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Girls/Guys: How easy is it to get an erection in a non-sexual situation?

If this just sounds really obvious, then give me the obvious answer, rather than just saying "it's obvious!"... It isn't that obvious to me, therefore, I'm asking it. For the best or of for the worst, I'm an oblivious of "practical" sexual knowledge 17yovirgin. *cough* so my question is: How come guys (teenage guys - from 15/16 - 17/18 years old) get excited so easily? Virgin and non-virgin guys, there is no real difference there... I'm not talking about "they get excited more easily than girls", bur rather - why would a guy get an erection just by having a female friend friendly sitting on their lap (almost his knees...)? (this one example happened really recently... but in the last couple of years, it just happens in all kinds of non-sexual environments, by the smallest touches, with practically all types of guys. But maybe I'd get to avoid it happening again in general if I understand why it happens better... ) me and my friends are all sitting around in a coffee shop. There are no empty chairs. I sit in a friend's lap, right above his knees and all... And everything's good and friendly and SO NOT SEXUAL, then why would he get an erection from that? (I know he did because he blushed when I got up, and immediately and awkwardly covered his legs with a jacket and his 2 closest male friends were all trying to hide their small laughs from me, with "shocked" smiles on their faces, while saying little things by his ear... My friend wouldn't meet my eyes then.) What I don't understand is how, in a completely non-sexual situation, a friend can get an erection from another friend sitting on his lap, barely above his knees .. And this (the guys getting an erection, not the lap thing) happens/ has happened with both: guys who had told me they found me "attractive", to this guy from the example - he even told me straight up that he doesn't really find me that attractive the other day we talked about looks... [by the way - I'm not particularly beautiful nor hot] Guys - Have this ever happened to you with a random female friend? Also: is an erection somehow related or unrelated to the person who's "causing" it? Girls - has this ever happened to you? what did you do? (I don't care about the situation(s) that much, they all know they're "friends", it only bothers me when it gets obvious I noticed and/ or awkward.. Just don't understand why the hell it happens or what to do to avoid it. I hate awkward situations, or situations making me feel self conscious.. and, of course, causing unwanted erections (causing the guy to feel awkward AND self conscious as well) makes me feel kind of "bad", too) I apologize for the enormous post...
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Wow, OK, so I guess it can happen a lot more frequently than I thought... I never really thought of it as something so "easy to happen" as that... I believed it had to have roots on a "conscious" thought of something sexual, or a vision of a situation by a certain "sexual angle" or something along those lines. I guess I was wrong... Thank you for your answers ^^ .
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  • 1) The scenario you described doesn't seem unnatural to me. It is not about the context of the situation. You might be in a coffee shop, or a space shuttle for all I'm concerned. What's important is that what goes through the guy's subconscious when you sit on his lap. In other words, it is not the action itself that causes the erection, but what the action causes the guy to start thinking about.

    At the age range you provided, guys have pure testosterone running through their veins, telling them to mate, mate and mate. Sometimes, even in non-sexual situations, they might start thinking about an equivalent sexual scene.

    2) It is possible for a guy to get an erection in a COMPLETELY non-sexual situation. Like when sitting in a bus. I don't know why, but I sometimes get an erection while I'm sitting in the bus, even though I'm just thinking about my engineering class homework. May be the vibration of the bus causes it? I don't know. It just happens.

    • Pretty much true. If the situation can become sexual in a guys mind, he becomes aroused. There are guys who can actually remain pretty "soft" in even very sexual situations. Now THAT is a mystery to me.

    • Oh, so it can happen when you consciously think about something sexual, and even at times when you don't realize you're doing it subconsciously? I didn't know that... Thank you for your input on this ^^

    • @SomeOtherGuy i never heard of such people. But if it is true they are indeed lucky.

  • You may know it is a non-sexual situation

    He may know it is a non-sexual situation

    But to a penis, EVERYTHING is a potential sexual situation.

    • Yeah! (+1)

    • Funny and pretty much true.

    • Thanks for your answer ^^ - short, simple and to the point, I believe. Also, it made me laugh, so, yeah, ty for that too (:

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  • having a girl on his lap is a potentially sexual situation. guys are very sexual. that's why a lot of times even though you are "just friends", doesn't mean he's not thinking sexually of you, even if he doesn't have feelings for you. girls and guys work differently

    • Yes, I always thought that differentiation between girls and guys was a bit overrated, but it does seem like they work REALLY differently concerning some things, though...

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  • guys are so horny you cannot imagine. Message and I can tell you about how this works. better that this long post. yeah a bit embarrassing but what guys deal with. HARDONS!

    • You should message this guy. He seems legit.

    • I'm starting to like this gy more and more. He makes me laugh every time. =)

    • Well, as a girl, I guess I'll never be able to imagine it then @_@'... Thanks for answering me ^^ , but I'll abstain from messaging you, I believe I already got the information I was searching for ^^ . But thanks, though...

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  • I don't know how you could think that isn't a sexual situation. And guys can get turned on so easily... because of where our imagination takes us. I got an erection the other night watching this girl take off her shoes and rub her feet in an airport...

    • That's what I came to understand with all the answers :) . Before that, I thought you had to "consciously" think about something... When I asked this question, I'd never thinkt the wires to your sexual imagination would connect that fast...

    • Yeah, we make a connection all on our own. Without thinking. Brains not needed.

  • Very easy. I could get an erection just driving to work. I wake up hard multiple times a night. I used to get an erection just hugging girls, or slow dancing. THAT can be awkward, but I hid it pretty well. Only one girl noticed that I can recall. My point being, erections are not something guys control. A teenage boy can get a boner just from a gentle breeze hitting his pants. It doesn't necessarily mean anything. Or he could just be constantly thinking about sex. One of the two.

  • Sometimes just being naked (if you are), can bring on an erection, or anxiety. Example a doctor's exam. It's non sexual, but you're still naked. And you know someone is going to be looking at it (which can be a turn on, even if you know it's not sexual), and just being naked like I say, the air can bring on an erection sometimes.

  • i mean blood flow doesn't really have an extra effort. it just happends when extra blood is being pumped due to excitement or something.. its farily easy like the feelling of starting a new job or something

    • Women hide there dildos bottom of knickers draw!

  • I can get erections just by noticing some girl is looking at my bulge, just by seeing some men getting excited by my girlfriend, even when my stepdaughter practices her dance routine in her leotard... And i'm 34 lol

  • Very easy. Could you feel it poking you? If you were moving around on his lap a lot you were probably rubbing it with out realizing. This friction caused him to get excited. A similar situation happened to a friend when we were in a group hanging out. Except he was in sweatpants and couldn’t hide it from her. She laughed and thought it was funny so she shook her butt as a joke and he came in his sweatpants. He was so embarrassed.

  • yes us guys do get them for normal reasons..
    i have them every night and nothing sexual in it..
    it is just blood circulating.

  • Very very easy

  • very easy, its embarrassing. I've been getting them a lot because I've started wearing loose boxers instead of briefs

  • Not easy for a Non sexual situation

  • Well guys can get excited much more easily than you might think. At least in my age (17) it frequently happens even when you are alone and on your own without thinking about anything sexual in particular. That lap thing is obviously something that causes erection easily. The needed ingredients for it (Lol) is only a female. No matter the age or looks or anything. And it is uusually not something one can avoid.

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