Would you still date a girl with HPV?

[Anonymous]

OK, so I've read that HPV is pretty common, like 80% of women who are sexually active in their 20s/30s will get it once in their lifetime. Many people right now don't even know they have it because both partners can be asymptomatic. Guys can't get tested for it therefore no guy knows he has it unless the girl tells him and girls can't tell when they got it because it can lay dormant for years. It can be contracted through skin/skin contact (like dry humping), not just sex. If a girl had HPV, would you still date her? Have sex with her? Should she still tell you before sex that she has it, even if its not active? Would you call her a slut for getting an STD even if she's only had one or 2 partners?

[Cryostatic]

HPV is relatively benign. It's an extremely low-risk virus for guys, and unless it's particularly high-risk type, most women never experience any sort of symptoms. Chances are, when speaking specifically about HPV, it wouldn't deter me from continuing to pursue a relationship if I was already serious about you.

I wouldn't call someone a slut for getting an STD. All it takes is for you to trust the wrong person, and have unprotected sex one time with that person, and you can have any STD in the book. However, while I wouldn't necessarily think LESS of you for having an STD, I probably wouldn't want to get involved with you.

And you'd ~damn well better tell me~ you have an STD before we have sex, otherwise you're potentially giving me a death sentence. If I choose to take that risk, then it's on me. But if you're not giving me the choice, then you've got my hatred at best, and a bullet in your head at worst.

[Asker]

Well, I'm talking about HPV as an STD. Would you still think of it as a death sentence? What about guys who react that way about it, are they just uninformed of its prevalence and ease of contractility? Would you hate her because now you can potentially give it to any future gfs or wife?

[Cryostatic]

Well, if you're ONLY talking about HPV, then reread my first paragraph.

[Asker]

That's what I thought, but what do you say to the guys that think of HPV as a deathsentence STD? Do you tell them to get educated or they have a right to be dramatic? I understand if you told the guy after sex, BC you kept it from him and he should have had the choice to get involved. So YOU, knowing that HpV for men is benign and lets say you dnt already have HPv, how would YOU react if a girl told you she had it after sleeping with you?

[Cryostatic]

IIRC, there's two types of HPV that are considered high-risk for cervical cancer, and more low-risk strains. While HPV is indeed benign for men, it won't necessarily be so for anyone I have sex with in the future, and so I'd have to explain what I've got and how I got it, and as you know, nobody wants to have to do that. If she told me after? Well, depends on whether she knew or not. If she just had a pap and found out, well, I can't blame her. But if I find out that she knew all along...

[MrOracle]

By college-age, at least 60% of people have HPV, and that number is only going to increase into your 30s and 40s. That sucks, but it's the reality. And having accepted that reality, there's really little chance that you're going to avoid HPV, because it can spread even with perfect condom use.

Understanding that, I wouldn't have a problem dating a girl with HPV, or having sex with her. What's the point?

At least there is a vaccine now, so maybe we can start to head it off for the future, but it's still so new that we've got a LONG way to go.

[Anonymous]

Who on earth is going to admit they have it? My husband gave it to me and I know for a fact because my ex never cheated on me. To this DAY he will deny it even though he slept with 5 NON virgins before me... Men have no test therefore they probably won't accept responsibility for it and women are too afraid to tell men because he will assume she's dirty.. Lots of people have STD's notice NO ONE is OPENLY admitting to them (not even me, but I'm married so oh well). There is nothing wrong with having HPV. I bet people will still down us for it tho. I got it from my 2nd partner! I've only had 2! Shit sucks but hey that just goes to show it can happen to anyone.

[Opinion Owner]

To add the people that won't date you because you have it UNLESS they are a VIRGIN they probably have it anyway... HPV lives on the skin which means a condom can't cover it. This is part of the reason why I don't understand the concept of "SAFE SEX" It baffles me. Why sleep with people you don't know and think it is even partially "SAFE"?

[Anonymous]

1- GUYS CAN GET HPV TESTED ! Who the hell told you guys couldn't o.O

2- That you are a virgin doesn't mean you can't get HPV. If there's any skin contact, between the vagina and the penis/scrotum , you can get HPV. You can get HPV even using a condom.

Honestly get your facts right.

[Asker]

Only recently may there be a test for men, but its not an approved test. The only approved test is for women and its not useful for men. And EVERYBODY says guys can't get tested. I didn't say that you couldn't get HPV as a virgin, I'm saying that you can. Please learn to read. And check out the CDC site for HPV and men, I'm sure you wouldn't dispute them, it was just updated a month ago. I can't post links yet but cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm is the just of the link.

[Opinion Owner]

Omg seroisy you need to go to a Doctor and get your fats right and stop using google.I'm a second year resident omw to become a obstetrician and had a family member whom had get her uterus extirpated due to HPV. Unlike you I don't use google to get my facts.There are no specific test for a men but a doctor can detect HPV on men. Usually diagnosed by visual inspection and may use a vinegar solution to help identify flat warts.Me should take the responsibility to go to the urologist as women to G

[Opinion Owner]

Stop talking like a doctor can tell if a men has HPV. Guys should go to Urologist and get STD tested and make sure they're healthy.

[Opinion Owner]

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[Mortalgod21hfzelvqr]

Well, you can also just be born with HPV.

I think it's a bit like the Eppstein bar virus from Pfeiffer.

Some 95% or something has it, but almost no one notices the effects from it.

So I'd probably not let it bother me...

Still, it'd be nicer if I knew the girl wouldn't have it.

And yea, I would never call my girl a slut, but I'm not saying I would never call any other a girl a slut.

[G_GTom]

Tough one. There is an increased risk for cancer with HPV.

[Izzy_21]

ya but other genetic factors still weigh more and it also increases the chance of cancer in men and unless your a virgin, there's a good chance you have it too

[Anonymous]

This is why I perfer to date virgins.

[Izzy_21]

you can also be born with it and most of the time it's totally harmless. As she said 80% of women get it (from what I know it's even close to 90%) and very few notice any effects. And you can get a shot is supposed to protect you from it.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't stop me from dating her, provided she was upfront about it and didn't try to hide it until after we'd had sex or whatever.

I would never call a girl a slut.

[Asker]

So you would still have sex with her knowing that you could probably get it because even condoms don't stop it? And that you could give it to any future gfs or wife? What �f she told you right after having sex? How mad would you be? Would you never be able to forgive her? Even �f neither of you ever have symptoms? Thx for your comments btw.

[Opinion Owner]

I can take my own assessment of the risks involved. But it has to be my choice. If she told me *after* we'd had sex, I honestly would not be held responsible for my actions. I would physically beat her senseless. I've said that sort of thing to *every* girl I've ever slept with, even the one night stands. I usually say it with a smile, but I'm deadly serious. If you have an STD and don't tell me, I'll batter you. They usually laugh because they don't think I'm serious. But I would.

[Asker]

I see, thanks.