Last night we got drunk, and I gave my best friend a blowjob. Now he wants to do the same to me tonight. Help!

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So I'll admit, it's something I always wanted to try. Giving that is, not receiving. We were both drunk, and when he dared, I couldn't say no. There was no hugging or kissing. Just oral until he came in my mouth (wasn't expecting the volume, but managed). He's making a lot of solid arguments about fairness. I got to satisfy my curiosity. But I'm worried that it will evolve into something more. We're both planning to go to the same party tonight, and will both be drinking. I'm confused. I shaved down there this afternoon just in case I can't say no. Inside, I think I want to do him again, a little more sober so that I can remember more, but if he wants to do me, I may have to drink a lot more to overcome my anxiety. What should I do?

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Happy New Year! And what a night! We left the party right after midnight and raced to his place. I got to give again -- and receive -- TWICE! I'm glad I was sober, and did him first. I was so turned on from the night before, that I came really fast the first time. It was awesome. The second time was a 69 by the fireplace, that lasted so long. Lots of teasing. At one point I replicated his every move, and it felt like I had my own penis in my mouth. Wow. Thanks to all of you for your support!

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Anonymous
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If anyone is interested, I think you're straight, but bi-curious.

This guy is your friend/buddy, I'm going to guess you have a strong bond/connection. If so, it's possible for that line to be crossed.

Think about it from this perspective, you are not the first straight guy to want to experiment like this. By nature guys are curious. You've grown up with a c*** and played about with it and know what makes you feel good, so you're curious to know what makes another guy feeel good knowing that you are involved/in control of that.

It's also understandable to want to know what if feels like to have something that's attached to you, but out of reach - in your mouth (or something very similar - i.e. his).

I get the feeling you really enjoyed yourself, but equally enjoyed the element of control and now feel nervous because he will have some of that control. I think you should level with him about your concerns/fears if you can. Maybe you could "69" with him to make it easier for you?

Either way, if you start hugging/kissing I think you're hitching a ride towards Bi-town.

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Prometheus42 Xper 5
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So tell us where your head is at now you've had a taste for it, no pun intended LOL.

Is this something you want to keep up, has it made it awkward for you being around him when not having sex?

Do you consider yourself straight, bisexual - etc?

Do you suspect he is straight, closet gay? bi etc?

Who made the first sexual move?
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RedSonja Xper 5
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It's possible you unconsiously want him to recipocate because you didn't groom yourself. But it worried me when you said, "just in case you can't say no." You can always say no. You can change your mind and say "no" in the middle of the sex act. Know you rights! It's your body and make sure you treat it right and respect yourself. You have to take of you and make sure that something doesn't happen that you'll regret later.

Also, I hope you don't feel the need to binge drink either. That's somewhat unhealthy to you psychologically as well. Just trust yourself in the whichever decision you go with and stick with it.

Be safe. Best of luck in 2012!
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  It happened! Twice for each of us! :) Details in the update above. Happy New Year!
lolli Xper 4
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Did you like it?

I sorta agree with your friend that it would only be fair if you let him do it too.

