Well first off.. let me just say that it's not a "pipe dream".. at least not in my opinion. I'm actually glad that there are people like you out there in the world who are looking for relationships that lead to a successful marriage (not just a fast/young marriage which eventually leads to divorce in this day and age). With that being said, I truly believe that people like you (and me) always tend to form relationships that will last. So hold onto that.
Now.. in order to find the girl you are looking for.. well all I can say is be patient. The higher your standards, the more you will have to wait (which is a good thing.. because when the right one comes along, it will be all the more worth it). I don't know about the number of virgins in this day and age, but to answer your specific question.. I am 22 and a virgin. I have a good head on my shoulders and I suppose you could say I'm cute in my own way. =) lol this should be proof enough that there are other girls out there who are over the age of 21, who are attractive (physically and mentally) and are virgins. Are they common to find? HECK NO! But they exist, you just have to find them.
As for where to find them.. beats me! It's not like we get together every weekend for the "Girls who are virgins and want more out of life" club lol. Just don't give up and keep looking, you'll be surprised the type of girls you can find in different places. Good luck!0 1 0 0I've read some of your answers. Honestly, I know what I want, but I also know that it does not exist with guys out there these days. I have an open mind, an open heart, and solid reasonable standards. From what I've seen and heard from you though.. is that you want a "perfect" girl. I hate to break it to you but.. NO ONE is perfect. Not one single person. If you keep looking for that "perfect" beauty with all the qualities such as virginity and charm and brains.. be prepared to be waiting 4ever
not perfect girl...perfect girl for me... big difference. I don't have illusions of the perfect girl, as I'm fully awared that every person is flawed. I do however hope that I can find someone perfectly suited for me...thus, the perfect girl for me.
well I guess I read your answers wrong then, sorry!
I'm still a virgin at 26 and I'm starting to get scared. I want to be in a relationship to lose my virginity. I don't have to be married. However, I haven't been able to get into a relationship. I've dated, but either I didn't like the guy enough or he didn't like me enough. I really really don't want to lose my virginity to a one night stand, but I'm starting to think that if a guy finds out I am still a virgin at my age he will think something is wrong with me. There is also another belief that virgins are automatically clingy, even though I doubt I can ever be clingy. I've never been clingy in my life. I'm worried when I finally have sex I won't be any good or I might be the dreaded log that guys all hate. I don't know any tricks or anything. I also don't have much kissing experiencing. What if a guy doesn't want me because I am a bad kisser. Any time I've kissed guys I've been drunk. I don't want to enter into a relationship with a lie. So I don't want to pretend I am not a virgin. I'm worried guys will be upset once they find out I haven't slept around.
0 0 0 0If you met a girl who was otherwise perfect for you, and then you found out she had a sexual past, would you still pursue her?
0 0 0 0If I was to be honest with myself, and we were perfectly compatible and fully in love, it would be a non-issue. But of the gals I have dated who were not virgins, none of them evoked strong enough feeling in me by the time I found out about their past. If I could know and be certain a girl was perfect for me and then I found out she wasn't a virgin, I would need a bit of certainty that it would end in marriage if I was going to waste time pursuing her. I would have to be perfect for her too.
I like your mind-set. I'm not a virgin, but I appreciate your sincerity for your future wife. Lucky woman!
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I'm 33 and a virgin.
I was like you when I was 27. I was raised with a religious background. I was planning on saving myself until my wedding day. I was trying to find the right girl. I hoped I would one day find a girl as inexperienced as me. BIG mistake.
What I have found is that all the girls I know, even the religious girls, are not virgins. Not only that, they look down on virgins and find it a massive turn off. They don't necessary say this to your face, they will tell you how "great" it is, but then they will dump you. They will run away. Don't mess up your life like I have done. Look at my mistakes and learn from them. Don't try to find the right girl. Don't wait until you get married. Just find a girl and become sexually experienced. Be sure to be safe. Then when you find the right girl, who almost certainly will not be a virgin, you can rock her world.0 2 0 1WOW...really I am speechless and have no words to say about your greatness...great men are still found in this planet ,...you really changed my beliefs about American society ( I am Arabian)and such beliefs that you embrace are our beliefs in other words they are Islamic beliefs.
i am 25 and still virgin but I found my girl because it is very easy to find this kind of gals in our society...
believe me you are in the right path pal , just keep moving and don't give up those beliefs ...you will find her ...ALLAH will not leave you ...ALLAH BLESS YOU...
I Will be happy if you confirm my friendship...0 2 0 0
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14 5I don't mean to sound lazy, but your question is TOO long.
Virgins over 21 aren't that common, but they're out there. However, since people don't walk around with signs announcing whether or not they're a virgin, it's virtually impossible to pick out virgins from non virgins without getting to know them well first. If you're absolutely not interested in anyone who isn't a virgin, you might consider online dating or checking out web forums and communities, since in those situations it's easier to state right off the bat that you're looking for another virgin.0 0 0 0Dude, why do you have to date a virgin? YOU'RE strong enough to save yourself, but if you love her so much (even before you meet her), who the hell are you to judge her and what she's done in her past? Shouldn't it be enough that she is willing to wait for you, and never cheats on you after marriage? That she loves you? Or do you have to demand virginity as well?
0 0 1 3Perhaps I am being selfish, but I want someone who wants to share that experience with their husband. It has nothing to do with her being physically 'intact'...it has everything to do with her being emotionally whole...and her wanting to share that moment with only one person. I want every girl to be be free to make her own choices..but am I selfish to hope for a girl who chooses to wait? I don't judge non-virgins...i just want a gal who feels the same way I do about virginity.
