My advice to you would be to get him to go down on you earlier BEFORE you have sex. That way you are caught up to his pace. It sounds like he is a quick draw if he doesn't seem to get you off after.
The recovery time post coital can range anywhere from 30 seconds to 15 minutes. Every guy is different.
I have to say I am kinda bummed by the fact your guy doesn't feel the need to please you once he has pleased himself! What kinda selfish guy is this anyways? Huh...
i don't feel bad if a guy cums before me...it makes me feel like I did a good job pleasing him. You could always have him lick you or if he came inside of you and doesn't want to do that, he could always do the fingering for you! I find that it works well to turn the guy on again and give him time to recover lol... plus then he's hard again and last longer the next time around!
Yeah that's what I would have said if you hadn't beaten me to it! :p
Hehe... I'm glad we're on the same page :o)
I was with a guy and I had been looking forward to having sex with him for a few months. He went down on me for a short time but I didn't cum. After I went down on him and he almost came straight away. After that he just wanted to sleep but I felt that we could do more. It that to overreact to want more if you haven't cum? I don't think so but aperently he did.
well you need to let him know that he needs to do more forplay before or after sex, cause if he plays with you after that will turn him on faster to have sex again
if a guy goes off before you, just get yourself off and let him watch, he'll enjoy that alot. It takes some effort, but if you wait a few minutes, you can get the guy to get hard again and keep going. But typically, if a guy orgasms, he's just tired and wants to eat and pee. But if you give him like 15 min and start doing stuff again with him, he should be able to go again.
anyways, I thought girls got tired after sex too? do you?
Ive never gotten tired he's always been the one to kind of walk off I could still keep going! but it does get a little repetitive that's the only thing I would get tired off
The refraction period varies from a few minutes to days. There is a way around this. You can train male multiple orgasms. The orgasm is actually separated from the ejaculation by 2 seconds. If you let the orgasm happen but stop stimulation before the ejaculation, the guy comes but doesn't spurt. This means no refractory period.
But wouldn't it be really hard to stop stimulation and keep from ejaculating?
Takes practice but he results are worth it. You aren't stopping ejaculation, you are avoiding it buy not giving it that last two seconds of stimulation. I suggest the guy practice alone till he can reliably predict orgasm and back off. Its an odd feeling to come without ejaculation but it is endorphin heavy easy to get used to.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well I can talk for myself on that. I love to go down on a girl after I came (with a condom) and I always try to make sure that she cum's also, if not by intercourse they I'll go down on her till she got hers to. I once went down on a girl after I came in with a condom, after I pulled out to make sure that she would orgasm I realize that my condom had broken and all leaked in her, (good thing she was on the pill also), never tasted the difference but we had a good laugh with it.
Your every girls dream guy, my man is the same and I can't sleep with him and not get mine. and it makes him get it more cause it turns me on soo much that it turns him on to turn me on hahahaha funny how it works
Well usually if you let him rest a bit and then start going down on him it'll help him get it back up a lot quicker so you guys can continue on to round two. But yes, he can also go down on you to make sure your getting yours too.
Personally, my refractory period seems longer than 15 minutes, and I usually switch to other things after I've come. I'm a bit more cuddly than a lot of guys, so I kind of act like a girl after its done and just want to hold her and talk. I guess if she wanted to go again, I could eventually, but maybe he just doesn't want to go again. I may be in the minority, but there have to be SOME guys that aren't all about sex.
This is one of the differences between boys and girls. While some guys are exceptions, most guys really, really don't want to keep going after climax. I promise you, he won't mind at all if you decide to amuse yourself while he recovers.
Very well said. That's also the difference in our age groups.
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Yeh I can go a second time after about 10 minutes but won't be hugely in the mood to. After that I could even go a third given a half hour break after the second but it would take me a while to jizz (whats left inside) for that to happen
I will be honest, the moment after I cum, my mind switches to something like "sh*t I have a lot of homework to do" or "damn it, I should have worked out today" I really never think of going for round two unless I am challenged by my female friend who says she can come more than me.
I have also been challenged by my female friend who says she can come more than me.
It takes practice for guys to slow down and make sex last. (A condom can help, because it reduces his sensation a bit.)
Since you are over 18, I'd say just hook up with an older, more experienced guy.
I have ( =D ) but so once you like start having sex on a semi regular basis does that make it easier to slow down some?
In a way, yes. If a guy has not had sex or masturbated in a long time, he will come sooner. So if you're doing him every day, he should last longer than if you are the first girl he's had sex with in months. Make sense?
Very much so thanks =]
I'm like several other guys that said, after cumming I don't want to go again until my body has recovered from the orgasm
After he comes have him finger you for a little then give him a quick bj and he should be horny and wanting to f*** you again.
Also if he pleases you before sex with fingering and oral you will feel more satisfied at the end.
Im weird in this sense. I can go for quite a long time, and after I orgasm I can keep going again about 5 seconds later. And can pretty much keep going until I just get too tired of thrusting.
Im usaully not... its like I get all sensitive. But for the fingering... I usaully don't want to do anything for that matter.
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