Why do guys think black women are "size queens"?

Question

it seems to me that many white men think that black women won't date them or like them because they are either size queens or are used to larger sized black guys. for those who think this why do you? do you get this stereotype from p*rn?

miramiraonthewall · Accepted Answer

who the f*** cares? I don't want those types of guys anyway. I've never met a normal, cute, intelligent white guy in real life who used the term size queen, or obsessed over penis size like the guys here do. I highly doubt these guys whining about it are the guys you would actually want to date in real life.

now I think some white guys are insecure about the whole hung black guy thing, though. stereotypes and prejudice and such. there are white guys who don't give a sh*t though.

I don't think too many attractive white guys who like black girls are here on gAg. Most of the guys here aren't too into black girls and/or are not attractive. that's my honest opinion. I just think its important to like not let this website skew your perception of men in reality because this isn't a good representation of the general male population, imo. then again, we all have different tastes. this could be the crowd that you want to attract, and that's absolutely fine. I'm just being honest.

to answer your question, white people have been stereotyping black sexuality for centuries. this goes back to slavery, for America at least. there were your bucks, mandingos, and jezebels. these stereotypes have stayed with us in one form or another. p*rn today may help perpetuate those images. a lot of p*rn, especially interracial p*rn, is incredibly racist by nature, so it definitely plays on those stereotypes and centuries old fears-turned-modern day fantasies, like the wild, animalistic, black guy with huge d*** and ravenous sexual appetite overtakes vulnerable, attractive, white girl. the same goes for the wanton, black whore. if you do your research about caricatures of african Americans in slave society, stemming from white slave masters fears, and their attempts to justify treatment of slaves as well as to set examples to teach other slaves how to behave, you'll see a lot of the stereotypes of black people today. in some ways, despite tremendous legal triumphs and relative acceptance, very little has changed in the way of how black people are viewed in society. it also doesn't help that "black music" such as conventional rap and hip hop does nothing to combat those stereotypes. in fact, it feeds on them in a way. and coincidentally the people up top in the rap/hip hop industry are white men, and the audience that provides the vast majority of the record sales for this industry are white adolescents and white young adults, white adults. So...logic would tell us that if white people are watching these music videos, listening to music that also contributes to negative stereotypes of black people, AND they exist in a society that has carried stereotypes from black caricatures into the 21st century, then they are going to have their views/prejudices shaped. this includes perceptions of black sexuality, among many other things. also society is still pretty segregated. not all white guys believe the penis thing, but may believe the size queen thing.

anyway that's my 2 cents.

pr3ttybr0wn · Accepted Answer

People who are insecure about their own size tend to project on others.

stillagoodgirl · Accepted Answer

Funny you'd think that sterotypically that goes for asians

AgentOfChaos · Accepted Answer

You're correct about your intuition. When I was younger—a high school teenager to be precise—I operated under the assumption black girls were "size queens" and that they weren't attracted to White guys. I developed that impression from porn somewhat, but mostly I got it from rap music. Female rappers like Lil' Kim, Missy Misdemeanor Elliot, Lefteye from TLC, and that girl in Three-Six Mafia all had songs explicitly stating they won't fuck a guy unless he's street tough & hung like a donkey.
I also recall being a 9th grade freshman and overhearing conversations the older 11th & 12th grade black girls at my high school would have—believing their voices were low and no one could hear them—saying how much cuter and attractive the White boys in the school were, but that they could never be with one because they didn't think they had big enough packages or just weren't good enough in bed to please them.
I'm from Alabama and I went to public schools. That means there are a lot more black people here to be exposed to on a daily basis since there are more black people in the South than in any other parts of the country. The state demographics in Alabama are nearly 50%-50% and my high school was no different. They were a lot of these types of incidents that led me to believe the stereotype of Black girls not being sexually fulfilled by White men. Although the rap & the porn were more pervasive elements that planted this seed in my mind, actually hearing a few black girls say that White men are simply incapable of measuring up physically to their sexual needs cultivated that seed into a deeply rooted plant that took a while for me to realize was just flat out wrong. After black girls started hitting on me and trying to hookup with me between the ages of 18-21 I realized black girls are not all size queens; and that all black men really aren't all hung.

squeakyclean · Accepted Answer

i disagree. cross-racial relationships are still rare even though it's becoming more common. perhaps it has more to do with personality and cultural differences rather than length.

ixi10 · Answer

i think it's more the stereotype that black guy have a big d***

Dimonik · Answer

I don't get it. What do you mean about "size queens"? :p And larger sized black guys? ;D

walkabout11 · Answer

i don't think most guys think black women date men based off that. but it wouldn't surprise me if more black women than not thought that more black men were packing than other guys. I don't know if that's true but I do know any guy of any race can be big or small so...