I think my boyfriend wants me fat?

[Anonymous]

i think he might have a "fat fetish" but won't admit it. I am more on the chubby side, but not fat. he is athletic and muscular and nice. when we would be intimate I would be (an still am sometimes) very self conscious of my body and I don't understand why a guy like him would like a girl like me. and for a while I rejected him when he wanted to mess around. eventually I got over that a little. but I notice when we touch and kiss and stuff his hands always wander over my stomach a lot and and sometimes he squeezes it. when I does that it makes me embarrassed and I mumble or move his hand from my stomach and he's so into it I guess he doesn't notice I'm embarrassed about it. anyway now I know! he's trying something because he always always wants to take me out to eat, and always throws these little "contests" on who can eat the most, and spoon feeds me when we eat at home. when I asked him about that one he said feeding each other is sexy. i don't want to get fat and I'm not going to allow him to make me fat lol. sometimes I think I'm over-thinking it but other times I really think that this is his goal. the problem is I don't want to bring it up if I'm not a hundred percent sure he's doing this. lol it isn't a huge deal, I love my boyfriend. I just want to hear some opinions on what I should do. and do you think I'm right ?

[samhradh_ean]

It's difficult to say. The fact that he likes your curves and enjoys feeding you isn't necessarily an indication that he actually has a fetish. However, it's possible.My advice is to (obviously) just do what you're comfortable with. Have fun eating and messing around with him without feeling self conscious, but don't let him pressure you to eat more than you want to or to make unhealthy choices. If he makes an issue of it, then you'll have more to go on and you can explain to him that you don't feel comfortable gaining weight.

[katiesmuff]

Well it is certainly not uncommon for people to have strange fetishes and just maybe this is his.

[Levin]

I for one am disgusted reading this, especially given the increasing prevalence of diabetes and the associated complications. No laughing matter. Your boyfriend's primary concern should be your welfare and health, not some twisted titillation he derives from seeing you balloon. I definitely think you should bring this up, being all accusatory will put him on the defensive, so approach it in the right manner. Having said that, it sounds like he's doing as you describe, so don't you think it should be dealt with?

[Joshbgosh]

lol There are SOOO MANY girls that would love to be in your position right now, eat whatever the hell you want don't care about your figure lol. It sounds to me like he does want you to be "plump" lol. My cousin told me about the film "Phat Girlz" with a storyline like that. If he likes you to be bigger, then cool, I suppose, except for the fact that you could very well risk your health.

[ArrograntWarrior]

Run to kfc everyday

[samhradh_ean]

Why would you say this?