Why do men only want sex?

Guys just seem to want to have sex with me. I'm not easy and have only slept with 2 guys in the past. However all the guys I meet only want me for sex, even guys I meet outside of clubs, like mutual guy friends,work collegues. Do you think I must be portraying myself a bit slutty? I don't think I am personally as I don't wear revealing clothes at all or flirt with everyone I meet. I just don't get it. I wear a bit of make up and am quite pretty but like I say I don't think I am slutty with it. What do you think is up with these guys? Most of them know loads of attractive girls however it is me they want to sleep with? What is it do you think?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • There's this thing called "selection bias". Basically, for some reason, the kind of guys that are most likely to be picked up by your radar, are the ones that are mainly interested in you for sex.

    One thing to keep in mind is that these guys you're meeting are probably not that interested in you.

    When a woman sees a guy she's not really interested in, she ignores him.

    When a man sees a woman he's not really interested in, he thinks, "Well she's not really my type, but she might be hot in bed so I'll give it a go."

    Mind you, NOT all men think like that. But there's certainly a large number of guys who are like that in different degrees. Pretty much, any guy who would even consider having casual sex in the first place.

    So it's not necessarily that you come off as slutty, or you dress wrong, but rather it's more to do with your personality not clicking with these guys. Eventually, you will find the right kind of guy for you, and it will be a very different experience. In the mean time, keep your eyes open but also keep your standards high.

    From a guy's perspective, I'll tell you that sometimes it takes a very very long time to find the right woman. It shouldn't be any easier for a woman to find the right guy...the only difference is that women are often falsely led to believe that they have a huge number of options, because every guy out there pretends to be interested even if he only wants sex. Your task is to figure out which guys are serious, and then it's a much much smaller number. But that's normal.

  • Truth?

    The way you present yourself doesn't just entail the way you dress.

    It's also how you act towards people.

    Maybe you should wipe that DTF expression off your face.

    Apparently it's throwing guys off.

    • I don't walk around with a DTF expression, at least I hope not haha

    • Most girl's don't know they do it. My co worker asked me a similar question in regards to why so many older, married men in the facility openly flirt with her when she hasn't said anything to them and they know she's with someone. I told her the same thing. Sometimes gals look at guys like they want to f*ck them without even realizing it. Stop doing that.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Why do men only want sex?

    Because they're men.

    What do you think is up with these guys?

    They see an attractive girl and want sex with her.

    Most of them know loads of attractive girls however it is me they want to sleep with?

    Just because you think the girl is attractive doesn't mean he thinks she is.

    What is it do you think?

    That they see an attractive girl and want sex with her.

    • Girls, in their complexity, attempt to apply their logic to guys, who tend to be comparatively much simpler than they think. You understand this, and I respect that.

  • Well, duh. Men tend to want to screw attractive girls, welcome to reality. Doesn't mean that's ALL they want, though.

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  • Not all guys just want sex, there are few that just want to be with a person for who they are and not what they look like, just seems like the majority are out for sex.

  • Men want more than sex. You are young so you are talking about boys. There are some younger guys that want more than sex but that is not the norm. You are looking in the wrong places by the way to find any real relationship.

  • Either you're looking for the wrong guys or you look like a whore.

  • Most guys are horndogs. It's probably not you. Maybe you could try dressing more conservative when you go out?