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Is it selfish to not give oral sex?

I personally enjoy giving oral sex however every person is different. Some girls/guys enjoy giving while others do not for various reasons. Do you think it's selfish of a partner to not give oral sex? Or do you simply believe it's preference? What "excuses" would you find acceptable for them not giving i,e. having been sexually abused as a child or bad experience? This is more for people who've actually had sex or oral sex but I assume virgins will answer
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Most Helpful Guys

  • in a way yes, but it depends on who its for that really comes down to the real issue.

    A couple of months ago, this girl I was talking to was kinda cute and we were about to hook up till she said how she loves having a guy go down on her and I got a bit uncomfortable because I don't go down on hook ups. Of course I still hooked up with her but I have a bunch of morals I go by.

    I only go down on girlfriends, I personally love watching their body react under pleasure, but after I learned you can still get something going down on girls, I got paranoid as hell. OH well, we can't have everything.

  • Haha, this got to be the question of the month!

    Is the girl selfish if she doesn't want to suck a d***?

    In my opinion, it depends..

    I personally see it as very degrading to women, when they give oral to men.

    But when men gives oral to women, I don't see it as degrading in any way.

    • Even when a woman shoves your head so far into her puss that you can't breathe?... That sounds equally "degrading"

Most Helpful Girls

  • I had sex but never oral (though I want to change that). I do think that it is a matter of opinion.I think it is totally fair to say "If you won't give me, I won't give you" but if only one wants to receive and the other is okay not getting it in return, that is fine.

    Any excuse can be acceptable technically, but some will be okay with it and some won't. I think some people would be fine only giving or only receiving. I personally, on principle, would want to receive it and give it. If he refused to give it to me I wouldn't want to give it to him. but some girls may feel differently.

  • I couldn't imagine being happy in a relationship where me or my partner wasn't completely comfortable with each other (including sexually). I guess I don't see it as a preference. If you love someone and enjoy making them happy, but you just "don't feel like" giving them oral, that doesn't match up.

    • Like your answer! ...(:

  • In general I think it's selfish not to give your partner what they want. In my mind making your significant other happy sexually should be something that everyone would want to do.

    • Even if he wants you to pee on him or pee on you? :-P

    • Eh, I guess there are limits. I probably could handle what you are suggesting, but there are other things I would not be able to do.

    • Older women... gotta love their insight and experience... so much better than these early 20's twats

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  • I've dated a girl that enjoyed recieving oral sex, but not giving it. If she ever did anything with her mouth it was less than 60 seconds, then motioned to sex.

    It was a little frustrating and seemed like if it didn't do anything for her that there was no point to doing it.

    It is a great feeling to be with a girl that enjoys pleasing you, even if its not her favorite. If I'm going to take a girl out to a sh*tty romantic comedy so that she has a good time even though I'd really rather not, then maybe it would be a kind gesture to do something for me, even if she'd rather not.

    • What a bitch - half the girls I've been with are like that... completely selfish

  • I only find it selfish if a guy wanted it but wasn't willing to give in return but if we both didn't want it then nope no problem there.

  • PMSL ! It is selfish of you to not receive.../:/:/:

  • It's only selfish if the person enjoys receiving it but not giving it.

  • Well... if you enjoy giving I guess there's no harm... but still the temptation to want to just do it will always be there with me, and I would also feel like you aren't getting a fair deal and denying how good I would make you feel. but meh,m your choice ultimately

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