How should I feel about being fingered for the first time?

[eyeamwrite]

How should I feel after being fingered the first time? I've been very comfortable with my body and I am with someone who really cares about me, a couple nights ago I came very close to an orgasm when he was just touching me and rubbing me through my underwear, and last night he fingered me. It hurt for a second, and I said "ow" because though he was being very gentle and it felt good, it was something new and at some point it felt uncomfortable. The thing is, I do feel very comfortable around him, but now when I think about it I feel sort of weird, I think it's really nice of him to want to do that for me and I think it's really sweet. But should I feel weird thinking about this? Is it just because it just happened? When I think about what happened I think he's really special and I feel awful for ever even thinking about this, especially because he felt terrible because he thought he hurt me and there were a lot of apologies and a lot of "Are you alright?" And I'm not sure if all of this is normal.

[TurbulentDan12]

You shouldn't feel weird at all for thinking like this. The sort of hesitancy you feel is very normal. Eventually the more times you have this done to you the more comfortable you will be with it. It's great that this was a guy you care about and won't regret doing it with. You're the only one who can decide whether or not you're ready for it, but since you seem comfortable with this guy and you say you're comfortable with your body I'm guessing you do feel ready for this.

You're young and sexual contact like this is unfamiliar. These kind of emotions and reactions are normal so don't stress about them. You'll become more comfortable the more times it happens. My guess is that the next time it happens you'll feel 10 times more comfortable.

[sixstring]

All you should feel is whatever you want to feel about it.

Don't worry though, everything you went through is quite normal. Return the favor to him though.

[sixstring]

Yes it's normal to think about it.

[eyeamwrite]

I plan on it, in other relationships I've sort of just expected that if it was going to go there, that I'd be the one to initiate it, which I have, it just never got far enough for the "favor to be returned" to me. Of course I'd like to do the same for it, but it just feels a little weird right now, if that makes sense. Thinking about it confuses me.

[Anonymous]

It's totally normal. If you have feelings for this guy, then it should be a special experience for the both of you. If you didn't have true feelings for him then that might be why it was sort of awkward. It sounds to me like he cares about you considering he felt awful because he thought he hurt you. Its something new that you experienced, and there's nothing wrong with feeling "Weird" after something new happens. Completely normal. I hope everything works out with the two of you. By the way, after a while, once you're used to it, fingering will begin to feel ahhhhh-mazing!

[Screamo-Lu]

Everyone dwells on their first time after the fact. It's completely normal, especially for a teenage girl.

[l-hedoniste]

You feel how you feel, but what's most important is that you talk with him about what you're feeling, and listen to what he's feeling. That's how you become okay with it.

[CuriousEddie]

I don't understand what is "weird" about it... he would have liked it, but I can't tell if you liked it or not. Do you finger yourself when you masturbate? Is what he did similar to that, but it hurt a little?

It wasn't simply "nice" of him... guys really do like giving girls sexual pleasure, you know.

[RealMenFly]

So what are you thinking?

[RealMenFly]

Just give it time, I guess it was a big thing for you so you feel weird emotionally.

[eyeamwrite]

He was really sweet about the whole thing, and I was entirely comfortable with letting him try to please me, that just seems really nice to me. I guess it just feels weird thinking about what he must have been feeling or thinking or if it was uncomfortable for him or if it was weird for him.

[RealMenFly]

So you're worried about how he felt?

[eyeamwrite]

I guess so.

[RealMenFly]

Awww, you don't need to be. :)