And to me, you shaving also says that subconsciencely you want him to.
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  Yeah, I liked most of it. Some parts a lot more than others. But overall, for the first time it was positive. When I think about it, I've been getting hard and wanting to masturbate, but am holding off, just in case something happens tonight. I want to try giving again tonight. I'm feeling that in order to do so, I will have to come to terms with receiving. It's all so new to me. Do you remember what your first time was like? Was it very exciting and scary at the same time?
- lolli
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  First time receiving? Very exciting! It was such a rush! I was all smiles and screams(excited playful ones)
- Asker
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  How about first time giving?
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- lolli
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  That was more scary. I didn't know what to do except don't let the teeth scrape it. I couldn't finish cause my mouth would fill with saliva and I'd gag. Later I learned on this site that it was OK to spit. So I could finish. And that made it more satisfying when I could get a guy to the point of orgasm. I've never really wanted to try a deep throat.
- Asker
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  OMG that's so true about the saliva. I really didn't expect it. I felt a little bad because I was slobbering all over him, but tried to remember how good a warm wet blowjob feels. Super self conscious about teeth. I'm circumcised, and he isn't, so that was a whole new thing to explore. At one point I made a little "balloon" with his foreskin by accident. That was a surprise. There was no way I could deep throat. He's pretty large and I gagged a couple of times. Then he came. Soooo much cum. Wow!
- lolli
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  A balloon? Well, good luck tonight. Let me know what happens :)
- Asker
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  It happened! Twice for each of us! :) Details in the update above. Happy New Year!
- lolli
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  You had a happier new year than I did ;-) Sounds like it was kinda romantic by the fire and teasing... I'm sure a billion thoughts are still racing through your head. Do you think he does it better than a girl since he has the parts and would better know how they feel and what they want?
- Asker
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  The "balloon" happened when I wrapped my lips around the tip his head, and accidentally exhaled through my mouth. Air got caught between his foreskin. I did it again the second time we were together and we both found it funny. Who knew! :) As to which is better, guy or girl, it just seems very different. Overall, girls feel softer, gentler, and "smaller" -- eg when he put his hands on my penis I felt "smaller" if that makes sense. Maybe because we're more inexperienced, girls seem...p1
- Asker
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  ...to know what to do. I know I didn't feel like a "natural" despite having lived with my penis. Up close like that, and giving oral with someone else's, is very different than anything I've experienced. So it felt all new and mysterious. Plus he's uncut, which made it a learning experience. If anything, I realized how much I have missed out on all these years. I've been imagining it for a long time, and every time I watched a girl/guy p*rn blowjob, I'd imagine being the girl...p2
- Asker
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  ...and would try those moves on him. When he was doing me, at times it felt kind of "pornish" too, like "hey, that's what the girls in p*rn do!". What I liked most was when we were in a 69, and just taking our time exploring each other. Towards the end, we each had each others' penises in our mouths, and we're pumping. Just almost "soaking" our cocks in each others' mouths, and slowly twirling tongues. I was so trying not to cum, but as soon as he did, I lost it too...p3
- Asker
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  ...and it felt like I was cumming in my own mouth. Hard to describe. One thing I did to him that I loved when girls did to me, was to keep sucking out all his come after his orgasm -- with soft sucks and milking his penis with my hand. So I'm sorry for the really long ramble. Lots of thoughts in my mind. Writing helps me sort them out. I know I like it, and want to do it again. He's coming over this morning, and I've been up all night thinking about it. I'm nervous and still very excited.
- lolli
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  Sounds hot! I've been with someone uncircumcised and never did the balloon, lol! I never did the milking. I'll have to try that sometime. How's all this effecting your friendship? You've had to have kissed by now! Idk, I just never was comfortable with sex without kissing. Made me feel like they weren't that into me.
- Asker
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  Our friendship is solid. We've grown up together. When we were nine, we were talking about sex and he wanted to see what it was like. So I lay on my back on the trampoline, raised my knees, and spread my legs. He lay on top and began dry humping me. It only lasted a minute, and we never did anything like that again, until now. There's definitely that love between friends. There's tension around kissing though. It will make it more than sexual, and raise the big questions. I wish I was a girl.
- lolli
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  Why wish you were a girl? Having periods sux!
- Asker
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  I'm sure having periods sucks. But being a girl must be awesome. You get to love guys AND love girls more openly. Your bodies are soft and beautiful. You're much smarter. Get to wear very sexy lingerie. And I imagine, have sex whenever you want. I've always tried to imagine what it would be like to be a girl. I'm imagining what it might be like to be penetrated. Do you think I should let him try?
- lolli
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  Um, you weren't even sure you wanted his mouth on you 2 days ago! I guess if you both want to. I have heard for a guy that orgasm is amazing because the prostate gets stimulated.
- Asker
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  I know. It feels like a dam is bursting. All these new thoughts and experiences. I think it's just all about not wanting to cross lines. We had a long talk this morning (no sex) about things. We both have a lot of curiosity and figure we could explore that curiosity together. Worst case we wouldn't like it, and revert to being friends. Otherwise, it could be friends with benefits. We both like the idea of bringing a girl into the equation to guide us. We have a mutual female friend that might.
- lolli
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  Why do you need a female to guide you?
- Asker
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  We both love being with girls. There's so much more we could explore together. We both came to realize that one of our shared fantasies is to BOTH be inside a girl -- at the same time. Not anal and vagina. Two penises in one vagina. I'd love to have her dominate us too :)
- lolli
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  Can you have two in one vag at the same time?
- Asker
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  Two in one fits. I've seen videos. Just takes some practice and lube. I can only imagine how awesome it would fell for two cocks running against each other INSIDE a wet warm tight vagina. The thought of us both coming inside her excites us.
- lolli
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  Wow, but the vids were professionals. They may be those fisting girls. Idk. What the heck, take a chance!
- Asker
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  Would you ever participate in something like that? Guiding and watching two men discover each other, and letting them share you?
- lolli
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  Idk...
- Asker
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  Would you prefer just to watch?
- lolli
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  Well that wouldn't be fair if the guys had all the fun!
- Asker
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  Hahahaha! I sensed you were too curious to stay on the sidelines :) Have you ever penetrated a man, with a strap on, dildo, or finger?
- lolli
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  Just a finger... I have had the desire to try a starp on, but haven't met the right guy for that yet :-/
- lolli
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  *strap...
- Asker
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  I wish we were neighbors :) This is where having a girl involved would be helpful. She could be the "equalizer", training us both with a strapon. As he's bigger than me in that department, I'm in for a world of hurt. Need to figure out how one prepares for that type of activity. I can't imagine being ready to accept him in there all at once. Aside from a girls finger, I'm a virgin back there. Have you tried anal? I haven't (either way). Wonder how long it takes before it starts to feel good.
- lolli
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  I haven't tried anal. I'm a virgin there besides a guy's finger too. This may help...
  
