Guys are you really as fussy about our bodies as we think you are?

[Anonymous]

Most of girls feel like we have to be perfect.A good guy friend of mine recently pointed out to me that we are way more critical of our bodies than any guy will ever be.Apparently guys don't notice an extra couple of pounds on a girl,don't care that much what a p**** looks like or boob size and things like that.Do you agree with this?If you do consider yourself fussy then what things in particular are you picky about?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Damn you word count! Anyway, male preference is vague and general, for instance you may hear guys say "I like "big breasts" ", which is ill defined, further things like "I like dark skin" or anything that falls in a spectrum is generally how males work. Males are not usually so specific as to what they want in a female partner while females are a lot more specific so males aren't actually picky at all while women have to be not only critical of themselves to attract the mates they want but critical of their mates to ensure they are getting the best genetic material injected into them.

Males do not actually hold preferences outside of general health. So things like "men like a an avg weight" should actually be written as "Men look at general guidelines for physical health", which is just how it is. Exciting this stuff! Anyway with that said the micropreferences of males tend to also be almost totally expendable; for instance a female may not go out with a man who is of a specific persuasion, and by go out I mean have sex with, however most men will have sex if taken from a purely instinctual example with any female regardless of appearance EVEN if they normally would not like them. This is exceptionally rare for females who, unless their is some perk present, don't do the same thing.

Functionally speaking you will find that many males, esp. mature ones, actually veer from this standard too; it's only generally true for when your hormones are high, but as you age and look to really rear children both sexes have major changes, and ironically males become more emotional and connected while females actually begin having stronger urges to promiscuity. This is because promiscuity is good for the human species and gene pool; warrior sperm need to duke it out over that egg and honestly that's where the strongest children come from out of a sex of sexual encounters.

Socially there are entirely different functions though; sex as a bonding mechanism is still widely prevalent in the world and honestly works very, very well however in many leading countries it's look down upon despite it's normal nature. This in turn leads to the disparity you see today where we advertise that females must be perfect namely in order to get your "One and Only" versus the normal "Ten to Twenty", and if you go back in time you begin to see that promiscuity has gone DOWN, not UP, and the age of first sexual intercourse has gone UP, not DOWN, though people are still freaking out about the cover-up era ( 40's , 50's ) making bad statistical comparisons. What does this mean? Society flipped it. Everything we are doing in society is literally abnormal. From marrying at 25 on average to the average person's sex age being about 20 now ( it used to be 12, the second you hit puberty, literally ) with being a virgin past 19 being almost unheard of. It's "impress the males" despite females still picking the partners and "perfect yourselves" despite males making the mating calls!

[Phoenix1991]

Uhhh, fussy? or picky? Men are physical based creatures while women are more emotional and more sensitive. Since the beginning of time, that is always been the difference between both genders.

Guys tend to like a certain body type, whether the woman is tall, short, big breasts, small breasts, nice firm butt or big butt, etc. Each guy has a different preference BUT! they do tend to agree they prefer an average weight woman. I'm sure some women might prefer a guy with abs or nice normal physique or their own personal physique but have something completely different then they prefer. I love women just like the next guy, but if men can avoid dating things they don't like, they will. I'm different, once I'm in love, I'm in love and there isn't a single I can do or will do to stop it.

When your single, you can be picky in terms of who your hooking up with or flirting with. If a guy has an option of sleeping with an average weight woman over a bigger woman, it can go either way. I think I'm a little picky personally but I'm comfortable with that.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Actually this is partially true. Left-brained people ( which males generally are ) are spatial temporal which lead to the myth that males are far more interested in only physical looks. Truth be told this myth is by far older than time itself but not very accurate. Males actually have FEWER physical preferences than females because females, when mating, are mating for offspring while males, when mating, are actually just mating to mate. So male preference, at least biologically ...

[Phoenix1991]

I agree.

[holly916]

the right and left side of the brain are the same... just thought I would point that out

[archer86]

Only young, immature boys would even think about fussing over a woman's body. Most other men don't care at all. Men are rarely ever looking for the perfect woman, usually we just wanta woman who doesn't p*ss us off. We just don't care that much about perfect looks.

[Enishi]

You know how guys are always asking how their penis size stacks up? And you always tell us it doesn't matter?

[Asker]

Yeah because it really doesn't

[Enishi]

Precisely.

[l-hedoniste]

Most of the fussiness I see is girls directing it at themselves. If I decide to talk to you, I'm rounding you up to "attractive" and accepting what I find. It's always the girl with the steady blowtorch of criticism, aimed at herself:

"My lips, my boobs, my vag, my blah, my blah, my blah..."

"They're fine."

"They're not supposed to be fine! They're supposed to be HOT! They're supposed to be THE BEST YOU'VE EVER SEEN!"

"Okay, they're they're hot. They're the best I've ever seen."

"YOU'RE ONLY SAYING THAT BECAUSE I DID. YOU DON'T MEAN IT. YOU HATE HOW I LOOK."