I think you put too much emphasis on it. There are hundreds of reasons she could be a non-virgin. Would you accept a born-again virgin? Wouldn't she be a born-again virgin if she decided to wait for you? What you're looking for are values, which she CAN have. You are just judging based on the wrong thing. If you two are compatible in values, you'd be an idiot to lose her because she's had sex before.
Wow you are a rare breed indeed. Not many guys think like that and a lot of girls are looking for a guy like you. I lost my virginity when I was 19 and it was not great but I'm not going to get in to it. I don't regret it but I wish it was a little more special or with someone special. Don't go looking for a girl, you will find one that has the same beliefs as you. Think of it like this, you being a virgin(not a bad thing), where would you want to meet people?
0 0 0 0Virgin over 21 here. I also have been to bars and clubs (although not often) and know some virgin girls who hang out at these places often. I understand your pledge to your future wife, I have a similar (albeit Christ centered) approach causing my lack of sexual experience
I do not know how you could find a virgin to marry, but have you thought about possibly finding a women with a similar mindset that might have a sexual past? It is an honorable thing that you are doing, but the way the question is seems like you are so focused on virginity you would marry a marginally compatible virgin woman over a really great compatible partner with a small sexual past.2 1 0 0Holey crap! this hits a sore spot for me. My boyfriend is a virgin (and also 26 lol) and he has explained it to me just the way that you did.
1 0 0 0...maybe the QA is in fact your bf... ha ha =) go snoop around his computer =)
Wow you were JUST like me in that area last year and or a couple months back. I finally gave in after I broke up with my tumultuous ex boyfriend, being emotionally ridden, if I could say that.
It was with a guy of my same race. A skater, though he was nice and a fun but geeky or Dorothy side to him a little bit. He turned me on physically and I wanted to join the non virgins club and was really curious if I could "fit " a lenient in there healthily and normally If you know what I mean. I was just in a vulnerable time and he wad a good kissed and I thought he had genuine feelings for me and that itself turned me on super badly! Taught me how to skateboard so he helped me
He gave me hope that things will be better and fun and good with him. I was thinking he was clean and free of stds / stow though I'm still not sure if he is or not, but in positive thinking, I would think he wouldn't want any and would be careful in that area especially. Since its conserning himself. I certainly hope so. Though I could really care less of what he does from this point on. Since I learner that he wad just after my p****1 0 0 0You're hopelessly trapped inside the mythology of virginity.
0 0 0 0I can't really help answer your question since I'm only 16 but I just wanted to say that I am so happy to hear that you are saving your virginity for you are future wife. I am doing the same for my future husband. There are far too few people out there with this mindset and I makes me very happy to hear about people like you making the right decision. All I can say is if you wait long enough you will find your soul mate but until then don't compromise your beliefs for the pressure of society.
0 0 0 0ofcourse they are..u need to look area that is more religious :-)
0 0 0 0if I were you I would not care if a girl is a virgin or not
0 0 0 0Date younger girls. :D I'm twenty and still a virgin. XP
0 0 0 022 & a virgin, I feel the exact same... as if virgin guys are dwindling by the second. Most guys I've dated or talked to for months weren't virgins & they insisted on them being my first & those are the exact people I'm trying to avoid, I want to wait until marriage but just thinking about how hard it may be to come in contact with a guy that's a virgin & wants to wait also seems like it may be unrealistic sometimes. I'm Catholic also but most guys at my church are much younger or older. I guess it all comes to just having patience in the end.
0 0 0 0im 23 and a virgin. I'm a Christian (Catholic) so it's easy for me to find other virgins around my age because I attend church with them and then we become friends.
0 1 0 0Wow +1 lots of respect! too bad its quite hard where I live to find too many strong young Catholics
I'm a virgin, and I'm 27! And that means I haven't done anything sexual, not even kiss. I'm not doing it for religious reasons either...it's more that I don't want to have sex with random people, only the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. Just haven't found him yet. Sex = emotional attachment...and I don't want that attachment to someone I'm not in love with.
To be honest...the only virgin women I know are strictly religious...most are Muslim.
Places I go...Coffee shops, libraries, art galleries, poetry readings, walking around big cities...etc. I don't think that you'll know if a girl is a virgin unless you ask...so if you find a girl that you're interested in...bring that up early on so you won't waste time.
No...you're not chasing a pipe dream.
How do you find them? Right here...I'm one, message me if you want.0 1 0 0Wont that offend a girl? Can we really just ask a girl we have just been talking to for 10 min? How?
I've been told that girls have all lost their virginity by the age of 18. Sorry, friend. At least that is the case where I live.
0 0 0 0I have to say you have hit the nail on the head with this one. This is EXACTLY the mindset I have. I worry about the same thing on a daily basis.
I am 19 and a virgin guy.0 0 0 0I think you should move to a different state or city to search for that virgin future wife of yours. Females vary in different areas, Dallas, Austin and Houston are cities you should explore. You've gotta go looking for her, she is not going to just fall out of the sky for you.
0 1 0 0As it is, I am in Dallas. I am starting law school this fall at OU in Norman, OK, so there will definitely be a greater concentration of young females. At least a few should be virgins or like a poster below said, non-virgins who are committed to similar ideals. Holding out hope! Thanks for the advice!
she's looking for you as much as you are looking for her... hang in there =) good luck!
0 0 0 0goodness well when you figure out where to find all the virgin men in LA let me know, don't worry you will find her. I am not sure if I can help you find her though, I am a virgin but I do not know where to find other virgins, luck I guess for lack of a better answer, all my past relationships have been with non virgins so far
0 0 0 0I am in Texas. :/ and ya, I'd imagine LA has a few virgin males, but I think you are right in assuming there aren't many over the age of 14.
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