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- Asker
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  Thanks. Very informative video. Funny how up till now, everything I learned about anal had to do with giving, not receiving :) This whole experience has increased my respect for women and all they do for the men they love. Going to buy a set of butt plugs of increasing size -- to masturbate with and practice with him. The thought of laying across his lap, with pants pulled down, and being probed feels very naughty. I would love to role play being a girl, maybe even wearing sexy lingerie. Mmmm.
- lolli
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  So he wants to give?
- Asker
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  Yes, he wants to give, and he's open to receiving. As much as I am intrigued about receiving, I'm concerned about his size and my anal virginity. I'm OK with giving too. We've been talking a lot about what's driving us to want to try more new things (curiosity), and what's slowing us down (societal BS). We're accepting of the fact that we're great friends, and trust each other enough to say, nothing we're doing is "wrong" -- we're experimenting to see what we like...p2
- Asker
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  P2...That's the rational side talking. Inside I think we're as afraid as we are excited. Afraid to be exposed, labelled, ostracized by friends and family. There's an urgency we're both feeling now to try it and come to our own decision about whether we like it. I think back to when we were 9 and he was dry humping me. He says he's thought a lot about that too -- and wishes we didn't stop experimenting. He said he's masturbated thinking about being with me in that way for many years now...P3
- Asker
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  P3...I wish I'd known. It would have been a lot easier to take him inside me before he grew to be so big :) When I imagine how this will play out, I want to continue where we left off. On my back, knees up, legs spread. He smiled when I told him that. As apprehensive as I was about receiving oral, I'm now understanding that I was trying to deny that which I really wanted. I now desire that more than giving -- though I still want to try giving. I'm sorry for taking up your time. I'm grateful...P4
- Asker
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  ...P4 to have someone to talk to, who won't pass judgement or hate me for what I'm doing. Thanks!
- lolli
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  Don't worry about a thing ;). I got time for ya. How big is he? I know society is extremely judgemental. Sorry... I always thought anal had to be done doggy style, lol... silly me! As far as family and friends, idk... maybe it's something to keep in the closet, for now anyways. I meanfamily and friends don't belong in anyones bedroom to see what's going on anyways. I'd beware tho if you still live with them.
- Asker
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  Thanks again. He's about 9", and pretty thick. I'm about 6 and on a humid horny day close to seven. Not as thick as he is though. His balls are heavy, and when he cums, it's with great force and quantity. I like it when he's soft. Easier to get more in my mouth. By the time he's really hard, I'm really focusing on the top few inches, and using my hands on the rest. If he pushes in my mouth, it doesn't take much to make me gag. I have no idea how p*rn girls deep throat. Or how they can have...
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  P2...anal at the drop of a hat with practically no lube, save a little spit. I guess practice makes looseness :) I love holding onto his cock, it's so heavy. Making it hard is fun, and getting him to explode takes quite a bit of effort -- but it's well worth it! He's got quite the hard body. I'm in shape, but "softer" than he is -- he's definitely stronger. It's a strange feeling to go from being clearly dominant next to a girl, to being the "girlier" of the two of us. I'm not saying I'm...
- Asker
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  P3...effeminate by any stretch of the imagination, he just has what it takes to be the dominant player between the two of us. Interestingly, I don't mind surrendering some of that control. I've always been curious about what it's like to be a girl, and I'm just going with it, letting him take the lead. That's what intrigues me about anal in the missionary position. I've seen some guy/guy videos and it was new to me, and something I would like to try. I love doggy style with a girl, and...
- Asker
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  P4...especially like "lazy doggy style" where the girl is lying flat on her belly. Girls seem to like that position a lot, but I think I might be too claustrophobic with someone lying directly on top of me with all their weight. I don't think I can surrender all control, and I definitely don't want to be in pain. I want us to both enjoy the experience at all times. Having said that, when we were by the fireplace getting ready to 69, I tucked my penis between my legs, which made him laugh...
- Asker
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  P5...at first, but then he said he wanted to eat my p****. He began to lick me down there as if he was eating out a girl. He couldn't get to my **** except to push his tongue between my legs. I have to say I nearly came then and there. It was incredible pretending to be a girl. He rolled me over after awhile and sucked the tip of my **** which was poking out from behind. I so wanted him to lick my a**hole but he said we should save that for later when we're both ready. I love doing that to...
