I'm nervous about having sex with my new boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So I just wanted some advice, I have a few questions about this. I met my boyfriend about a month ago while I was home from college for Christmas, I'm back at college now and we talk everyday but we've never done anything sexual in person. I'll be seeing him in a couple of weeks and I'm really nervous about whether or not he'll be expecting sex. We've talked about having sex but I'm not sure I want to do it so soon. He said he wouldn't mind just spending time with me and that we don't have to have sex the next time we see each other but is he just saying that to make me feel OK about it? Guys, would it really piss you off if you had to wait longer? I think once school ends and we have all of summer, I might be ready then. Also I'm scared that the dynamics of the relationship will change after sex, will he think I'm easy if I let him do it? But at the same time I don't want to come across as a prude. I think I'm starting to fall in love with him and I think he's starting to fall in love with me, will sex ruin this? Please help! It's making me really stressed :( I'm not a virgin but I haven't had sex in a long time and I'm also worried that it's going to hurt the first time we do it and that I'll ruin the mood somehow. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated!So I just wanted some advice, I have a few questions about this. I met my boyfriend about a month ago while I was home from college for Christmas, I'm back at college now and we talk everyday but we've never done anything sexual in person. I'll be seeing him in a couple of weeks and I'm really nervous about whether or not he'll be expecting sex. We've talked about having sex but I'm not sure I want to do it so soon. He said he wouldn't mind just spending time with me and that we don't have to have sex the next time we see each other but is he just saying that to make me feel OK about it? Guys, would it really piss you off if you had to wait longer? I think once school ends and we have all of summer, I might be ready then. Also I'm scared that the dynamics of the relationship will change after sex, will he think I'm easy if I let him do it? But at the same time I don't want to come across as a prude. I think I'm starting to fall in love with him and I think he's starting to fall in love with me, will sex ruin this? Please help! It's making me really stressed :( I'm not a virgin but I haven't had sex in a long time (almost 2 yrs) and I'm also worried that it's going to hurt the first time we do it and that I'll ruin the mood somehow. Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated!

[sovetskii13]

If you are nervous about going all the way, then you are not ready. I recommend doing the simpler stuff (cuddling, kissing, flirting, fun stuff). Then, when both of you feel that it's time, and both of you want to go all the way, go for it.

[kheserthorpe]

Fool around, get each other off, save the intercourse for now.

[Asker]

like oral? will he think I'm slutty if I do that for him?

[kheserthorpe]

I think it would take a fairly strange guy to think that a non-virgin becomes a slut by doing oral with her bf. Though you could use hands on each other while kissing as well. Whatever you're comfortable with.

[ncsquirll99]

I agree fool around and save the intercourse -- BUT: I am one of those guys that can't look at a girl the same after oral. I mean it isn't the worst thing in the world but I just see her differently is all.

[Texasgal95]

Communicate communicate communicate have an open and honest conversation about what both want

[emperor90]

just be honest and tell him he might not be upset at all

[Angelike]

Just relax