*sigh...*

Hundreds of conversations like this, I've had. No longer; if she can't turn that blowtorch off, or at least put it on Mute, to the curb she goes. Life is too short to try pleasing crazy people.

[kheserthorpe]

Guys care a hell of a lot about women sort of look like, but don't expect perfection.

If that doesn't make sense, ask me to clarify.

[Asker]

Can you clarify please.The reason my guy friend was giving me an ear bashing is because I tend to obsess about me weight like I'm always dieting and in the gym.Also I hate my boobs because they are only a 34 A.He claims that guy don't actually care too much about the kind of stuff I worry about

[kheserthorpe]

Well, I'll use my sister's view of men as an analogy. Please, before anyone screams, this is just about her, not all women. My sister really prefers guys to be taller then her. (Again - I know some women don't care, and others - like my wife - the taller the better). As long as he's taller then her by enough she can wear heels and not be taller then him, she doesn't care. He might be 5'9, he might be 6'4. Doesn't matter. But if he's 5'5, he's too short for her. ...

[kheserthorpe]

That's how I am with women, and I think most guys. I have to want to get her naked when I see her. If I don't, I can't date her. If she turns me on, going from that to 'more perfect' isn't that important.

[Asker]

Ok I get what you mean now,lets just hope some guys develop a preference for my body type lol

[kheserthorpe]

A lot of guys like 34A type girls.

[Asker]

May be they don't mind the small boobs but I am quite over weight and can't seem to do anything about it.I'm 5'4'' and have a 25 inch waist.I don't weigh myself because it just upsets me so I don't know my weight now

[kheserthorpe]

25" waist is small.

[Asker]

Even for my height?

[kheserthorpe]

Yes, I believe so. What's your hip measurement?

[Asker]

32 I think,haven't taken hip measurements for a while

[kheserthorpe]

34/25/32 sounds unlikely. You should check :p waist/hip ratio is the biggest driver of how attractive your body is. Different women should be different weights, but it depends on their hip size, etc.

[Asker]

I know the first two are correct but it is likely that I've got the hip measurement wrong

[Lupianwolf]

Same goes for all as we are gonna be as critical as we can about ourselves without realising how insignificant that might be to soneone else, the good features(personality, style, face etc.)will outweigh and make the bad features seem less important

Guys think about d*** size way too much(on this site anyway) when most girls who answer think it's not much of a problem

[Mr_Solo_Dolo]

Nope, women care more about they way they look than some of us guys care. Like most people say, you are your own worst critic which I would say is true.

[sunmonster]

You are more critical than we are. Everyone is their worst critic, trust me.

[Asker]

So you don't all want a girls with a tiny waist and big boobs?

[sunmonster]

I want a thin girl, because I myself am thin. The size of their boobs/butt whatever doesn't really matter that much.

[Jay_So_Lovely]

@ sun monster: that's truth #NoJoke

[Asker]

Define thin thought,does a girl who is 5'4'' with a 25 inch waist count as thin?

[sunmonster]

I don't know what 25 inch waist would look like- but pound wise I'd say 120lbs for 5'4" is thin

[Asker]

I'm not sure exactly what I weight,I won't even have a scales in the house anymore

[taster]

I saw your comments below...what females should really consider is that there is No Way to please everyone...take your boobs...I would love them EXACTLY as they are...and would be very annoyed if you even considered some kind of enhancement (if I were your lover I mean)

But I do like slender...altho you seem like you would be fine just the way you are... (:

[Asker]

Thanks for that,I still have this nagging feeling that my weight is what puts guys off.I work really hard on it but can't seem to lose any more

[taster]

I don't suppose you would post a pic? But, even if you did, my opinion would only be one man's..but maybe other guys would comment...

[Asker]

I don't have any recent ones but I might take one tomorrow and put it on here to see what the reaction is.

[taster]

I think you wil find that most of us will be honest and respectful...but I am positive that breasts are RARELY a primary factor in males' initial assessment of females

[Asker]

Even though I'm unhappy with my breasts they aren't the worst thing about my figure.Its being big that I really hate.People say to me that I work too hard at it and that you can't be thinner than your bones,well then I guess my bones are fat :-(

[taster]

Not even close..plus we are all different...I don't give a damn about breasts for instance..could be flat as a pancake...fine with pubic hair...not a lot of stuff I don't like: cheek makeup is definite turnoff, not really into stylish clothes...scars, stretch marks, moles & blemishes are okay..but I don't like wart-like growths or bumps on face...

[imjustadude]

Hygiene and personality rank higher on my list. Although I do tend to fall harder for curvy brunettes, they tend to break the just a friend barrier more often. That's just me. All guys are different and there are times when a guy will go out with anybody just to get some. So don't think the first guy that says you look great really thinks that.

[RyanRyanson]

This is easy. Nope. Women are WAY more fussy about their bodies and other people's bodies.

[Ezmotts]

Yes, honestly, we don't care that much.