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  P6...girls. Just thinking of him probing me down there with his tongue makes me hard. I can't stop thinking about those feelings. I'm very sensitive back there. I don't know how you feel about that part of the body, but when it's all clean it's an awesome place to play :) Anyway, I'm rambling again. He called earlier to tell me that he booked a cabin this weekend for the two of us. Spending a whole weekend together is going to be amazing, away from everyone, and free to be us. I think it will...
- Asker
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  P7...happen this weekend. We can try a little at a time. Try new things. Walk around naked if we wanted to. I've been sharing secret fantasies with him, and he's been very encouraging. Willing to try anything. When I told him I'd like to wear lingerie for him, he told me to start shopping. I love that he doesn't judge. At the same time, I still would like a girl to join us. At least for one night. We have a very close mutual friend that is kinky as can be, and she loves us both dearly...
- lolli
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  Wow. I can't but wondeer where you'd put your penis if he did you in missionary. Because you'd probably be hard too. And he'd sorta be laying on top of you... the weight really is fine tho. But in the Lazy doggy, wouldn't your penis get smushed too?
- Asker
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  P8...We've each been with her separately a number of times over the years. She's very much a friend with benefits, and we tell her everything. She often joked and egged us on saying she'd love to watch us together. She doesn't know about recent developments, and bringing her in on our secret in a remote cabin by a lake could lead to some very free-spirited sex. As I write this, I texted him to see if we should invite her up for Sunday and he said YES. So I texted her and she said she'd love...
- Asker
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  too. Oops, just saw your response come through. Hahaha. So in missionary with guys, it looks like you raise your knees and legs up, so you're penis isn't under him. He supports his weight on his hands. He can even give me a handjob, or I can play with myself. And yes, in lazy doggy, the penis is definitely mushed. That would be uncomfortable. Though I though of straddling some pillows, and grinding into them. I used to masturbate with pillows when I was a kid :-)
- lolli
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  Oh. That's the less intimate missionay. That would be an orgasm off the charts if you played with yourself and he penetrated @ the same time! You could spoon too, that's always fun ;)
- Asker
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  I love spooning with girls. Yes that would be a perfect position for me. He could reach around and play with me. If she joins is in bed I could be inside her, and he in me. Still have to figure out how he's going to get inside me first. Wish I could put him in soft and let him get hard inside of me. That would be perfect. I just had a random thought of holding his penis while he pees. Heh. I had a girlfriend that loved to do that to me. What would you like to do if you were the girl in the mix?
- lolli
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  Hold the guy while he pees? Yeah, done that before. But I get so turned on that I'm holding his penis that I start turning him on and he can no longer pee and the pre-cum starts flowing. Oh. You said in the mix, sorry. I never really pictured myself in a threesome. But always said it would have to be two guys if it ever happened. Um, I would insist on condoms because there are so many players in the game. And then just let nature take it's course. I would want everyone to get equal amounts of
- lolli
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  Attention so no one felt left out.
- Asker
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  Just looking over all these posts. Can't believe I've written so much :) Tell me more about yourself.
- lolli
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  Ok, maybe you can message me now. We've probably said enough for everyone else to read.
Anonymous
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This is so hot. Do it only if you're comfortable with it though, fair or not.
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- Opinion Owner
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  Right, and do these things sober too. It's no fun having regrets.
- Asker
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  There's SOOOOO much chatter in my mind, I just needed to drown it out. All the things people say to make you feel wrong about wanting to try things with a guy -- all while they fantasize about two girls. I don't regret having tried it, just nervous about what might follow. I know I liked it enough to give again. I just hope if it happens tonight, that if I can muster the courage, that I can give him the same experience without "deflating" because I'm so filled with anxiety. Just need to relax.
- Opinion Owner
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  Yeah, there's nothing wrong with experimenting with other guys, not in my book at least. It only has to be something you want. Relaxing will definitely help.
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- Asker
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  It happened! Twice for each of us! :) Details in the update above. Happy New Year!
- Asker
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  More notes above. I didn't want you to miss them. Do you think we should do more with each other?
- Opinion Owner
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  Sounds like you had a great time! Yeah, if you want to do more go ahead. :) Happy New Year to you too!

