Why do some men say perverted things?

Say if your talking about, I don't know, Spartacus, I don't watch it, I'm just using it as an example, and you were just talking about the storyline, not the really sexual bits in it (I've heard what it's like), and a guy chirps up and says things like, ''Oh I really liked that hot scene where that naked chick...blah blah..'' Or, on Facebook pictures of somebody famous, there are always comments saying, ''I would love to smash her back doors in,'' or, ''give us a tit wank,'' or something like that. I just wonder why some men do this?I mean, it turns me off completely, and I'm sure most women don't find it particularly attractive, those crude remarks. I mean, say if I thought somebody was good-looking, that would be it, I wouldn't be like, ''Ugh I would love for him to come and bend me over and stick his **** in me,'' you get what I mean.
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  • I don't think you should take it as something that males think that females want to hear.

    It is just an expression of what they are feeling / thinking. Just like, if someone asks you how you are feeling, you would reply with "I'm fine, thank you." or "I'm not feeling well today."

    Of course I understand what you mean: They don't have to be THAT honest and expressive! But, well, when you see a group of males that hang out together, know that social rules, manners and politeness are usually off the table.

    You want to see what a guy is TRULY like? Observe him when he's with his close male friends. I mean it. That's where the masks drop, and the guy acts completely natural, and says things that he feels are right, regardless of how rude they can be, and it is accepted that way by the other guys. As soon as a female enters the group though, this dynamic is broken (unless the guys suspect that the new female member would approve of the "free speech" that goes on).

    This is what people mean when they say "guy talk" by the way.

    (By the way, this is not the case for all guys, and not the case for all friendships, but this is what usually happens.)

    • I see, my boyfriend has never said crude things like that, when he's with his friends, he doesn't even know who the women are, and he's not the type to say things like that, he just looks uneasy because he's not like most guys.

    • Then he REALLY isn't like most guys I know. I guess that's a good thing? =)

    • Yeah, it is a good thing, but it's also a strange thing as I have many people on here telling me, ''No, your delusional, of course your boyfriend does *insert male trait* because that's what guys do,'' I guess I just wish I could find more guys like that so it wouldn't be so strange that I have one like that, if you see what I mean.lol.

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  • Other guys see it as cool and macho I guess. Some guys feel a bit effeminate or overly stiff in say, their job so use this kind of language from time to time to prove they're still one of the lads

    • Best answer so far, I think a lot of guys just say things for the sake of it, so they seem 'tough,' when really, it's a deal breaker for me if I hear a guy talking like that.

Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, they CAN help it.

    But yeah, I totally agree. It's very annoying when guys do this and it's also a turn-off.

    Guys stop doing it.

  • I'm going to be the odd one out and say it actually makes me laugh when they do that?

    Probably because I do it too. It's funny, and fun. *shrugs*

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  • Well, men are GENERALLY...dominated by the hormone testosterone. When lifestyle and personal awareness is not managed with discipline, these foul words and phrases seem to just slip out. It is in our wiring to reproduce...and reproduce, and reproduce.

    The male drive is accountable for maybe over half of the world's population? Maybe more. Some women who conduct themselves respectfully are also affected by testosterone in particular times in their lives when they will observe a guy they like and they might just vocalize the "stick his **** in me."

    I believe we must be in control not just our hormones yet this age -meaning present times- seems more inclined to let go of the burdens of thought and self control to get what their hormones ask for. This of course is the point where the price of frivolity is issued. Hope this enlightens you. Good luck.

    • I don't agree with the 'biologically programmed' stuff, only because when I met my boyfriend he was so different from any other guy, he had only had one other 'thing' with another girl, not a proper relationship.He'd only slept with me and another girl, and I'm the one who initiates sex, because I have a really high sex drive, and he doesn't.He has rarely watched p*rn, and doesn't watch it at all now, and since he's been with me, he's told me his interests have gone for other women, completely.

    • If all this biological programming stuff was entirely true, because I'm not saying it doesn't play a part,wouldn't all men be the same?

    • The 'normal' male range for testosterone varies by 300% from the low to the high end. So no.

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  • Generally speaking, most men are suppressing those thoughts 95% of the time, but 5% of the time it slips out. Your real question of course is why do they think those things, which has been discussed repeatedly. In any case - most do. And sometimes they say so.

    • No, it's honestly, why do they say them, it's gross, I don't want to hear it, it makes them sound disgusting.

    • Basically those sorts of comments are not said for you - its men talking to other men generally (or forgetting they aren't). Because guys who are open about sex talk like that to each other.

    • Yeah, but only the kind of guys who like to banter about that sort of thing with their friends, which is most guys, and sometimes they say it in front of women, too.

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  • They can't help it..just who they are.

  • because all men are bastards, apart from your boyfriend. Happy?

    • Lol, no, that's not what I mean, and it doesn't make men bastards for saying rude things :)

  • "'Oh I really liked that hot scene where that naked chick...blah blah..''"

    That doesn't sound perverted. That sounds like he's airing his opinion.

    • I didn't finish it, because you can guess what comes next, which is perverted.

    • But you had no problem giving us the comment "give us a tit wank"... so you can see my confusion...

    • Lol, I apologize.

  • So sex in the city is completely full of sh*t?

    • Hahahahahaha