Do guys think about other girls besides their girlfriend sexually?

The other night my boyfriend's friends were talking about an attractive actress, and a few of them said "I'd f**k her". I was in the room so my boyfriend didn't say anything, but it made me wonder if he talks about other girls like that when I'm around. A few times he has said that he thinks certain girls are hot, like famous actresses (and once a porn star), when his friends were talking about it, which made me uncomfortable but I didn't think about it. One friend named the actress Megan Fox in particular (who is so gorgeous), and asked my boyfriend who he thought was more attractive: me or her. He didn't answer but I looked at him and he just laughed nervously, which pretty much gave away his answer. I guess what I am asking is do guys that have a girlfriend talk/think about f**king hot girls they see, even if they get plenty of sex from their girlfriend? I know that he's a guy and that's what a lot of guys do, but I don't know, its just making me think that he does this because I don't satisfy him. I'm probably over thinking this but it's been bugging me for the past few days. Thanks!
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i meant to say "it made me wonder if he talks about other girls when I'm NOT around"
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I have heard and seen these questions asked countlessly in the past and I feel it is important to answer. So I am familiar with models and actresses and so forth. I can tell you that their image is purely a product to be sold. It is so little about the actual person that it is downright disgusting. There is a ridiculous amount of photoshopping and creative lighting to promote an "image" of a person.

    Women in pornography are generally not very happy people. If you read articles about them, they discuss about being manically depressed and often have poor self-esteem. In essence, women in entertainment (adult and non-adult) have sold their very livelihood for stardom.

    Today it is too bad that the "actresses" coming out are more for the visual pleasure than their actual talents. They have a team of trainers to get them in shape, make up artists, and stylist to promote a look. Of course, when the paparazzi get that one picture of them not in full make up and attire, it is devastating to their image.

    I have younger family that look up to some of these "actresses". I really feel that I have to explain that these people are "fake". Not necessarily that they aren't people, I am sure they are very friendly, nice, etc. But what you see on television is not the same. So what if Jessica Simpson gained some weight, or if Jennifer Love Hewitt is a bit bigger. Good for them! They are too skinny anyways.

    So when your boyfriend(s) view these women, he is drawn into the image surrounding them. If you spent an hour in the studio, you could look like a movie star too. Be proud that you are flesh and blood. You are more real and truer than these women will ever be.

  • Even guys who are in serious committed relationships have sexual thoughts about other women. Guys who adore their wives/girlfriends, who have great sex lives and who'd never cheat, have sexual thoughts about other women.

    But young guys haven't learned that those are thoughts they should keep to themselves when their woman's around. Try to not take it personally. Remember that girls tend to mature emotionally before guys.

    And asking "who's better looking, her or me" is a loaded question. There's no way a guy can win when a girl asks him that.

    P.S. I think Megan Fox is over-rated and kinda creepy looking. Looking at her makes me feel like I've been infested with crabs.

    • Ah, I love you for your "P.S." comment.

    • Thanks. I don't think she's gonna age well, either. Like Pam Anderson: from a cute girl at 20 to a worn out sad wreck at 40.

    • I feel the same way about megan fox, she's scary.

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  • men will always be just that...men. its the reason we love them and the reason we hate them. I tend to stick with a basic philosophy, "it doesn't matter where he gets his appetite so long as he eats at home". meaning if he feels stimulated by other women, its normal, but if he acts on his impulses its wrong. Now, that said, I don't think its right for a guy to hang out at a strip club all night then come home and put a bag on his lady's head and screw her silly. I don't think its wrong for a woman to find another woman attractive either. you should feel confident enough to admit that another woman is beautiful, it doesn't mean your a lesbian or that you want to bang her, she's just attractive. guys looking at an attractive woman may voice this by saying "id f*** her" while not necessarily meaning it. I'm in a 4 plus year relationship and neither of us have a problem saying another person is attractive. I've seen men that are particularly sexy and make a mental note and move on. that's it.

  • Seeing how the odds he will end up in bed with Megan Fox are stacked against him, Id say she's nothing to worry about. Also, I notice you mentioned its mostly famous actresses and a porn star the guys talk about. Its all unattainable fantasy.

