Do you think our society is TOO sexualized or not sexualized ENOUGH?

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i was debating this with my girlfriend the other day. she thinks it's too sexualized. I tend to think that, although we are somewhat sexualized, we're more overwhelmingly sexually REPRESSED as a society (I'm American...i think most people on here are from the US, UK, Canada, and Australia? All fairly similar cultures from what I can tell, at least on a broad scale.) sex is all around us, but nobody's comfortable talking about it in detail. I mean, most of the things I come on here to ask, I'd NEVER say to someone I knew personally, I think that goes for most of us. and I don't want to feel that way, but I'd be looked at as weird. we're still all just people here, we're just faceless and probably live thousands of miles from each other so we don't care what we ask each other...and even with our usernames and vague profiles, people STILL ask questions anonymously!it just goes to show!i just think it's a shame that we have to hide behind a mask to talk about this stuff. isn't that worse than arguing that we're TOO sexualized and should be offended that advertising companies use t*ts to sell us axe body spray or some other bullsh*t product?i don't know, that's just me. but I also think we should all be running around freely f*cking each other like nature intended, instead of being in a society where the norm is monogamy. maybe I'm just a crazy assh0le, I don't know, that's why I'm asking. anyway, I'm just curious...thoughts on this?

archer86 · Accepted Answer

In media, we are oversexed. Everywhere you look, sexuality is the norm because it sells and gains attention. But in society, we are repressed. People don't have casual sex as they used to because of selfishness, feminism, disease, career-obesssed and other factors. The fear of sexual harassment doesn't help either. When you can't even look at women without fear of harassment let alone asking for dates, it's a major problem. In addition, we are still quite uncertain about a clear-cut unified stand on prostitution. Either we like it prostitution or we are vehemently appalled with it. Religion also adds to the fire of sexuality here in America.

It's also about WHO's getting sex. Is it the hot people with wealth or is it everyone? The natural reaction is the young hot looking people and the rich. Does either/or represent all of society? Hmm...

l-hedoniste · Accepted Answer

Americans are neither over- nor undersexualized; they're badly sexualized.

You get to enjoy sex if you're a married, monogamous, conventionally heterosexual couple, or if you're a corporation selling a product. Otherwise, your sex life is worthless, any lie whatsoever can be told about your sexuality, and you're a target for any attack from any quarter, no matter how vile.

So, we prefer sex based on rules, lies, and commercial products, over sex based on conversations, and truth, and people.

We have what we deserve.

kitttykaaat69 · Accepted Answer

You are so right. I new here and realized this fact, but on a personal level I think thr real problem is people are so concerned with what others perceive them to be.

That's why here someone will act so nice when in fact they don't like you, here you have to be mindful of the tjings you say for fear of being called weird or horrible.

What about being you and when I say being you I mean not being afraid to express yourself in the way you feel.

I don't condone being overly mean or rude but we are all humans and have these feelings just like sex. Especially women here seem to suppress their sexuality because of the fear of being call slut or any other derogatory name.

I embrace me, living breathing person with emotions and sexaul needs and I like it very much!

PS stop blaming the media for everything, we all got a brain.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think media is overly sexualized in the wrong way. It mainly expresses the wants of one gender onto another (therefore, making women in media over sexualized for men) and doesn't really address or express any other type of sexuality.

People are more open about sex, but we're still such prudes that when a woman likes to have multiple partners the words whore and slut come to mind. You even see this in the media. We're so prehistoric that when someone gets raped, we STILL find reasons to blame them.

Our society and media are both sexualized in the wrong way. People should be open about their sexuality, even if it means a man wanting to wait for the right woman (so we should stop hating/self-hating virgin men), or if a woman wants to have multiple partners, or a man wanting another man.

Ladyluck28 · Accepted Answer

I live in the UK London and the talk about sex is quiet open they teach sex ed in primary school which is children before 12 and in secondary school 12-16 they show them a lot more than I was they talk about STI to even how to put a condom on for girls and boys too

we have shows on TV aimed to young teenager all about sex and even a show that talks about how to be safe but also the fun you can get up too so we don't hide about it at all this weekend there is even a comedy show on that all about sex love and relationships so I think we are open about it and that why we have site like this where we can talk and many others

martyfellow · Answer

Ithink you are both right. We're oversexualized in entertainment and media, yes, and the rich and privileged can indulge with limits set only by their concern about rampant STDs...

But we are, as you say, very represessed in expressing sexuality in a healthy way. We aren't generally allowed to tease and experiment with each other as we have the urge to do..there are myriad taboos and of course our women in the US usually respond only if paid well...

yopyopyop · Answer

Society isn't enough, while its representation through the media is too much.

hakuna_matata · Answer

well..we are far away from anything "natural"... we have created our own world..its own rules. and if you intend to do one thing by nature's law then you need to change your entire life view...the way society lives..all its moral codes. it's not something simple. if you want to go natural then you need to go full natural on everything...and that is very difficult to do right now

Belgie · Answer

Not sexualised enough.

Come on, gay people still can't get married, Planned Parenthood gets defunded because stupid people think it's an abortion clinic. Schools and parents are too terrified to teach sex education to their kids, and think it's someone elses responsibility. When Janet Jackson bared some boob, the country lost it's f***ing mind.

America is a very prudish country still.

Cuddle_Muffin · Answer

Nope, we aren't enough. Especially I the USA...

josesmaf · Answer

I don't know about you, but I can't really think of anything else people could possibly do with sex.  I think we've pretty much seen it all.  I would say it is better to control your urges until the right time and place, instead of going around just having sex all the time.  You either end up addicted, or get bored with it.  The huge problem I have is how much we're exposing our kids to all the sexual junk in the media.  Kids are having sex at younger and younger ages, and adults are pushing marriage to later in their lives, if they get married at all (commitment is tough these days).  What if this is not the direction we should be heading?

dudeman · Answer

35.7% of kids are born to single mothers, we are definitely to sexualized, that number is unacceptable for a first world nation

Moloch · Answer

Personally, I think too sexual. Men can't get in relationships without thinking about sex first, women are readily having sex with men at their expense but men are enjoying it, to much sex in television. I understand that we are repressed, but I think that if we were completely free if sexual repression, a lot more women would be raped, more children would be born to single parents, more teenagers would have children earlier, more little girls would have sex sooner, there would be more 21 year olds having sex with 12 year olds, etc...we need to repress and control people because they can't control themselves.