My fiance watching p*rn and jerking off even after sex!?

[nerdystars]

I just have one simple question, Me and my fiance have been together for along time, and he knows I really don't mind him watching p*rn just don't tell me about it, I would rather not know, well upon trying to fix our PS3 internet problems I was instructed by one person to try cleaning the history list, so I logged onto my Fiance's list after cleaning mine out and there was tons of p*rn, well I of course didn't bring it up, but I was curious was he watching p*rn even after we had sex? So I gave it a little test drive and we had sex, he according to his own words that to him that was "f***ing bomb ass sex", he kept telling me "that it was so great", well after sex I took a shower and went to sleep, he stayed up all night playing some games with his father, well after around 6ish I woke up and he had come into the room I guess to see how I was doing or if I was awake, well I was but I was so tired I had to fall back asleep, well after waking up around 10 something he was just getting out of the shower, after finally getting up he told he was leaving to go meet up with a friend and help his grandmother get some things at the food store and asked if I wanted to tag along, I declined remembering what I wanted to know, after he drove off I checked his PS3 history and low and behold his history showed that he had watched several videos of p*rn. I was kinda hurt, not thinking I wasn't good enough but more so like I was good but not full filling something, I've tried a lot of things, and we do occasionally watch p*rn together, sometimes I just give him a blowjob while he watches showing that I support the fact that I'm cool with him watching p*rn. But it just really is bothering me because I can't figure out why he would need to watch p*rn even after apparently bomb ass sex? it has been some hours between it but after sex? I guess my simple question is really just why does or would a man watch p*rn even after sex, remember I didn't say when explaining, it had been right after but it had been later this morning. I just want to figure this out before I bring this up if I their should be cause to worry.

[samhradh_ean]

Could it be possible that he's addicted to p*rn? Watching p*rn is normal, but it IS an addictive material and many people do become addicted to it. I'm not trying to jump to conclusions, but if it appears that he is CONSTANTLY watching it- which I can't tell for sure based on your question- it may be something to consider.

Otherwise, I guess he is simply doing what you say you are are okay with him doing, right? No matter when he watches p*rn, it will be a certain amount of time after you have sex, unless you don't have sex. If you're bothered by the frequency, you can talk to him about it. Ask him if there's anything you can do to make him resort to p*rn less often. But ultimately, unless you want to forbid him from watching p*rn which probably won't go over well and could ruin your relationship, you will have to learn to accept his habit. If you are concerned that he is actually spending an UNHEALTHY amount of time watching it, then that's another topic altogether.

[JPorter]

Well, you went to sleep, and a few hours later, he wanted some more "bomb ass sex." =)

Definitely not something you need to be offended about, but guys can recharge their sex drive in a few hours (on the high end). P*rn is often really just a fantasy kind of thing, anyway. If he's spending all of his sexual energy jerking off and not having sex with you, you'd have something to worry about.

From the way you described it, though, it just sounds like he has a normal, healthy sex drive. You were asleep, he wanted to get off, so he did.

If he were smart and/or worried about what he was doing, he'd remember to clear the browser history on his own. Beside the point, though...

Maybe try having sex with him in the afternoon, then after three or four hours, seduce him again and see if he's into it.

[Anonymous]

Aside from his high libido p*rn isn't just about fulfilling your urges. After you watch it for so many years most guys usually fall into a routine and even if they aren't horny they'll still put it on because its that time of the day, Me? I before I fall asleep I go to my favorite p*rn sites and squeeze one out. It's almost like brushing your teeth before you go to bed. Yes, I've even looked up p*rn with her lying naked in bed next to me. If I can't sleep and you're laying there lookin are sorts of sexy suddenly I want to get frisky again only I can't know. The only solution is p*rn.

[ElijahCynicism]

Stop thinking of it as him watching p*rn - think of it as him jacking off.

He has a very high libido, clearly. It's not uncommon to masturbate 2 or even 3 times within a few hours, having sex is just another way of getting off not that different from masturbation, no? So, you were asleep, and he was still reeling. So he got off. The fact that he looks at p*rn to get him off is ephemeral - would you react this way if he was looking at pictures of you?

[katiesmuff]

I wouldn't let it bother you all that much.

[KERMlT]

He has a high libido. If he rubbed one off right after sex then perhaps that would be an issue.

Perhaps he needs sex as much as some women need attention.

[arashmenalagha]

haha I have those on my ps3 too, but I remember to always clear it. maybe your sex wasn't that bomb ass to him, you just probably think you're that great or something, but in reality it's false.

don't worry a lot of girls like you think they're something their not. it's natural.

if it bothers you talk to him about it.

[nerdystars]

Um I guess you can't read, but I'm not the one who thought or said it was bomb ass sex, I stated clearly that is what he had told me in response to us having sex. Read before commenting and try letting your balls drop next time before you open your mouth K Thanks!.

[arashmenalagha]

tldr

[arashmenalagha]

I can't believe your angry, it makes me laugh lol

[nerdystars]

Not angry, pretty chill after smoking some dank ass weed, an sipping on some great tea, I just thought you should know in case you didn't, that I felt like your balls have dropped and that you seemed to immature for this conversation and just wanted to make sure you knew I was trying to have a ADULT conversation not a conversation knocking people down. Congrats your a troll.

[arashmenalagha]

lol it's hard for me to take you seriously xD

[arashmenalagha]

it's not possible anymore.

[nerdystars]

it's hard for me to believe people like you even exist, grow up.

[AdamThomas]

I don't think you need to worry too much about it, obviously you two have a decent sex life. I'm not sure why he'd watch p*rn afterward, maybe he's addicted. Many guys are addicted to masturbating to p*rn since they usually start off that way. I don't think it has anything to do with him not being attracted to you or anything like that. Just ask him about it and be honest about how you feel, just don't get mad and turn it into an arguement.

[NerdInDenial]

His sex drive is pretty high, and it has nothing to do with you. It takes a lot of work to make sure that your partner feels good during sex because it's a two person thing. With him masturbating by himself, he can be selfish and just focus on his needs and desires. It doesn't mean he thinks any less of you, it's just his alone time. It's similar to some couples who want some time a part.

[stockyboy]

will if he has a good time with you he shouldn't need the p*rn or he is looking for more sex

[nerdystars]

I have to say I feel the same way but from the sounds of some other people I'm guessing it's not that big of an issue. it sounds like I just need to talk to him about it and get his perspective about it, not guilt trip him or anything but just outta curiosity and comfort. Would that be bad?

[Anonymous]

He probably has a high sex drive and wants more than one orgasm a day. There are days I have 3 orgasms and most days I want at least two. Most girls don't want that much or can't be there every time I get horny so I watch p*rn and masturbate when I feel I have to. It doesn't mean the real sex isn't good, it's actually a lot better : )

[Anonymous]

Does he ever have trouble getting it up or getting off? How often does he have sex with you?

[nerdystars]

Nah, he never has any trouble and we have sex pretty much every few days, sometimes we wait a week or so just to make sex all the better.

[Opinion Owner]

Cool. Okay, then in that case he was probably so turned on by your sex, that he still had some gas in the tank for another round. If you'd like, next time just give him a few minutes to recover and then get him up for round two. Once you empty his balls he should be good to go.