How can I accept small boobs?

[Anonymous]

Ok, I know this has been asked a million times, but I really need different perspectives than "just accept them". Preferably from girls with small boobs who actually love them, who know where I'm coming from. I have small boobs, cup A. I have wide hips and heavy thighs, and while I'm skinny and have a small waist, I feel I look wierd. I know men prefer big breasts, at least the vast majority, as I've never met a guy who prefers small breasts, so I already know I'm screwed there. And while I have a nice ass (or so I've been told), I don't know... guys have asses too, so it's like less special than nice boobs. And men don't make nearly a fuss about great butts as they do about great boobs. I guess great boobs are harder to come across? More special. Anyway, my sister and friends have big boobs and they love showing them off and being checked out. I feel I miss out on that, especially when I'm around them. Most girls feel at least a bit flattered when a guy checks her out, even if they also feel uncomfortable, and some just flat out love it, like my friends. It's a part of being a woman that I've just never experienced. Something they get to laugh about, and feel good about, but I can't. I just hate my small breasts and I wish I didn't. I know that just means mine have less fat, and that they have nipples just like big ones, but... men just don't like them. I feel unwomanly. I know implants are a solution, but men also dislike implants. I don't know, I really care about what men think and all my boyfriends checked out busty women while I was around, said they couldn't help it and that it meant nothing but it hurt anyway. I just wish I had that "wow" factor, or that nice "bonus" that men say big breasts are. Because most men I know have admitted to me that big breasts are unquestionably better but like a bonus. I feel bad about this, sub par and "pretty" but not "hot". I know it's vain, and girls with big boobs please don't judge me, because it's different of course. I don't know what it feels like to have big boobs, and vice versa. I just want to know how to love them, even though they're seen as "inferior" when it comes to sex.

[govhuck2]

Everyone wishes they were perfect, I wish my penis was 8 inches long, but it's not. I think you should focus on the total package, and not on one aspect of your appearance. You said you are skinny with a nice ass...Hello, 99.9% of guys want to nail you already. I'm an ass man, and a breast man, and I love skinny girls too. You have a great ass, I can assure you, men check it out, but of course you are facing the opposite direction when they do, and you don't catch them. Enjoy the fact that you have sexually appealing aspects to you, such as a nice ass, and being skinny. Big breast are very attractive, but you don't have them, however you are still very sexually appealing to men, and will be even more appealing if you develop more confidence in your appearance, namely by accepting the fact that you can't have everything. Plus many men like small breast, and more importantly, men like variety. A man who's been with women with large breast for an extended period of time, will want to switch it up with a girl who has small breasts. My ex had big t*ts, and I loved them, and still do, but I'm still attracted to girls with small t*ts, and I love a nice ass. If it means anything, I think you're attractive based on your description. And remember, I wish my penis was 8 inches, but it's not, however I have a ton of girth, I choose to focus on the positive, an know that many woman still desire me, similarly many men still desire you. I wish you the best. If this issue continues to bother you, seeking professional counselling may help. Good luck, and send me a pic if you want a further opinion..lol...Seriously.

[CatholicVirginia]

As a female in a similar situation, I like this answer.

[govhuck2]

Thank you "CatholicVirginia". I could tell the author was in angst and as a fellow human being felt it important to offer a thoughtful answer. People's feelings matter deeply, we are emotional beings, I'm glad you found my thoughts helpful as well.

[Anonymous]

I am a guy that loves small boobs, I hate big boobs. Whenever I think of big boobs, I see obese women who are in fat acceptance skinny shaming beautiful women with small boobs. I honestly do not even get hard/turned on when I see a girl with big boobs, it's actually a turn off. I find them ugly and majority of the time girls who have big boobs aren't my type. Small boobs on the other hand, get me rock hard and so horny. I find them cute and majority of the time girls with smaller boobs are active (they excercise, play sports, or are on the skinny side) all of which I find attractive. Nothing beats pinning down a skinny girl with small boobs wrapping my arms around her body and going in missionary style. If you have small boobs , don't be insecure as there are many other guys like me that Love small boobs. It's just because of the media and social media and celebrities like Kim Kardashian that makes girls think guys only like big boobs and they are the only desirable but that is not true at all.

[PHLove]

I have A cups too and I don't love them but I have learned to accept them. They're not getting any bigger unless I gain a lot of weight or get pregnant. I agree, I've never actually heard a guy admit to preferring small boobs (except guys online and I feel like some of them are the kind of guys who'd be so happy to see boobs they wouldn't care what size they were). Even when guys do say they like small boobs they go, "Like B, that's perfect," while I would kill to be a B.

