My boyfriend has been lying to me- is it likely he's lying about more?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend who is 20yrs older than me has been taking erectile dysfunction pills and lying to me about them.First off I suspected in the beginning he was having some issues so I asked him about it as I felt I had the right to know if we were messing around. He was angry at me and completely denied it about six months ago. I recently asked him if its all natural because he tries to brag and keep the advantage of keeping me satisfied over some other guy. He says he only takes a 1/2 pill a day of Extenze to boost his testosterone- Its not extenze, he's been taking it for years from the old prescription I found and a time we were having sex recently he got up to take a pill and when I asked him what it was he said-" its for my back, so I don't have back spasms" Now I don't really care because I'm loving the sex but its the principle of the matter. The principle of lying to me about something so intimate. I feel really uneasy about it and just wonder what others would say.

[fatalcharm]

I wouldn't be too worried. He is probably just embarrassed. Even though he is 20 years older than you, at 45-49, taking erectile disfunction pills isn't very common. Many men that age usually don't have any problems and are still quite virile but he may just want a little extra omph to impress and satisfy you. He probably doesn't want you to know because he probably wants you to think that he is like that naturally. You are younger, and soon you will be reaching your sexual peak whereas his may be starting to decline. He probably wants to keep up with you and keep you satisfied, and doesn't want you to know that he needs to take a pill to do it.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to agree with sixstring. He most likely was very embarrassed and didn't want to share. Some girls upon hearing such news would ask "what's the matter, I'm I not hot enough to get hard for"? Seriously, there are some girls (not all) who are completely unsympathetic to a man's biology and the fact that sometimes our hardware doesn't always work as advertised.

If your boyfriend has never lied about anything serious before, you need to let this one go. Rather, tell him that you understand it is a hard challenge, but one you're willing to work with to get through. That's what he needs to hear right now from his girlfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

Update: If he's broken it off with the other girl and is no longer in contact, it is best to put the past behind you. Instead, work on the current issue at hand, which is his health. He'll find that supportive nature far more attractive than digging up the past. Trust is something every guy wants in a girl. Be that girl.

[sixstring]

Having erectile disfunction at a younger age, or even any age for guys is very, very embarrassing. Most guys would feel ashamed and inadequate.

Admitting to this might just be one of the hardest thing for a guy to do.

I get how you feel, but try to look at hit from his side too.

[Asker]

ok. thank you.