy guy" but you girls really need to understand how introverted sexually active males operate.

It's a really nice surprise for some girls who desire that but not so nice for others as in your case for example.

Look at some of the queues from a males perspective:
1) Walking home together
2) "Unwind"

and that's just from your side of the story; imagine his.

The beer likely contributed to his lack of inhibition if he drank it fast enough and is not a seasoned drinker.

Cheers :]

[TheMasculinist]

Soooo you met a guy and went home with him on the first night, and you wondered why he thought you were interested? Yeah that's a complicated explanation. Next time you aren't interested in taking things to the next level...DONT GO HOME WITH THE GUY...because that is sending a certain signal like "hey I'm coming home with you on the first night...i must be a bigslut" Think about things from his perspective...he doesn't normally find any interest in a girl, which means he may have either just been in the mood, or truly interested in you, and although he doesn't share his affection with just anyone, he knew he wanted to with you...and that's why he came up to you in the first place, because he was attracted to you. Suddenly you are going home with him...and wondering why he would think something was about to happen? Wow...you must be top of your class...

[Asker]

I was a guest of his roommate's. I had a couch bed made up for me and was staying the night in the living room. Sorry that I wasn't clear about that. It is the only reason I went back with them.

[Anonymous]

My friend's dad told us a long time ago "the quiet ones you have to watch out for". I believe this is to be so. See men are men, biologically they are hard wired to want sex from women.This is normal and doesn't make them good or bad guys. HOWEVER when a guy is overly shy and comes off excessively nice and doesn't talk to girls much, he may be covering up his true nature. because deep down every man does want to spend time with women so why would a particular guy be so passive around women? Usually those are the ones that are covering up a huge freaky side or could be rapist/perverts.

[TheMasculinist]

Wow...those are some interesting comments...and by interesting I mean..."bigotted sexist and chauvinistic" Wow...I could hold back but...Im gonna be as rude as I found this WHOLE concept of lumping men together...men aren't the ones who dress like prostitutes--we don't wear makeup, we don't put on fake body parts to make ourselves more sexually appealing...we aren't the strippers and prostitutes and p*rn stars which are over 99% hiring for just females. So...men...arent the perverts...women are.

[Opinion Owner]

it's bigoted, sexist, and chauvinistic to say that straight men desire women sexually? the rest of your little rant wasn't even relevant to the FACT I just said. wtf are you overcompensating for? are you one of those guys I talked about and now you feel guilty? if so that's not my problem

[J3R3MAYA]

rather than being perverts/ rapists < a total exggeration imo they might be just holding back due lack of self esteem or respect of the other person so this guy mentioned in the post for example probably misinterpreted her and thought that she was giving him ''hints'' that she might be intrested in sexual intercourse

[kalie]

Well, reading this it looks like you came home with him. Walking alongside a couple who went to bed at some point and not as a group of four friends. I rest my case.

[Asker]

Well as we were visiting for the weekend I had been totally set up on an air mattress in another room. The walk home was just that - a walk back to the apartment. My friend had not seen her boyfriend in weeks and we were both giving them some space so that they could get some privacy.

[kalie]

Maybe he thought the situation was very romantic and in addition liked you. And then he also thinks the guy should initiate and that asking ruins the mood/looks stupid. Sounds like you were nice about rejecting his advances, were you making excuses? He must have been well confused! Some guys don't get that a polite no is still a no, not a maybe. Guys don't speak nicely to each other. Say no and say it loud, then explain why. He won't analyze the maybe's, so spoonfeed him.

[TurbulentDan12]

Alcohol? Turns the shiest of the bunch into party animals.

[Asker]

His roommate (my friend's boyfriend) immediately ruled it out. It was my go-to answer after spending five years in college!

[TurbulentDan12]

Maybe peer pressure then. It's kind of crazy somebody can just break out of their "shell" like that. Sometimes I wish I could do that.

[MyNameIsJonas]

Obviously you are unaware. The phrase "Can I borrow a book?" is sexual innuendo for "I want you inside me"

Here are some other terms men and women use for intercourse:

"Can you help me grab a stereo from upstair's?"

"Do you want to go outside and see my new car?"

"My friend has work early in the morning, Could I sleep at your house?"

[Asker]

Although I see what you're saying, I wouldn't call myself unaware. Those examples are clearly invitations to the private space of the guy (and extremely funny I might add). His door was wide open and my friend was still up and moving around getting ready for bed. If asking for a book really means "I want you inside of me" then there would be a lot of lucky librarians in the world.

[Shyboy265]

The question... I'm dead 😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is just really shy, and the only way he can show he likes a girl, is to just throw it all out there at once.