I do feel the need to make up for having small boobs so I just make sure that I stay in shape. I watch what I eat (I don't count calories but I don't stuff my face with greasy fatty food) and work out. I figure a nice body that's in shape will make up for having small boobs. And the small boobs help there, I doubt I'd run or do yoga or exercise at all if I had big boobs, they'd probably get in the way.

But I know how you feel. We all know it's not all about boobs and that's not all that matters but it'd be nice to have a guy stare at my boobs every now and then and I'd like to fill out my clothes better and I'd love to not hear/see comments about girls with small boobs look like 12 year old girls.

[peace-love-couture]

I have big breasts but I find it quite ridiculous when I see guys on here say, "I love small breasts, B's are perfect." It's kind of like, there are smaller breasts, so why put such a limit on what you like. It's fine to like small breasts, but don't limit yourself to B's geeze lol. A's and AA's need some love too. Either way, there are definitely guys out there who like small breasts, especially on a pear shaped body.

[Asker]

That last paragraph is so true, I wish people would understand how hurtful that whole sh*t is!

[Anonymous]

I used to be very insecure about my small chest (I was barely an A cup) and stressed about it often. However, I had a very stressful year in which I had more important things to think about (such as affording the rent) so my boob rarely crossed my mind. After that year, they were a B and later a C.

My point is that if you stop stressing about them, they might actually grow naturally. If not, have you tried birth control? The pill can make your boobs swell a bit. If that's not an option, a way of becoming more comfortable with yourself is to look at your bare chest in the mirror, like when your brushing your teeth or something. The less self-conscious you feel, the more attractive people will think you are. Plus, there are pleeeeenty of ass-guys out there.

[peace-love-couture]

Big boobs usually come on fat girls, they'll sag, they usually have big areolas and big nipples and girls with big boobs can look very slutty

Guys hate fat girls, hate saggy boobs, hate big areolas, hate big nipples and well...can't say they hate slutty LOL

[RedThread78]

You need to find cooler guys Evangelina :)

[EngineeringStudent]

link

[mattygfromtheMD32]

hear hear

[mattygfromtheMD32]

or is it here here?

[peace-love-couture]

Nice to know guys will hate my boobs :)

[mattygfromtheMD32]

oh I was here here (hear hear)ing redthread's comment

[Asker]

Evangelina, I agree with Red, guys who judge girls who have big breasts are stupid. They probably have no clue about how to deal with women, du to lack of experience. In my experience, most guys like big boobs just fine, whether they're on a skinny or fat girl, and whether they're perky or saggy or if they have big or small areolas, etc. A lot of women pay a lot of money to have what you have naturally and cool guys will appreciate a natural big pair no matter what.

[peace-love-couture]

Yeah, but guys on girlsaskguys are picky about everything, from boob size to irrelevant sh*t like hair color. Anyhoo...plenty of girls with small boobs manage to find boyfriends who love them just the way they are. Just dress for your body type, keep in shape and show your boyfriend small boobs can be just as sexy as every other boob size. plus, most guys are ass guys nowadays.

[TheAnswerer]

You know what? Guys are checking you out. You just don't see them, because they are behind you (checking out your nice ass), rather than in front of you (checking out your breasts).

Plus, the "guys have asses too" argument doesn't fit here. Its still a good bonus if you have a nice ass.

So, basically, you're in good shape.

P.S. The only advantage of a "bonus" (a.k.a. large breasts or ass) is that you catch more eyes checking you out, and may be more guys approach you with sexual requests. That's it. It ends there. No positives or negatives about "nice guys" or "decent relationships". Just saying.

[mormollio]

You get over it. I've grown out of a lot of my insecurities like being an A cup or only being 5" 3'. Don't worry about it. Eventually you'll just look back on it and laugh.

[CuriousEddie]

They aren't at all inferior, and stop thinking that way. Smaller breasts are great, and a lot of guys like them smaller.

But you also don't want a guy who's focused on something physical like that anyway... there's a lot more to a relationship -- include a sexual relationship! -- than a body type. Two people don't make a good match just because of what they look like, and being a great sex partner has nothing to do with breast size.

You come across as intelligent and well spoken, and that speaks more about you than cup size.

[GodzillaMan]

Sorry, I did not read the whole thing because it was kinda sorta long. But to answer the question "How can I accept small boobs?" I say, Easy! I accept them all the time! You just gotta learn that nobody is gonna diss you for small boobs, and if they do then they aren't worth caring about.

[EngineeringStudent]

" And while I have a nice ass (or so I've been told), I don't know... guys have asses too, so it's like less special than nice boobs"

NOOOOO, you can't go wrong with a nice ass. Trust me, just as many guys would love that alone as would hate your small boobs.

