Embarrassed by threesome, advice?

[Anonymous]

I ended up having a threesome last night. It was supposed to be just me and this one guy but when I came over another guy was there. I just kind of sat there at first because it didn't register why his friend was even there. Then his friend just left the room. I figured he was just like OK they want their time now. So then my guy goes and turns out the light and I sit on his lap. I'm about to start when his friend walks in the room and sits down. I just paused like OK what's going on. But my guy just whispers keep going. So I lean in to kiss him. After a minute he makes me stand up and he wants me to go down on him. This is where I stopped him and was like OK did you set this up so he could be here? I don't know if I could do this. He told me it was OK and that it would just be between us three. No one would know. Eventually I caved in and I actually had a really good time. I don't think I had ever been so turned on before. But the ending was mad awkward. I just felt weird and they were still a little drunk from being out before I got there. I left with a feeling of regret and asking myself why the h*ll I did this. Now today I just checked my Facebook and saw my firends status update implying he just wanted to forget last night and never drink again. So now I'm really embarrassed. I don't ever want to see them again because I'm embarrassed because I'm am their regret. I don't know what to do I've never been in this situation before. What do I do?!

[purpleprincess]

He embarressed because he knows he took advantage of you, also he knows you had more fun with an additional guy there which suggests he alone is unable to fully satisfy you, or at least that's probably what he thinks now he has sobered up. He probably also knows that he can not trust you with his mates, you won't be exclusive to him and his friend will no doubtably want to do it again which is awkward- not to mention the fact that he knows he'll look bad if his guy friends know he had sex with you along with a second guy. Threesomes for men are usually one guy, two women, not two guys, one woman. I'm happy for you that you had fun, but would suggest that you actually talk to him about this as it will effect your future relationship- if you still have one left. In general this kind of groups sex would be pre-arranged with all parties in agreement of who will be involved and requires trust between all three, its not something most women would do on a whim and frankly, I am surprised that you are experimenting in this way at your age, there's so much more you could explore with your partner as a couple before going to this level. You are lucky that these guys were not so drunk that they wanted to do more than you were prepared for or you might not have had as much fun as you did.

[eurochick]

I wouldn't be embarassed about a 3 some, I think they are a fun experience (I have had a number). But 3 somes are not for everybody and can damage friendships etc. So the experience you had itself wasn't bad, so you shouldn't regret it. Maybe talk to the guy you know about what happened and if if wasn't a bad experience try it again some time but to talk it through first. So did you just do spitroast or did you do double penetration? DP is an amazing experience.

[Anonymous]

Ignore them, don't give them the power to make you feel bad or ashamed. Lift your head up and keep going. Learn to set your limits and learn from this on how you will ,from now on, make people respect you and not fall for BS like this.

Take it as a lesson to work on your own confidence to never again be manipulated liek that again.

[dudeman]

hahahahahha respect a girl that's had a threesome I don't think that's how it works

[Opinion Owner]

Coming from you, it does not mean much.

[dx021]

definitely. any guy that things a girl that got drunk and f***ed 2 casual randoms @ the same time is nasty isn't worth listening to! are you f***ing kidding me

[Belgie]

You're not the regret. Your friend is regretting the fact that there was another guy in the room.

He's probably having homosexual panic. "Does that make me gay?" He'll get over it in a week or so.

For yourself, think about the following : You're young, lots of people experiment, you were never so turned on in your life, and it was mostly great until the ending.

That sounds like a win to me. You can now say you've had an experience, it was mostly good, and you wouldn't necessarily want to repeat it with those two guys, or without planning something in advance or whatever... But the good parts? Hey, the memory of that will help turn you on for the rest of your life. Enjoy it. You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

[Lucky2]

Don't be embarrassed, it was sex. Just learn from what happened so if that situation ever happens again you will know. Plus, you had fun. My only question is did you do something you normally do not do, other than the mfm?

[Chrissy1986]

wow that's intense and I don't know what to say except maybe forget it even happened

[Asker]

Believe me I want to so bad...

[Chrissy1986]

i know easire said then done

[dx021]

lol silly slut

[Chrissy1986]

who me?

[Asker]

why do you have to be so mean

[dudeman]

stop being a floozy

[Asker]

I see this as my wake up call, because I know this situation isn't going to go away and its still going to come back and bite me continuously.

[dudeman]

definitely I would never be able to be with a girl that's had a threesome, and I know all but two guys I know would not be able to be with a girl that did that either, and those two guys, are not exactly guys that to me at least show long term promise

[MikeK]

Eh... let it go... life goes on...

[Anonymous]

He really should have warned you before throwing you into that situation.

[Anonymous]

I doubt you have much to worry about. The two guys don't regret you they regret being in a MMF threesome with each other so now they're hoping you won't tell anybody.

[Anonymous]

My ex girlfriend does stuff like this. Gets banged by random people when she's drunk and blah blah blah...