Girls or guys, PLEASE HELP!!!

[Anonymous]

OK, I have been with my girlfriend for a little while now and I feel like it is time to take that next step. We are waiting a while to do the full blown sex thing, but have been getting a little more intimate lately. Feeling/touching and stuff is fine, but I really want to do oral. She said she enjoys being gone down on and everything, but she does not really enjoy giving head or blowjobs. She said she has only tried it once and she did not like it at all, because of the way it felt. She said it felt like she had something caught in her throat and it made her feel uncomfortable. Because she does not enjoy giving, she won't let me go down on her, because it would be unfair. I want to go down on her because I love it and I want to make her feel good. How do I get her interested in giving head? She is such a kind and generous person at heart, so I think she will give it another try, but I want her to want it. Girls and guys, please help me. I don't know what to do!

[sewn2gether]

Well honestly, it depends on how old she is. anything below 17 and id say just give her time. I remember giving head for the first few times was very scary. until she learns to find pleasure in seeing you turned on, head will probably still be a little unpleasant for her. but yeah, she can't just sit there and let you do all the oral work without giving anything in return. maybe try small trade offs like you go down for a very short time and she gives you a hand job.. then just slowly try to involve her kissing/licking etc. don't make her feel like she has to give you head until she finishes you, or that she even has to go for a long time.

oh, and make sure you're squeaky clean down there.

[Asker]

Oh ya, I am absolutely clean and well groomed down there. I am kind of a germafobe lol. I was thinking of getting her to just start off small and slow. I don't want her to think she has to take it deep and until I finish. She has jacked me off before, and I agree with working that into it. I am just trying to deal with this delicately, because I may only get a few tries to change her opinion.

[Jojoballoo]

Tell her that the other guy she went down on isn't you and that everything is worth a try once! Although practice probley makes things better and it wouldn't be so uncomfortable! Have her give you a handjob and you finger her and that would be another step farther.

[ALazyDreamer]

Don't force her or push her, that won't do anything good.

Just simply show the patient side of you.

When she's ready and the time comes, she will do it. Just let her in her own pace.

- Good luck! :)

[Asker]

I would never push her, trying to be very patient. Thank you!

[txmade]

Id ask her to try it once with you, and reassure her that she doesn't have to shove it all down her throat. Sex is to me be enjoyed by both, oral is no different. Instead she should try taking it easy, and only go as far down as what is comfortable, and at her own pace. If she likes it y'all can try to help her get better later on.

[Asker]

Exactly! Well put! = )

[Anonymous]

She doesn't have to throat you.

She can kiss, nibble, and suck on the shaft and use her tongue.

She doesn't have to deep throat you.

Sounds like she's making excuses to me.

[Caustic_Fox]

Look for a new girl that doesn't have problems

[Asker]

Wow, she doesn't have problems! = [

[musicbrain5]

What a terrible thing to say.

[Caustic_Fox]

i know the truth is such a bitch

[mimiperson]

Don't feed the troll kids

[beautifulbrunette2]

tell her that it doesn't have to go down her throat just tell her to lick it with her tongue and stuff