    Nothing compares to the real thing. And yes, you can satisfy him better than a woman he knows he's never going to get...dont let it stress you out. ;)

  • Guys are horny little f**kers they think about doing anything and everything but if your man is in love with you then your all he's thinking about when your together. Don't worry he's a man and it's normal. But yes he should have ditched his friends and said you were the most important thing in his life.

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  • lol Asking him "who do you think is more attractive" is such a gotcha question. PLZ don't think that anything is wrong with you because he talks about um girls that he is NEVER EVER GOING TO GET in RL. Its just a fantasy. Cut him some slack and I don't know tell him all about the dirty things you'd do to a jonas brother if you got your hands on one. xoxo

  • yea you are over thinking.

    of course he does.

    most of the guys do.

  • Profound! Very well written.. Ty

  • guys think girls are hot and so forth but I don't think they would but action into it. like my boyfriend told me its what everyone does. he said that its window shopping and its alright cause he knows I'm there for him. but then what do you mean you don't satisfy him? like you don't do what he likes/wants or in bed?

  • Guys think about hot girls when they see them. That's how it goes whether or not they're getting satisfied. It's not related.

    Megan Fox is awesome, I don't know what's wrong with these people. I just pretend she doesn't have those stupid tattoos.

  • yes

  • of course, my boyfriend and I have been through this and YEA they do think in there mind but if they're as committed as my boyfriend is then, you know they're not gonna cheat on you but all men think they have the right to look at every girl, I don't like that its that way but you've got to realize every man is a man whore and he's gonna look at every other girl and think different things and if he's committed he'll realize its not worth loosing a good girl for a good time. its just in their nature to be man whores.

  • This is sort of hard to answer. A lot of people say this, but I think it depends on the person. I know that my boyfriend looks at porn and thinks other girls are attractive. He knows that I think the same of other guys. I don't really think about f***ing every hott guy I see though. I just don't bother asking silly questions like "Oh, you think she is prettier than I am don't you?" because that shows insecurity within yourself. It's really nothing you should worry about. He is with you and cares about you, that's all that matters. Something I've learned is that you can't worry about little things like that in a relationship. Spend your time enjoying eachother. It's human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex (speaking heterosexually). So what if he thinks Megan Fox is a babe? Hell, I can even admit that haha. What matters is that at the end of the day, you're the girl that really matters.

    • Wow. Good answer. That actually made ME feel better about myself (I'm in the same situation. Except it's not an actress I'm being compared to. It's my boyfriend's former, and possibly present, crush. It really hurts.)

  • yes, its just the way that almost all guys are. we can't help it. they are only thoughts though, so we can keep them private. this is not your fault, and unless you f*** him til he's sick, you probably will never satisfy him to the point that he doesn't have brief sexual thoughts whenever he sees a hot women. the best you can hope for is that he loves you more than anyone else, that he doesn't talk about the thoughts he has, and that he's faithful.

    • This is a really good advice I have read.. cause I was wondering the same thing. I just kinda felt put out of place.. Like I haven't done my job, the girl in his head did it all.

  • maybe he is just being honest, but when he say other girls are hotter than you, you should say maybe she is hot but no I'm hotter, be confident=)

  • Almost definitely! I am pretty sure almost all guys do. For example... one of my friends hang out with my boyfriend, and they were talking about how hot Anna Nicole was, and how it was too bad that she was dead. So I thought that wow, they even think dead chick's are hot! Lol, don't worry about it though, its just their nature..guys...no offense... but don't worry because you are probably satisfying him plenty!

  • Sure, if he's staying loyal to you in reality, don't get jealous about his thoughts. It's actually a little creepy when girls get that freaky jealous.

    • I know, I don't mean to be the creepy jealous girlfriend, but when he says girls are hotter than me when I'm sitting right there, it doesn't feel so good...

    • But he didn't saying anything, he just laughed nervously.

    • But it still feels bad. like what if your girlfriend was asked who she thought was hotter, you or orlando bloom, and she just laughed nervously? that wouldn't make you feel too good I'm assuming.

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