Turned on by girlfriend having sex with other guys, am I strange?

[Anonymous]

When we go out or when she goes out alone, the thought of her hooking up with other guys doesn't piss me off, but turns me on. I fantasize about this a lot. Especially as she;s gone out with friends before Friday nights, male friends as well. My girlfriend is a very attractive 21 year old and a lot of guys check her out and flirt with her. She has one close male friend that she's been out with a number of times when I'm not there and I get turned on thinking of her having sex with him. Especially if there's a possibility it can lead to an eventual MFM threesome. We have a good secure relationship and I don't have any jealousy issues. How can I bring this up to her that I am indeed turned on by it and give her permission to hookup with other guys without offending her? Girls, how would you feel if your boyfriend was turned on by this and gave you permission to have sex with others? I'm a bit embarrassed about this fantasy so don't be too hard on me..

[davetherave]

I am a 36 year old happily marrid man. I have been with my wife tina from school days and I am the only sexual partner she has had. we have a great sex life and we have a strong stable relationship. I get extreamly turned on thinking about tina having sex with other guys. She is well aware of this as I have tried to persuade her many times that it would be nice for both of us if we turned my fantasy into reality. when we make love I only have to imagine her being fondled or kissed by another man and I come by the bucket load. Earlier this year she went to spain with her friend for a week and although I am sure she was 100% faithful on holiday, I masturbate myself several times a week thinking of her in spain being a total slut. I wanted her to come home and tell me how dirty she had been and how good it was to be screwed every night by handsome well hung men. its a bit weird I know but I like it .

[InquisitiveJoe]

I like having threeways and can relate. However, I'd say to bring it up in distant and hypothetical ways first and gage her reaction. Say something about how cool the 1970s were with free love and group sex in the park. How it was OK for everyone to join in the sex and yet that didn't upset relationships. blah blah blah.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say it is strange but it's not for me nor does it fit into my concept of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. That being said, everyone is different so if your girlfriend is OK with it, then go for it.

As for your other question, how would I feel if my guy gave me permission to have sex with another guy? I would be pissed. Again, I would prefer it if my guy didn't like it when other men touch me or are intimate with me. In the same way, I don't like it if other women are intimate with my boyfriend. For me, that is part of what defines being in a relationship - being exclusive to one another and not sharing your bodies with other people.

[Jessica1810]

My boyfriend did this and it made me feel he didn't really love me. Turns out he didn't really love me in the end. He was more in a lustful infatuation with me. He always wanted us to have a MFM threesome and asked me if I wanted to give a bj to one of my male friends.

I don't think here's anything wrong with it, so long as you're honest with yourself and your girlfriend about your true feelings for her. If you want this kinda fantasy you probably don't view her as wife material, and I think she'd probably want to know.

Have fun with your fantasy but don't lead her on!

[Asker]

I understand what you are saying. However I feel it's presumptuous to assume that I don't love her, or see her as wife material just because I'm turned on thinking of her with different sex partners. True love is not always synonymous with sexual monogamy. For example swinging has dramatically increased in popularity and often times multiple partners enhance long term marriages in the bedroom. I'm sorry for your situation with your ex. but not everyone is like that.

[cathy23]

I've had guys ask me details about past boyfriends. I think it turns some guys on.

[NotSoBad]

You aren't alone, I have fantasized about that too. Unfortuantely, when it becomes a reality it probably wouldn't feel too good. How long have you been dating this girl?

[l-hedoniste]

"I've been having this fantasy..."

[anom12341234]

Had the same fantasy and talked to my now fiance about it. We ended up doing it and she got tag teamed by me and my best friend all night. SUper hot and lots of fun. She still teases him and gets off talking about it in bed. Will defeintly do it again. Just make sure you have a strong trusty worthy relationship. good luck!

[herguy]

It's very normal dude, don't worry! My girl knows how much it turns me on so she always sends me teasy photos / messages when she's out with the girls.. I love it!

[AnitaMarie]

I don't think it is strange. I have had boyfriends that were turned on by the idea of me with another guy. Didn't bother me at all.

[Asker]

Hot, did you ever actually have sex with another guy with your boyfriend's permission? My girlfriend went out to the club with friends last night. It really turned me on if she had hooked up with another guy. She dressed real sexy too.

[Anonymous]

i have the same fantasy... thought of doing dp turns me on

[Anonymous]

Careful what you wish for. Girls don't usually like that, it makes them feel like you don't love them and it might lead to a break-up. You better keep it for yourself. But if you qant to bring it up, talk dirty during sex with her (take it very slow) and see how she reacts. If it turns her on you'll know. If she doesn't react or seems a bit turned off, do not force it or it might f*** up everything.