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Females prefer penetration when fingering?

when I finger myself, the best way to do it for me is penetrate and rub my clitoris at the same time. I have gotten some g spot orgasms bit only when I have rubbed my clit while stimulating the g spot. Does this mean I won't ever orgasm from penetration alone? It definitely was a g spot orgasm though. Which way do you prefer? Penetration makes masturbation feel a lot more real sex than just rubbing the clit does. I love being filled. Guys which way do you prefer to finger a girl? Lately I do it every night. Is this a lot for a girl?
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  • Much like AustinMan, I've been several girls' first "penetration orgasm" partner. This is partially technique, using positions that not only provide penetration, but also stimulation of the G-spot and/or the clitoris, but it's also about paying attention to the girl's reactions to everything you do, which helps you determine what is working and what isn't. Different girls have different needs, or different paths to the same destination.

    I have been able to make almost every girl I've been with orgasm through fingering alone, meaning without clit stimulation. I admit that with some girls, it's a bit more work than with others, though. :)

    As far as G-spot stimulation with fingers, there are three techniques that really make girls respond. The first is the classic "come hither" motion where you hook your finder and rub towards you. The other two I don't hear talked about much, but work well for me. One is to rub it in a circular motion, which has the added bonus of allowing you to reverse the direction (clockwise or counter-clockwise), and the other is the "windshield wiper" technique of sweeping over it side to side. It's a very rare day that these techniques fail to bring a powerful orgasm for her.

    And (to really give all of my secrets away), sometimes using your palm or your other hand to apply downward pressure on her pubic mound, or for some girls just above it on the lower belly, can increase the sensations. Adventurous girls, or ones into some pain with their pleasure, may also enjoy some slapping/spanking of the ass, inner or outer thighs, pubic mound, belly, etc. while you're doing this. Obviously use discretion and know that it's not for every girl...

    I hear statistics like "only 30% of women orgasm through penetration" and I cringe, because I really believe that most of those other 70% probably could do, if they were only with a guy who spent less time worrying about themselves and a little more time really making an effort to learn how to please their girl. And, guys, here's the thing (as AustinMan mentioned in his last sentence): if you can give your girl real mind-blowing orgasms on a regular basis, your girl will be willing to do just about ANYTHING you want her to do to you or for you, and you'll never have trouble with her not wanting sex with you. She'll be that little nympho you always wished for.

  • To answer your first question: the clitoris is much larger that just the "girl in the boat." That's just where it is exposed. Most of the women I've been with tell me that I'm the first guy where they have achieved orgasm just from penetration. Part of that is when I'm inside, I control my thrusting so that I hit their G spot or close. It's best when they're on top so I can do an almost violent pelvic tilt when I feel like they're close to cumming and slam the shaft into their G spot or doggy so I can put lots of pressure on the G spot. They generally come like a house afire. A lot of guys aren't very skilled and they don't understand one of the basic premises when it comes to women (and I know there are a lot of exceptions--I'm speaking for myself): if a guy makes sure a woman gets everything she needs and at least 80% of what she wants in bed, she'll do darn near anything.

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  • yea I'm the same way. I used to masturbate by only rubbing my clit, but since I started having sex that doesn't do enough for me anymore, and I bought a vibrator. but, the only way I can have orgasms where penetration is involved is if I'm also rubbing my clit at the same time. I got pretty close to having an orgasm from penetration alone with my last boyfriend, but not quite.

    as for frequency there was a point in my life where I used to do it every night, but not so much anymore. it's easier for me to get turned on and have orgasms with a guy if I lay off the masturbation for a while, so I engage in it sparingly haha.

  • It's possible, because that's the only way I can have a g-spot orgasm as well. Or through intercourse where it's stimulated, with clit stimulation. But just fingering or sex alone, that hasn't done it yet. Penetration is by far my favorite even if I don't get off, but with the clit too, it's even better.

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  • well personally I like to combine a little bit of everything during foreplay in my opinion.

    So regarding to how finger a girl is start off rubbing the area in circles to get her started then after a minute when I know she's wet, slide a finger in, or two if I can, then move it in deep as I can go then back and forth. Sometimes ill even swirl my finger around in circles for two reasons , to find her g spot and keep her sensation and feeling from getting too dull.

    I keep mixing it up as time goes by with other actions as well but regarding to your case, its okay to prefer penetration over just rubbing the clit and vagina. If I were you I would try all of it, meaning one hand penetrates while the other rubs,etc. Variety is a gift, I say take advantage of it like you have been doing.

  • Where were you when I was 18-24? :-)

    Fun and joke aside, did you curl your long finger upwards when you put it in there? That makes my wife happy when I do that, and I presume that is where the proverbial magic spot is.

    • Yeah you curl it a bit

    • But first, I massage around the clitoris, then the clitoris, just to get her wet enough that my fingers can get in there. She is rather petite and I am rather tall/large.

  • yes I do prefer penetration

  • My experience is that most of "the work" is done by lotiony flat handing of the whole upper half of the vulva. Circles, reversals and random motion. I add two finger penetration (filling her) when her arousal is high and she wants more stimulation, curling them up to the gspot. My hand position is first two fingers inside and thumb rubbing the clit directly from below and still flat handing with the other.

    Once a day at your age (especially if you get an orgasm) is very moderate.

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