Personally to me, that's just bonus stuff anyway. It just reinforces my attraction to someone. If you've got a reasonable face, you're good to go.

You don't HAVE to be hot.

[CatholicVirginia]

"You don't HAVE to be hot" is not a good argument! Everyone wants to be attractive.

[CatholicVirginia]

And even though I know hot can be a bad thing and beautiful good, saying you don't have to be hot reads as "you don't have to be attractive for a guy to like you!"

[EngineeringStudent]

No, when I say you don't have to be hot, I mean you don't have to be a model. You don't have to be completely perfect.

[G_GTom]

How is this different from a man having a small penis?

[Asker]

Well, you know, it is. Your penis isn't constantly on display, etc. And from a purely physical point of view, a small penis can make a guy pickier. Let's face it, most women aren't that tight down there, so they won't be able to really please a guy with a small penis, and he may get bored. I like small penises because when doing oral I can take them entirely into my mouth, but whatever. A big penis can also hurt. Also, most women can't orgasm from penetration, so size is irrelevant.

[ilovesparkles]

Tight pants and a frilly shirt. Guys like balance.

[cyrus7]

Im not even gonna bother reading all that sh*t

but boobs are boobs and I love them small medium or big, as long as they are attached to a girl I care about then I don't even care :)

[peace-love-couture]

AT LEAST you were honest "Im not even gonna bother reading all that sh*t" Total honesty there lol

[cyrus7]

:)

[gerald5466]

in my opinion boob size doesn't really matter it's mainly their personality but they still need to be pretty at the same time I am an ass guy so boob size doesn't really matter but I would still give small boobs attention.

[sponge-bob]

you said " I guess great boobs are harder to come across? " you are right they are harder to come across. The reason why is because girls with small boobs hide them with oversized shirts. I always thought small boobs are extremely rare and thats why I never see girls small boobs, until I started reading online about you girls with those perfect small boobs keep them covered up so no body knows you exist.

[goofyphil]

personally I prefer small breasts, like a lot of men I hope. big t*ts just tend to sag and I think that's discusting hope that helped

[Anonymous]

they said that big tits are nice tits,
small tits are fun tits.
girl thinking getting implants may help,
well that would just be too boring.
whether guys like or not like anything is irrelevant,
they like whoever they like and whatever that fancy them from big landwhale to anorexic sick girl.

right now, it's all about what you like on yourself for yourself and nothing to do about what the guys like about you.
We gonna look are you regardless anyway, whether you have a big badonk-kadonk or a flat ass, whether you have a big pamela titties or loli-flatchested, guys WILL LOOK at it. and Guys will fancy it, unless your personality is shit they would just give it a glance and never look back.

p. s. you want big titties? check out vibrating bra, that might helps.

[Anonymous]

I have 34A's and have no problems with guys checking me out. If you're attractive and thinner with nice thighs and a nice butt, guys will still notice you.

I don't feel bad about having smaller boobs but I just think my body would look perfect with C cups so I've been debating getting cohesive gel implants after I turn 23. I'd do it for me, not to increase the amount of already unwanted attention guys give me.

[Anonymous]

If a guy likes you he likes you for you. Like you say yes most guys are attracted to larger boobs but honesty I've had huge crushes on two different chicks in my life that had small boobs (A cup or less) and I felt just as attracted to them as any other girl, even ones with bigger boobs. I think women are beautiful in all different shapes and sizes, what really attracts me is overall body shape, eye color, smile, and hair color. I''m attracted to a variety of different women's body shapes and styles they wear. Your level of confidence in yourself will take you farther than your looks with lots of guys!

[Asker]

I know, my previous boyfriends all liked me for me, but knowing and actually SEEING how much more they enjoyed big boobs sucked... I mean, I know guys check out other women even if they love their girlfriend, but just because that's a fact doesn't make it OK to do it when your girlfriend is right beside you, also, just cause it's a fact doesn't make it any less hurtful.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't ever check out other women if I'm with a girl I really like even if random chicks around us happen to be hot, it's rude and any guy that says he likes you but still gawks at other women around you is not that great of a guy and probably isn't that into you.

[Anonymous]

just a thought, but if your very skinny have you considered trying to gain some weight? when women put on weight their boobs get fatter and thus bigger

also think of yourself as a model, a lot of models are petite like you and sometimes its all about diversity

[Asker]

I'm not that skinny. I guess that's because most of my weight goes to my lower body. Anyway the thing is, guys don't really like skinny models like fashion models, they like the ones that have at least B cups, and I wish at least my face and hair were as pretty as models', lol.