How can I tell if he enjoyed blow job if he wasn't very vocal

[Anonymous]

ok kinda embarrassed even asking lol, but here's my diemma. gave a guy I am dating a blow job...i never give them unless I really like a guy but when I do I have never had a problem with a guy getting off from them...and only takes me a couple of minutes to get them to get off and usually they moan and are obviously enjoying it. so I really like this guy. a lot. but he's a little bigger and thicker than I'm used to and I got nervous for the first time giving one. kind of had performance anxiety over it lol. anyway, I felt I wasn't moving my mouth around enough, didn't get it wet enough, wasn't sure I was going deep enough, etc. just questioned myself the whole time. had a hard time with the motions Because of his size. I didn't hear him make any sounds (he's not super loud in general but will moan a bit during sex esp as he's about to go and he breathes a lot heavier as he gets more excited). he did get hard and stay hard while I was doing it and gently stroked my hair and rubbed my back while I was doing it but not sure if that was more "hey you can do it champ" kinda thing lmao...anyway, he ended up saying "let's go in the bedroom" before I got to finish him off...i prob only blew him for like 2-3 minutes...anyway, we ended up having sex when we got in the bedroom and he got off in less than a minute...so all's well that ends well lol...but did he switch to sex Because I wasn't good at bj or did he just wanna get off through sex? I mean he did stay hard during bj and got off very fast much faster than usual when having sex rt after I stopped so maybe all is fine. yes, I know I sound like a freak but I really like him and it's not for my ego that I want to give him a good one, it's Because I think he is great guy and want to make him feel good. what do you guys think? if I "sucked" at sucking haha, would he have gotten soft?

[dnately]

Let me tell you something about myself, and maybe it can help:

I love blowjobs. I enojy them a lot, but it takes a long time for me to orgasm from one, no matter how good the girls giving it is. When it's with someone I know well, then it doesn't matter so much: it'll take 10 minutes (or more) and I'll get off; but when it's a new partner I get a bit self conscious about her being down there and working hard for so long. So when a new girl goes down on me, I typically stop her after a few minutes and move to go down on her, or have sex.

I'm also very quiet during blowjobs, which is not so good. I try to remember to make noise so that my partner knows I'm having fun (which I really am), but I often forget.

In other words: I would probably behave very similarly to your partner, and it doesn't mean that I'm not enjoying it.

Finally, being bisexual, I've gone down on guys with various sizes. I love sucking bigger ones, it gets me really excited, but everybody knows it's more difficult (to the point of hurting your jaws). He knows this too, and from your question, it sounds like you really know what you're doing. You seem to understand the art of the bj better than most people I know.

[Asker]

thanks so much for all this feedback...it helped me a lot!

[dnately]

My pleasure. If it doesn't work out with him, I'll be happy to be on the receiving end of your mouth skills :)

[Asker]

hahaha thx!

[JayCutler]

You blowing him off fir about 2-3 minutes and him getting off for about a min when your got in the bedroom so in general we looking at 6 minutes? Lmfao in my opinion from what I read he just wanted to get it off the penetration which wasn't very long at all lol but if that bothers you that much just talk to him about it and let him know that you not used to that size yet and he should bare with you

[Asker]

thanks for feedback! so to make sure I'm getting this correctly...he was just super horny? and wanted to get off fast? and I wasn't doing a good job? we did end up having sex two more times that night and he lasted a lot longer lol...

[JayCutler]

Yeah of course. Bottom line is guys usually last a bit longer after the first try but what I was saying is if you felt like you wasn't doing a good job at bj you just just let him know you weren't use to that size yet. I started this girl and appearently I was too big for her and everytine we would have sex I would feel bad cause of the pain in her face but she told it felt good to keep going. So we seat Down and talk about ahe she said I have to be patient with her. She have to get use to it

[Asker]

ok thank you so much for your feedback!

[SuzieC]

You can't know.

But you can improve your technique.

It's all about getting yourself in the right spirit and acknowledging your own sexiness. Don't hold back, open up to your own inner dark side. Once you've won that battle it's all about getting your blow job technique down pat.

Techniques should be practiced in order to really get good at giving head. So practice on your man and practice with a sex toy or maybe a big carrot, something penis shaped obviously. This way you'll be a pro within a few weeks, guaranteed, even faster if you get into it.

In order for a blow job to be pleasurable you're going to have to not let your teeth get in the way. We're simulating our vagina and our vagina doesn't have any sharp teeth, now does it?

The best way to avoid your teeth from scraping on your man's penis is to open up wide and use your tongue, your lips, and the sides of your mouth to block your teeth from even touching his penis. Check out this great guide here - link

If you've ever watched a p*rno movies you'll notice that these skilled women can give head at super fast speeds without any teeth scraping – this is your goal. Commit to it and learn.

[Asker]

great tips! thank you!

[CND1992]

well since he got off so fast well having sex you probably did a good job he just was probably twitching and wanting to move some and probably move his hips but maybe didn't wanna be rough while you had his d*** in his mouth lol...if he wnats antoher one anytime soon you know he liked it for sure...but then again he could be one of the rare guys that just don't really care that much about head who knows? lol

[Asker]

thanks! yeah, I gotta redeem myself next time though just in case...if only for my own confidence haha...ugh I guess I really like him more than I knew...

[Anonymous]

Not every guy gets off from blowies and I'd imagine a big guy is used to the fact that its more difficult for a woman to give them. Actually, as he only owns one penis, that's the only thing he does know.

[Asker]

true! I guess at some point I gotta bring it up to him I don't know just feel dumb lol

[taster]

Thank You! Yes, not all of us are alike and we DON'T all like bjs...(:

[archer86]

If he didn't make you stop, then it's all good.

[Christyd87]

you can tell by their breathing. If it gets deeper and faster, you are probably doing a good job.

[Anonymous]

not good