Are you bothered when a guy puts his hand on your head during BJ?

[sumfin]

On the one hand, I love being dominant, and part of that is holding the girl whenever I'm in her, including oral. I feel like that's natural, it's primal and sexy. On the other hand, I think our culture focuses too much on men being "pleasured" and women being sexdolls, which makes girls feel shitty, and I'm not into making that worse. Plus intimacy is wayyyy hotter than dirty fantasies, when it's real. So. When a guy puts his hand on your head during oral, do you feel disrespected or objectified? Is there a way that is ok and another way that is not ok? What if he: Holds your head firmly? Holds you by your hair/ponytail? Moves your head up and down/pushes your head? Thrusts? I think intimacy means not expecting to "be able" to do any particular thing just because you "want to", and that means that at different times you will be more gentle or more rough etc depending on how your and your partner's moods, so I'm also curious if girls feel that way too, like there is a mood you get into where you like being dominated and other times you want sweet tender lovin'?

[Raven42]

Good question. I only think its disrespectful when he pushes my head. I mean I know it feels good but if I'm the one doing the work I don't need a penis forced into my mouth. Thrusting is okay because if I'm being smothered I can back away and take it slower. I don't care if he holds my hair. My boyfriend rubs my back when I give him a blowjob, or he'll squeeze my shoulders. I love his touch on me when I'm doing something that's intimate like a BJ to him. To answer you're other question I like being dominated alot. My boyfriend shows me tender loving in cuddles and kisses and massages but when it comes to sex we like it nasty. If I asked for gentle sex he'd give it to me. We're sweet and lovin' on special occasions where we just wanna be gushy. Next time you're getting a blowjob just try caressing her back or give her a little massage. If all else fails do it 69 and call it a day.

[Allie19]

I personally love when my boyfriend does all of the above, haha. I'm usually very submissive when it comes to sex, so those sort of things, where I feel like he is in control, turns me on even more. I don't feel like it's degrading at all when you're doing it with the person you love, trust, and know you are on an equal level with. It's all in good fun!

[gravygirl]

I'm okay with pretty much anything as long as I have my hand on the guy and can control it a bit. With no hands I need my guy to take it a little slower or else I gag. I've never found giving head degrading. Maybe I would if I did it with someone who didn't care about me, but I think I'd find anything degrading in those circumstances.

[preacherman]

Yeah, dude, its all fun and games til some girl pukes in your lap. lol I love to be dominant too, but some girls hate it. Most of the time, you can figure out what girls are the most submissive. I find that its usually an opposite thing, actually, where the headstrong girl on the outside likes to be daddys girl behind closed doors. In most cases, tho. just ask her if its ok and also, yes there are girls who can take it all, even if you are above average like me.

[Jonie76]

Hmmmm !

[ilovegreen]

Soooooo true...the more headstrong on the outside, the more submissive behind closed doors!

[smith2267]

I'm with you, I like being dominant. I'm looking forward to hearing what the girls say about this.

[Simple-Simonette]

I only like to be gently caressed when I'm giving head. You can tug my hair a little, stroke my neck, rub my scalp - but no thrusting, pushing, or shoving my head down to make me gag. I like to be in control when I'm going down.

[jaycee777]

There is nothing sexier than my man grabbing my hair while I am giving him a b/j. its not so much dominant but rather it feels like he is really enjoying it, and well I love my hair being pulled anyway, so its a real turn on.

[Jay7755]

only tried pushing down once, she didn't like it, but I do grab the hair out of the way so I can watch

[Teampink86]

Before it happened to me, I was totally against it. I thought it would make me feel used, but in all honesty it lets me know how he wants it. As long as it doesn't get too rough.

[totalawesomes]

I love giving blowjobs. It feeels to good to have my neck and head caressed, and have a guy hold my hair for me, but no grabbing my head or pushing it up and down.

[Grandkitty]

If my guy would oral me like I do him…

[Anonymous]

I like getting my head pushed down it's so hott but I could see it being disrespectful if you weren't in a close intimate relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

I don't like it at all. Specially when he moves my head up and down. It makes me feel like a whore. Ugh. That's my opinion.

[Anonymous]

as long as you're clean and not foul tasting, anything goes