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Is my sister sexually attracted to me?

I know it is a strange question, but I need to know what's going on/what I can do to solve this problem. I've always been overprotective of my little sister (she's 19, I'm 23). Believe me, I love her to death and I will make sure she's safe. When I found out her (now ex) boyfriend beat her, I drove to his house and beat him to a pulp. He begged me to stop (screamed like a little puzzy) and promised me he'll leave her alone. My sister just stood there and watched the beating. I felt the need to kick his head in, but she dragged me away from him and I slowly started to calm down. We drove to my house and she asked me if she could stay (since her now ex boyfriend owns the house she used to live in). I don't want her to become homeless and that's why I let her stay at my house. Problem is, she doesn't have a job and every time I come home from work, she gets very excited (like a little kid or a girlfriend). She loves to flirt with me. What the f***? She walks around in her bikini all the time and tries to get my attention. The other day I got mad at her and told her to get a job. She looked at me with pure shock in her eyes and started to cry like a baby. She then asked me if I didn't love her anymore. Why would she think that? Wow, I really think she needs to see a therapist. She depends on me like little girls depend on their fathers. What do I do? She loves to cuddle with me and expects me to hold her in my arms whenever she's afraid! I think I can't deal with this anymore, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. I even let her sleep in my bed. Why is she so needy? Is it possible she's sexually attracted to me? Does it sound like she's sexually attracted to me or am I over analyzing? How do I tell her to stop (without hurting her)? Thanks for your help guys.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Is it possible she's sexually attracted to me? Not by what you've given

    Does it sound like she's sexually attracted to me or am I over analyzing? Sounds like you're over-analyzing could be because you're sexually attracted to her

    Her getting excited to see you come home is a clue to you

    ^ she jobless so she's pretty much stuck at home broke & she'd be homeless without you so of course she appreciates you

    She loves to flirt with me

    ^ maybe you're reading too much into playful sibling teasing.

    Or she may be a girl who isn't embarrassed about sexual innuendo...my friend's mom used to joke about her huge boobs in front of him

    She walks around in her bikini all the time and tries to get my attention.

    ^ do you live near the beach? If so pretty sure she doesn't want to stay just inside.

    Does your place stay cool or is it hot? Remember she's there most of the time

    She depends on me like little girls depend on their fathers.

    ^ she has no job & would be homeless what did you expect lol

    She loves to cuddle with me and expects me to hold her in my arms whenever she's afraid!

    ^ some siblings cuddle & she's been in an abusive relationship fear is granted

    I even let her sleep in my bed.

    ^ and this is why I suspect you're projecting

  • Well I have heard of this on Jerry Springer lol. I don't think that she feels like this. She looks up to you and obviously loves you very much. It seems like your all she has right now and she needs you the way any sister would need their brother. The cuddling part is kind of weird and I say that cause I could never do that with my brother without it feeling awkward. Especially sleeping in the same bed. I think that she is confused after seeing the fight between you and her boyfriend. She feels very protected now by you. I really don't know for sure but you can try something to see how she reacts. Tell her that you met a girl and see how she reacts. If she is happy for you then its not what you think. If she gets jealous then that wouldn't be normal. You should help her find a job though so she can move on with her life. I hope your wrong for all your sakes.

  • I don't think she wants to have sex with you, but she is emotionally damaged and reverts this way with men for a feeling of protection. She probably thinks nothing of walking around in her bikini because some people have different boundaries and wear whatever in front of their family. All the other stuff just sounds like she needs someone to be close to and is replacing you with her boyfriend. I can't say that she feels sexually for you, I mean she COULD but it's not very likely. Be stern yet kind in telling her what you don't want from her "stop doing x" good luck

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't think she's sexually attracted to you. She's probably just someone who has been dominated by strong male (abusive) figures her entire life, and has shattered self-esteem, and doesn't know how to live without a strong male presence directing her life.

    This is common in abused children when they grow up.

    Definitely therapy is the way to go.

    You can still be a strong male presence in her life, so long as you lay the boundaries and you set the guidelines. You tell her to dress up and not wander around in a bikini. You tell her to go to therapy, and get a job. Just don't be angry with her when you tell her these things. Be stern. Be authoritative. Don't give her any reason to start crying or questioning whether you love her.

    It's sh*tty that you're essentially in a father role with a grown child, but if you direct her correctly, you can help her get her life back on track. Years from now, she'll really appreciate what you've done for her, to help her become a more mature fully rounded individual.

    • Excellent reply!!

    • Same man wtf it's annoying and i feel you. I don't think my sister is sexually attracted to me. She leaves her underwear clothes on the floor to get my attention too! And she is sometimes too comfortable with my family and i can tell because she has changed a lot. And my thing to you is it that you can feel it in your gut if she likes you, and from what you said, i can 99% tell she is very sexually attracted to you. And can someone help ME? I have tried many different ways to stop her from liking me. First i was gentle and gave her a small sign that i did not like her to a big and obvious sign i did not like her. I became like i jerk (only towards her) to make it obvious but she only changed a small bit. I need some serious help please guys. It is making it awkward for me to talk to her and our sister brother relationship has gone a little colder. How do i make her stop liking me while not acting like a jerk? I am 13 and she is 18 by the way.

    • By the way she is not abused.

  • General life rule: always address the behavior, not the person. It keeps people from getting defensive. This is crucial, because defensive people are unable to listen or interact intelligently.

    Therefore, not "You're hot for me and I can't stand it!", but "When you do X, it feels like your flirting with me and that makes me uncomfortable. Do you think you could stop?" The first will almost certainly start a fight. The second might get a lie, or straight (self-) denial, but at least there'll be a conversation, which is what needs to happen here.

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  • That sounds like it sucks... I really couldn't help man 'cause I'd be feeling bad saying no to her.. >_< um... Try getting your parents involved if that's possible?

  • :/ weird I guess I would talk to your parents? Maybe

  • Today, in a very special episode of "Maury"...

    ... Sorry, this sounds like one of my erotic fantasies starring Ice Cube and 50 Pence D:

  • you should talk with her in serious

  • Is she hot? If she is or at least is decent looking, then in my opinion you should just take advantage of the situation and fuck her. So what if she's your sister? Pussy is pussy. As long as you don't get her pregnant then fucking her is no different than fucking any other woman. If I had a hot sister that wanted my cock, I would totally be all over that. Okay then, let the flaming comments commence lol.

  • u'r over analizing, maybe u'r the one who's attracted to your sister that's why you have that feeling..it's better for you to send her back to your parents and tell something bout it.

    u may talk to her and tell that guys will always be guys.guys can be attracted when girls arre to showy..explain that u'r two are bro's and sis

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MImsnF8bnvA

  • wow interesting stuff...this guy was going through the exact same thing

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXqWMktKoZs

  • Sounds like she may be attracted to you. Do you have a friend you trust to set her up with? That might be a good way to redirect her affection, provided you have someone who you'd trust with your sister.

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