Some girls like it some don't. My girlfriend for example likes getting fingered there, and I've made her come from fingering and anal sex, plenty of times so it is possible to do it right.As for doing it in a way that is less painful, it's important to heavily lubricate, and to prep first. Both need to be done before sex otherwise it's just going to hurt. If you were dumb enough not to do this, then you're a moron and no wonder it hurt.
For prep, the first thin you want to do is to sort of tease her asshole. Start by applying a thin layer of lubricant to her ass, and just sort of gently run your fingers or thumb up and down the applied area. Giving her a rim job is a good idea too, assuming you can apply allot of pressure with your tongue. Then try pushing just a little bit with your thumb and do a circular motion on her asshole. Remember to apply more lubricant if it ever gets less slippery.
After you've done this for long enough, and if she's feeling confident (and yes this is important - ask first) then maybe you can move on to inserting a finger. Lubricate her ass some more, and your finger as well. If she's bent over, you'll want to be pushing downward a little, (if she's on her back, push up) but gently, and while doing this you'll want to slowly put your finger in, but only about an inch at first, and then pull out, and back in. Ask her if this feels OK, if so, try putting it in a little deeper, and keep this up until your whole finger is in there. If you can do a whole finger, and she's OK with it, then move on to a second finger, but you're gonna need to relubricate and start from the beginning. Also while during all this you might want to rub her clitoris. For some girls this really helps.
If you can fit two fingers in, then maybe, just maybe, you can try your penis. I recommend doggy style for a first time, as it gives you both the most amount of control. Again just try pushing down and gently putting it in. Only about an inch first and then maybe deeper if she's ok.
One thing I want to make VERY clear. If at any point in all of the steps she says it's not OK, or if she's uncomfortable, or if she's in pain, or if anything is in any way not right in the slightest. STOP RIGHT FUCKING NOW!
Anyway I hope this helps you out.
I've done it at least a dozen times and still kinda dislike it. I might tolerate it for a guy I'm really into, but it isn't something I actually want to do. It's worse if he rams the whole thing in at once, or rams at all ... but even when he's gentle, I don't like it. Actually, I fell in love with a guy once who asked me if I liked anal sex (while we were trying it) and I said no, but I'd do it for him because we had great sex and I liked him a lot (seriously, he gave me 2-3 orgasms nearly ever time). He stopped any said he only liked doing what I liked and not if it hurt me. SWOON!
That's how I am. If my girl isn't having a good time, then I'm not having a good time. It was her idea to try anal, so I was like, OK. But as soon as I went in, she was like take it out now! lol. I was just wondering if there were any tricks, cause we had plenty of lubrication. I just think I'm a little to big for that hole. lol
To be honest, the smaller the guy, the easier it is ;)
If the anus were not designed specifically for things to come out of it, I would love it. The anus is not designed for large things to be inserted into it; as a result, it is painful and can cause a lot of damage. It is unsafe and not appealing to me for those reasons.
I would suggest you lubricate your penis and her anus before inserting your penis in her. That should make it easier for her, and less painful.
It doesn't have to hurt at all, not even the first time, given she wants to try it too. There's tons of advice on here. Look it up.
I heard doggy isn't good for the first time. Maybe try spoonie first
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It so Gross! and weird !
i don't find it pleaseing atall ? it feels quite painfull ?
I have a feeling, I'll like it a lot once I do it. Use lots of lube to make the anal passage less dry which will make it easier for you to go inside her. And just go nice and slow.
We had a LOT of lube and I actually fingered her ass for a while before I put my d*** in it. She loved the fingering part, but when I put my d*** in, she was done with anal. lol. I was just wondering if there is a position that's less painful, but it kinda sounds like there isn't.
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