Open relationship?? How to bring up the subject?

[Anonymous]

I want an open relationship with my boyfriend. He's not the greatest in bed :/ but, I love him very much. I want to be fulfilled sexually as well as emotionally so I thought that perhaps an open relationship would be a good solution? We've been together for 2 years and I think he will eventually be the man I want to marry so, I do not want to break up with him (he's awesome with kids and my family. He's a great guy) but, I do want to experience better sex. Maybe sex just isn't fulfilling to me? He's the only man I've ever had sex with so I'm not completely sure but, I do want to find out if it's him or me. I do not want to date around. Just sleep with other people. I've read about it and this seems like a great idea.

[mickey45]

what happens after you sleep with a few guys and find out its you? If he is a family guy and good with kids--dosent sound like he would want to share you with someone else. -he sounds like a traditional guy. Why not get some books on the female orgasm- buy you some differnt vibrators and dildos. try to find your G spot. find out how to please yourself then show him. If after that- he can't learn -then let him go. if you care about him don't let him get wind of the fact that hey I love you -but you can't satisfy me- I want to sleep with some other guy-I love you- but this other guy is a real man. I would rather you just shoot me than say that.

[l-hedoniste]

Open relationships are a great idea IF everyone can agree on the terms. Mid-relationship, the "I don't want to be exclusive anymore" talk tends to be more explosive.

Serious question: If he's The One, and he's okay with the mediocre sex over the long term, and he wants to stay exclusive, will you? Think this out, because if he responds "No, absolutely not. End of discussion," you'll have to decide whether you're going to cheat or suck up crappy sex forever.

[Bugiman]

well she could also still leave him. She doesn't need to cheat or live with a bad sex life

[madiocre]

If he is the man you want to marry then maybe you shouldn't take the risk. What makes him so bad in bed? Maybe you need to learn what you like (with yourself ) so you can help him. If it shis attitude you might just need t o have a long talk...

[Asker]

He doesn't really understand the concept of going slow. Even when I try to explain it to him he likes to try to shove it in. Aren't you supposed to start sex slow and not rush straight into it? Sex with him is seriously painful sometimes.. this is the reason we haven't done it in a few months and we don't usually do it at all.

[Milesdavis2998]

There is no such thing as an open relationship. You have 'single' and 'married.' FWB isn't an option yet.

[tc1125]

you better be sure he's into the idea of an open relationship before you speak to him or it could be the end for you guys. There is no way in hell I'd be OK with the idea of it and I would have thought most people feel the same.

If you feel he isn't satisfying you then can't you try new things or talk to him? this seems a bit extreme.

Besides if you are in a relationship with someone and want to marry that person, why would you want to sleep with other guys? seems a little slutty. .

[superuss]

Why do people want to be in a relationship, if they are okay with each other, having sex with other people? Sounds like you are downgrading your boyfriend to be a FWB. I honestly don't understand the logic in this.

[SixStringSeal]

Honestly just go your separate ways. Sex is important and you can't just work around it trying to make things better.

[dudeman]

this sounds like a real bad idea, you should date another swinger if that's what you are into

[Ezmotts]

Just break up with him.