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My Girlfriend Doesn't Want Protection?

Okay, so my girlfriend and I are going to have sex for the first time, and she's a virgin, and I'm not, but I've tested myselft for STD's and I'm clean. Anyway, she's only starting puberty Because she's just reaching that age (though she has an AMAZING body, even her boobs) so she doesn't see a need for protection because she doesn't think she can get pregnant. I keep trying to tell her that there's a chance I might get her pregnant, but she won't listen, she still wants to have sex without a condom or any sort of contraception, and I mean she REALLY wants sex, and is very strong about her want to do it without a condom. She also thinks it won't feel as good when we have sex. Can anyone give me any advice on how I can convince her to let me use a condom or to at least take a pill? Also, can a girl get pregnant from oral sex, no matter what her age? Because she wants to start with oral sex as foreplay.
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Part 1: For all of you wondering, she's 13, almost 14. She's liked me for a while (she got to know me because my parents are close friends with her family) and one day she called me and asked me out. I said "no, sorry, you're too young for me" but she wouldn't take no for an answer. A month later she asked again, with the same result. She was persistent enough to keep this up for arround 7 months, at which point, while our families were getting together for a BBQ, she asked me out in person...
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Part 2: ...And she asked with the cutest voice and a cute, pleading look in her eye. I just couldn't say no, especially because it took a lot of courage to confront me and ask me out. We've been going out for arround a year and a half now, and even though it started with simple dates and a kiss here-and-there, in the past few weeks she's gotten really... horny. She's always wanting me to make out with her and touch her. The farthest we've gone so far is sleeping together, but without sex...
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Part 3: ... We just took our clothes off so that I was wearing my underwear and she was wearing her panties, and we snuggled and made out, but we've never actually ever seen each other fully naked. Anyway, there you go, a little more information for all of you that've been wondering.
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  • Sorry, but she seems ignorant and immature. :/ If you're planning on cumming in her .. 99% she'll get pregnant. Even if you're pulling out, pre-cum is still an issue. If you're not comfortable with doing it without protection of some kind, don't do it. If she gets pregnant, it's YOUR child too and YOUR life. Condoms obviously aren't the issue, since you're both clean.. aslong as you're not cheating and shes' not cheating. But birth control is a must. Worst situation is, she'll get pregnant, blame you and resent you. This is common sense stuff, people have being telling me to always be protected since I popped out of my moms vagina. If you can't convince her, don't do it. Besides why isn't she thinking about how you feel and what YOU want? A little selfish .. don't you think.

    • She hasn't had puberty yet. She can't get pregnant.

    • How old is she ..

    • She's just starting puberty, only had 1 period

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  • First off you need to consider her age. If she is just starting puberty she is NOT ready for sex. Sex is an adult game and kids shouldn't be playing it. If she isn't old enough to drive a car she isn't old enough to drive a d***. Explain to her that w/out BC or a condom there is an extremely high chance she'll end up pregnant. One thing she has to really think about is that if she ends up pregnant she has to step up and take responsibility. Not to mention if she is that young and you are 18+ it is a very bad idea to have sex. Really talk about the factors and make her understand, also if she's only doing it because she thinks you are older and experienced you need to explain that sex isn't everything.

    • You asked for advice on the situation and here it is: It would be really Irresponsible of you to have sex w/this girl. I will admit yes it normal to want to have sex but it's not the right time to do so. Having sex at her age can seriously mess her up and you could lose her. If she hates it she can tell her parents that you raped her ruining your life. It's your decision I'm just stating the facts.

  • she's way to young if she just started puperty. if you have sex an dshe hasn't had a her period before EVER ther is a 98% chance that she will skip her first period an dend up pregnant with YOUR child! she is very stupid if she doesn't have because or your wearing a condom. seriously don't do it. if she gets pregnant it'll ruin your life. and the fact that she is so keen on doing it with out protection she's probably trying to get pregnant. no girl would want to risk it.

    • yuck that is rank! 13-14! that girl f***ing messed up if she wants to have sex at 13!

    • It's natural to want sex at that age, when puberty starts, hormones are released that.mll do that to you. It'c ompletely natural to want sex at 13

    • then by the dam girl a vibrater don't f*** her at 13 that stil a child! you see 6 year olds touch them selves in the plat groung cause all they no is that it feels good and they don't know you don't do that in public. just cause they like it doesn't mean you should jump into bed with thed llittle 6 year old does it. your girlfriend sounds like a slut sorry but that's disgusting!

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  • First, having regular periods is NOT an accurate measurement of puberty; girls who are underweight or undernurished often don't have regular periods.

    If she has boobs, then she's gone through puberty.

    Anyway, if you have sex with this girl without any BC, you almost certainly will get her pregnant sooner or later, with the odds on sooner. And as dumb as her thinking is right now, I can tell you that she isn't ready to care for another person, and I doubt you want to be doing so either.

    So, basically, it's up to you to do the smart thing, which is to either use BC or not have sex with her. Hopefully, for your sake, you make a good decision, because the consequences of a bad decision are pretty severe.

  • You have to understand that she's young and doesn't know what she's talking about.

    Use protection, since I take it she isn't on the pill.

    • Oral sex doesn't lead to pregnancy.

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  • She could still get pregnant. You need to insist that you use a condom. A girl cannot get pregnant through oral.

  • If she hasn't started her period she can't get pregnant. Unless she starts like a few days after you guys have sex and you come in her. She cannot get pregnant by oral sex.

    You should use a condom anyways though because she seems to be a little out there, even for her age. You don't know what she's done in the past and who she did it with.

    Also, if she's barley starting puberty and your between the ages of 18-24, maybe you should find a new girlfriend.

    • She says she's a virgin, and I trust her, but I want to use a condom anyway, but she said that she's looked stuff up on the internet and it all said that she wouldn't be able to feel as much and that she wouldn't orgasm as easy or as satisfyingly, but I keep telling her that I'll do everything I can to make up for any lack of pleasure due to the condom.

    • It would feel better for you more then her. Sex with or without a condom isn't all that different for girls.

    • I've told her that, too, but she really loves the idea of more natural sex, just my bare penis inside her, and as much as I'd like that eventually, I'd like her first time to be fun but without pregnancy.

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  • are you stupid prego from oral sex? and sex would feel better for her with a condom they have lube

    • if yall do it on her period she can't get pregnant

  • well, you could always pull out, but there's still a risk, but no you can't get pregnant through oral sex

  • Don't be silly, Protect your willy! :)

  • Omg see I hate stupid and ignorant LITTLE girls that think it won't happen to them and cOmplain 9 months later about it

  • has she had her period yet? if no then she can't get pregnant. but if she is so young she hasn't started her period then y the hell are you trying to sleep with her?

    • She's had one period ever, does that mean she can get pregnant?

    • if she has had a period she is able to get pregnant. however she seems very young how old is she?

    • I'm thinking she's around 12.

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