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If looks don't matter for girls, why do all the best looking guys get asked out and hit on all the time?

Obviously because looks are just as important to girls as they are to guys. I'm sick of everyone on this site talking about how important personality is, when it isn't. It's all about looks. I'm 16, so no-one at my age gives a sh*t about relationships, it's all about sex mostly. If you look like brad pitt (or who-ever you think is an attractive celebrity) you'll have no trouble finding a girl. EVERYTHING is based around looks. Don't even try to deny it. Even in relationships, all you have to do is NOT be an a**hole and you'll have a good enough personality. Also, how can an ugly guy develope a good personality? If the guy was tormented all his life (bullies, getting no attention from girls etc) he'd probably be screwed up in the head.
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  • Well, there's a difference between saying personality is more important than looks, and saying looks point blank don't matter.

    Looks definitely don't hurt, and they will help a lot when it comes to initial attraction and getting noticed. If you're physically attractive AND you have a great personality, you will probably have an advantage over someone who just has the personality. However, I for one could never stay in a relationship with someone if I didn't find their personality attractive. I would choose someone with so-so looks but a fantastic personality over someone with great looks and a so-so personality any day. Personality is the priority for me.

    In my experience with talking to people, a lot of the time guys who are having trouble dating automatically assume that it's because girls are mean, judgmental, superficial, obsessed with penis size and appearance, etc. This may be true some of the time. But often, I can see that those guys are struggling with other limitations and issues that they may not be conscious of, i.e. they are excessively insecure, not that nice themselves, prejudiced against women, or just not putting themselves in the right situations to meet people. It doesn't seem to occur to them that they could actually be single for a non-superficial reason.

    That's just my take on the situation.

  • looks matter. that phrase in your title is bs because your going to choose who you like based on looks & personality. some people are dub and choose just based on looks. personality is what matters. & don't call yourself ugly. your just degrading yourself & making yourself feel worse. it's not good. find a girl who likes you for u.

  • because looks do matter, those broads are LYING! looks aren't everything but they do matter a lot, especially initially. if you're ugly my advice to you is: dress nicely, be well groomed, take up a sport and become athletic, act macho/manly/masculine, and be confident. don't act like a wimpy dork and don't act like a punk

    • Or I could just magicly become good looking and not have to worry about all that bullsh*t.

    • Also, I'm not really that bad looking, just average.

    • Except magic is kind of hard to come by, right?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • Dude, you got it all wrong.

    Looks don't matter in a serious relationship. That is true. BUT, how do you choose the guy that you want to have a relationship with?

    They are all strangers, and until you approach them, you don't know how good they are as a potential partner, so how do you approach the right guy? You never know, but the only criterion that you can judge without knowing the guy is "looks".

    So, looks DO count one way or another. They just don't count anymore after the girl is in a serious relationship.

  • Looks do matter. Every who says they don't matter at all is either ugly/lying or a true rarity. Personality only matters once someone passes the appearance test. That being said, sometimes, a personality can increase or decrease someone's attractiveness slightly. My hat is off to anyone who points this hypocrisy out. I especially don't like girls who say they're looking for someone who's "not a jerk". What they're really saying is someone who's "tall, dark and handsome PLUS not a complete jerk".

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  • Looks matter. No one ever said they didn't. But you guys choose to take in what you want to and leave out what you want.

    Just as guys don't want ugly girls, girls don't want ugly guys.

    • People frequently say that looks don't matter. I don't know from where you pull "No one ever said they didn't".

    • In real life no one ever says that. My friends both male and female will openly say looks matter and I have many friends who take looks into consideration more than personality.

    • That sounds more like lust.

  • People don't always want to admit the discriminatory sides of their being.

    It was like at a Flirtations concert

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TaZrZpIqx_E

    Where Jon said "One of us thinks size matters" and Michael adds "And four of us are lying!"

    There's a difference between what is said and what is really done by people.

  • People grow out of that stuff as they grow up, and realize that not everyone can have a Brad Pitt or Mila Kunis. At your age, it's not surprising that looks are pretty much everything. That's why high school relationships rarely last.

    I'm far from attractive, and I get approached occasionally. I'm already seeing someone though.

  • K, so. Guys that get asked out and hit on, sure they're probably hot. BUT people get hit on based on how good looking they are, not on how great their personality is. They have no way of knowing what someone's personality is just by looking at them. Although, girls that go for 'a**hole' types will probably end up getting screwed over because for these guys they never appreciate what they have and they usually have 'the grass is always greener' syndrome. Then, eventually she's end up with the right guy-however attractive he may/may not be.

    • no she doesn't end up with the right guy, she ends up old and alone, statistically speaking

  • I don't want to sound like an uncaring bitch. But honestly it's this way because it just is. Anything we tell you on here will not change the way the world works or the way girls feel about anything. Looks are not the most important to all of us but looks are good to have and that widely known amongst guys.

  • We say looks don't matter to make people feel better about themselves... But everyone knows that looks really matter... To some more than others and vice versa.

  • Looks matter somewhat so does personality but if a guy is hot but a rude jerk I lose interest..if he is nice but not good looking id just be friends because I like his personality

  • I agree, the better looking you are, the more successful you are in life. This applies not only to relationships/sex, but job opportunities and social status. Personality is still important, but you can definitely fake it till you make it.

  • Looks are 1st impressions

  • because looks matter most definitely, you should really worry about your education and money first and when you're in your late 20's you'll be able to get the late teens early 20s that you can't get now

  • those girls are lying then, they don't want to seem shallow

  • Truth is looks matter

  • Looks are integral parts of interpersonal sexual/romantic relationships. They ignite the initial sparks of attraction, and over time, they become less important (as looks don't last forever, usually) over time.

    Protip: people tend to say that looks don't matter when they *wish* that looks didn't matter, or when they are trying to spare your feelings.

  • Looks matter, and I don't know one girl who says they don't. Personality is important, but it's a secondary thing. I know lots of ugly guys with great personalities.

    The thing is- an ugly guy (no matter how great a personality he has) CANNOT expect the Scarlett Johnansson of women, that's ridiculous.

    • For me, looks are the secondary thing. I'm not saying they don't matter at all to me- that WOULD be lying- but they're definitely not more important than personality to me personally.

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