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ngreenw Xper 5
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So are you gay then? If you are, I don't think it's a problem... as long as you're both just doing it for curiosity. If you're straight, don't, you'll have a girl to do it soon enough! ;-)
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lostpleasehelp81 Xper 5
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Love the **** want some black
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lostpleasehelp81 Xper 5
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Glad you enjoyed it.There is nothing like the cock
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Anonymous
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Well I would invishon what you would feel like after iether agreeing or refusing. Which out come sre you more comfturble with? That simple. Hope this helps
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Anonymous
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If you don't want to do it then don't do it. You shouldn't feel like you have to do this or owe him anything. Stop drinking to get the courage to experiment sexually or you'll find yourself in all kinds of situations you would never do sober and you could end up ashamed and with diseases.
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Anonymous
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Hot, hot, hot. Let him do it, you can always give him one again too. I don't know why this turns me on so much but it does.
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- Asker
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  I think it would make it a whole lot easier if there was a girl involved as well. To sort of help us through those awkward moments and eliminate those feelings of guilt/shame. I kno I sure could have used some pointers. I've never had anything in my mouth before that felt close to his penis. I understand now why some girls like giving head, and why some don't.
- Opinion Owner
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  I am one of the ones that loves it.
- Asker
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  So how do you stop it going too deep? There were a couple of times when I gagged a little -- which just turned him on even more while I was trying to gasp for air (I'm guilty of doing the same with girls, but am learning fast what it's like to be on the other end. Also , he had a LOT of precum. Almost felt/tasted like he was cumming all the time. I swallowed what I could. Proud that I finished him off myself. Wish I spent more time with the balls. Forgot about them in the heat of the moment.
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- Asker
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  It happened! Twice for each of us! :) Details in the update above. Happy New Year!
- Opinion Owner
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  Damn I wish I was there to watch. Look at the hater giving me a down vote. LOL
- lolli
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  Probably it's hot for the same reason guys like to watch 2 girls together.