Personally I love my man to be assertive and aggressive in the bedroom. I don't want to be tied up with whips or chains or anything though.
For me, it's because I am ALWAYS in control. I have amazing intuition with people and I can read them quite easily. It's not hard for me to be the one who is manipulating the situation to work out the way I want. I am opinionated and never back done when I believe I am right or when I am standing up for my beliefs. Men are often intimidated by me or get offended.
The bedroom is the one place where I expect a man to take control if he can't do it in other aspects. While I appear feminine, I'm not that delicate and I don't like being treated as though I am super fragile. However, if a man can make me feel like I need him and he is in charge, I melt like better.
It's tiring always knowing what to expect, always knowing that you will get your way and ultimately knowing that some guys don't understand when is the right time and place to be more assertive.
I admit, it's hard to know with women. Sometimes you can cross boundaries, but that's why you got to be more perceptive to the way we carry ourselves and talk.
Again this is how is applies to me, I can't speak for anyone else. And I took dig the whole rape fantasy thing, but I have never carried that out. :P
I'm guessing it has something to do with the fact that no matter how much society evolves and how much gender roles are getting equal now, there's still a part of primitivity in us. We enjoy being dominated because that's the way animals do it. But this is just me supposing plus I had a test in evolutionary psychology just today haha.
Personally, I think it's f***ing hot.
Depending on who the guy is is whether I like to be dominated or not. My last boyfriend was really masculine and I loved him taking control of me in the bedroom. My new boyfriend is completely the opposite and if he tried to dominate me I'd have a hard time not laughing so I always take contol and the sex is still great.
The classic theory is that submissives give up control, and in doing so, give up any guilt. They're not dirty and naught, the big bad man _made_ them suck penis or whatever.
The classic theory on dominants is that they punish/control their partner for eliciting desire in them.
Not saying that's true, but whatever.
I'd say it's fairly true especially when you see in cultures like say Asian ones or our repressed American ones where the image is any woman who has sex before a certain age is a slut. Then take a look at a lot of European girls and my experience and understanding is that most of them over there aren't nearly as submissive (many into bondage even and being the dominant ones). It seems to be a reasonably true theory. But, it is just a theory and not fact :P so I take it as that.
because a real man is a cave man that takes what he wants and does what he pleases that's why women like the a**holes and bad boys
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it's just hot
Women get turned on by strong men. As a result if a man shows strength and dominance in the bedroom most women will get turned on. Strong men equals, strong babies.
it's manly
I don't know that there's a "psychology" behind it. It just appeals to me to be completely dominated like a sex slave. It'd be a huge turn on to me. But there's a difference between fantasy and reality, rape is wrong. But rape/domination roleplay is between two consenting, trusting partners.
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